If you’ve ever felt tired of trying so hard and still coming up short on happiness—this one’s for you. 
In today’s episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on a tough but powerful truth: your life was never meant to be easy... but it was meant to be joyful.
We’ll talk about what joy really is, why diligence feels so exhausting sometimes, and how to stop chasing "happy" so you can start creating a life that feels bold, confident, and full of purpose.
Grab that diet coke, put in your ear buds and let’s talk friend to friend.
What’s next?
<ol>
<li>Book your Complimentary Consultation Call: https://www.sharonlamarcoaching.com/book-a-session</li>
<li>Follow the show and share this episode with all your single girlfriends.</li>
<li>Ask me anything! Email me at <a href='mailto:sharon@sharonlamarcoaching.com'>sharon@sharonlamarcoaching.com</a></li>
<li>Join our Facebook community at The Single Christian Woman! <a href='https://www.facebook.com/groups/797710822384649'>https://www.facebook.com/groups/797710822384649</a></li>
</ol>
Hope this episode inspires you or makes you think.

If you’ve ever felt tired of trying so hard and still coming up short on happiness—this one’s for you. In today’s episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on a tough but powerful truth: your life was never meant to be easy... but it was meant to be joyful. We’ll talk about what joy really is, why diligence feels so exhausting sometimes, and how to stop chasing "happy" so you can start creating a life that feels bold, confident, and full of purpose. Grab that diet coke, put in your ear buds and let’s talk friend to friend. What’s next? Book your Complimentary Consultation Call: https://www.sharonlamarcoaching.com/book-a-session Follow the show and share this episode with all your single girlfriends. Ask me anything! Email me at sharon@sharonlamarcoaching.com Join our Facebook community at The Single Christian Woman! https://www.facebook.com/groups/797710822384649 Hope this episode inspires you or makes you think.

If you’ve ever felt tired of trying so hard and still coming up short on happiness—this one’s for you. 
In today’s episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on a tough but powerful truth: your life was never meant to be easy... but it was meant to be joyful.
We’ll talk about what joy really is, why diligence feels so exhausting sometimes, and how to stop chasing "happy" so you can start creating a life that feels bold, confident, and full of purpose.
Grab that diet coke, put in your ear buds and let’s talk friend to friend.
What’s next?
<ol>
<li>Book your Complimentary Consultation Call: https://www.sharonlamarcoaching.com/book-a-session</li>
<li>Follow the show and share this episode with all your single girlfriends.</li>
<li>Ask me anything! Email me at <a href="mailto:sharon@sharonlamarcoaching.com" rel="noopener noreferrer">sharon@sharonlamarcoaching.com</a></li>
<li>Join our Facebook community at The Single Christian Woman! <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/797710822384649" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.facebook.com/groups/797710822384649</a></li>
</ol>
Hope this episode inspires you or makes you think.
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081. Why Happiness Isn't the Goal (and What to Aim for Instead)

You’re doing everything right—but still single.
You’ve prayed. Stayed faithful.  Attended BYU.
And yet… no husband. No temple sealing. No timeline that makes sense.
You sit in church surrounded by couples and families, wondering where you fit—and if you even matter.
You’ve heard the talks. You strive to keep the commandments. Tried to stay hopeful.
But deep down, you can’t shake the ache:
🌀 Did I miss my chance?
🌀 Am I broken—or worse, forgotten?
🌀 What does this mean for my exaltation… and about my worth?
If any of that sounds familiar, you’re not crazy. You’re not broken.  And you’re not alone.
Welcome to The Single LDS Woman—a podcast for women like you who are navigating the complicated, often painful reality of being single in a family-focused church.
In this podcast, you’ll find:
✨ Real talk for LDS singles
✨ Faith-based life coaching grounded in LDS doctrine
✨ Mindset tools that actually work (no toxic positivity here)
✨ Honest conversations about chastity, loneliness, worthiness, and eternal marriage
I’m Sharon Lamar—a certified life coach and faithful member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. I didn’t get married until I was 52.
I know the questions that keep you up at night.
I’ve lived the waiting, the wondering, and the quiet heartbreak.
But I also discovered something life-changing:
You can stop waiting to be happy and still be faithful.
You can build a life you love—even while hoping for something more.
And most of all, you can trust God and trust yourself again.
💡 In this podcast, I’ll teach you how—with proven faith-based tips and tools, self-coaching strategies, and a reminder of who you really are.
Whether you’re never married, divorced, widowed—or not even LDS but still feeling all of this—this podcast is for you.
Because this isn’t just about your relationship status.
It’s about reclaiming your self-confidence, living happy now even while wanting more, and remembering your worth.
So… grab your Diet Coke 😉, pop in your earbuds, and let’s talk.
Friend to friend. Sister to sister.
💌 Email me anytime: sharon@sharonlamarcoaching.com
🌐 Visit my website: sharonlamarcoaching.com

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You’re doing everything right—but still single. You’ve prayed. Stayed faithful. Attended BYU. And yet… no husband. No temple sealing. No timeline that makes sense. You sit in church surrounded by couples and families, wondering where you fit—and if you even matter. You’ve heard the talks. You strive to keep the commandments. Tried to stay hopeful. But deep down, you can’t shake the ache: 🌀 Did I miss my chance? 🌀 Am I broken—or worse, forgotten? 🌀 What does this mean for my exaltation… and about my worth? If any of that sounds familiar, you’re not crazy. You’re not broken. And you’re not alone. Welcome to The Single LDS Woman—a podcast for women like you who are navigating the complicated, often painful reality of being single in a family-focused church. In this podcast, you’ll find: ✨ Real talk for LDS singles ✨ Faith-based life coaching grounded in LDS doctrine ✨ Mindset tools that actually work (no toxic positivity here) ✨ Honest conversations about chastity, loneliness, worthiness, and eternal marriage I’m Sharon Lamar—a certified life coach and faithful member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. I didn’t get married until I was 52. I know the questions that keep you up at night. I’ve lived the waiting, the wondering, and the quiet heartbreak. But I also discovered something life-changing: You can stop waiting to be happy and still be faithful. You can build a life you love—even while hoping for something more. And most of all, you can trust God and trust yourself again. 💡 In this podcast, I’ll teach you how—with proven faith-based tips and tools, self-coaching strategies, and a reminder of who you really are. Whether you’re never married, divorced, widowed—or not even LDS but still feeling all of this—this podcast is for you. Because this isn’t just about your relationship status. It’s about reclaiming your self-confidence, living happy now even while wanting more, and remembering your worth. So… grab your Diet Coke 😉, pop in your earbuds, and let’s talk. Friend to friend. Sister to sister. 💌 Email me anytime: sharon@sharonlamarcoaching.com 🌐 Visit my website: sharonlamarcoaching.com

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