This time of the year it is natural time to try to integrate your past, present, and future. As always, though, it’s important to use these three-time frames in a way that fills you with confidence and excitement instead of stressing you out.

That’s why we all love and hate New Year’s resolutions: They fill us with resolve and determination, but if we don’t stick to their high ideals, they end up feeling like embarrassing failures.

The problem with resolutions is that they get the time frames all wrong:

They’re about trying to fix something from your past out in your future.

Because I really want to make it work for all of us this year, let’s try a different approach this year.