What if parenting wasn’t about control—but connection? In this powerful episode of Born to Know, I sit down with Kirk Martin, founder of Celebrate Calm, who has helped over 1 million families across 20+ countries transform relationships with even the most strong-willed children. His work has brought peace to homes challenged by ADHD, anxiety, defiance, and explosive behavior—not by forcing change in kids, but by guiding parents back to themselves.

We explore why micromanagement blocks emotional maturity, how parental anxiety fuels disconnection, and why conventional milestones—like reading at age 4—are often arbitrary distractions from a child’s true development. Kirk offers tangible tools for letting go of control, building emotional safety, and raising kids who trust themselves.

If you’ve ever felt the pressure to “fix” your child, this conversation invites a shift: what if your child isn’t broken… and never was? Learn how curiosity, autonomy, and deep respect can replace punishment, pressure, and power struggles. This is for parents raising ADHD kids, spirited learners, and beautifully “different” children who don’t fit the mold—and never should.

Chapters:

(00:00:00) Introduction

(00:02:26) Redefining Parenting: Kirk Martin on Healing, Connection, and the End of Power Struggles

(00:07:26) The Mimicry Effect: Why Children Reflect the Behaviors They See in Parents

(00:09:00) Stop Micromanaging, Start Empowering: Kirk Martin’s Phrases That Build Confidence in Kids—and Calm in Parents

(00:14:29) Letting Go of Control: Practical Tools to Support Your Child Without Micromanaging

(00:18:30) Let Them Choose: Why Choices Help Kids Understand Themselves

(00:23:57) Freedom Doesn’t Breed Rebellion: How Respecting Your Child’s Choices Fosters Self-Awareness and Lifelong Authenticity

(00:28:21) The Power of Being 'Weird': Why Authentic, Strong-Willed Kids Grow Into Exceptional Adults

(00:32:00) Misunderstood in the Classroom: Why Strong-Willed Kids Resist Traditional Schooling—And Still Grow into Bold, Creative Leaders

(00:38:00) Raising Creative Kids: Why Boredom, Nature, and Peer Connection Matter More Than Constant Entertainment

(00:45:09) Teaching Trust, Not Obedience: The Hidden Costs of Conventional Schooling and the Power of Autonomy at Home

(00:50:15) How Parental Anxiety Shapes Children and Disrupts the Parent-Child Connection

(00:54:27) The Phrases that Shape Us: How Parental Words Resonate Into Adulthood and Impact Self-Worth

(01:00:05) Nurturing Curiosity: Why Focusing on Your Child’s Strengths Outshines Any Report Card

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