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Clay Groves is obsessed with fish and best known for a quest (with former host Dave Kellam) in 2011 to catch and eat every kind of freshwater fish in New Hampshire. After catching and eating 48 species of fish and ending the epic quest, he could not stop talking about the adventures or the fishy people met along the way. Thus, the podcast was born.  The style has been described as a cross between NPR’s Car Talk and the Tonight Show Night (Fallon, not Leno). The podcast is just about to have it's fifth birthday with the recording of the 200th episode scheduled for memorial day. The Fish Nerds have been featured on National Public Radio, Boston Public Radio, New Hampshire Public Radio and nearly every news outlet in New Hampshire. In addition Clay is a nationally recognized speaker who has spoken at the Virginia Aquarium and Marine Science Center, on stage at WGBH Boston and at the Boston Symphony. When Clay is not podcasting he writes grants to fund afterschool programming and runs a Fishing Guide Service.

I bring you this special 100th episode. It's how I used the art and process of podcasting to heal a recent wound.

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Alexander, The Podcaster's Coach

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I haven’t connected with a friend since Christmas. We were over-due to connect and I was heading toward his neighborhood one day. He always makes time to have a coffee for me. I’ve known him for 12-13 years.

I call him. His phone is out of service. It’s happened one time before. He has a crummy job and goes through these periods of no work. He lost his phone before, but managed to get it back. He called me when it happened. This time around, he did not give me a heads up. I waited for a week. Nothing.

Fed up of calling a phone number that was invalid, I went to his apartment. No luck. There was mail in his mailbox. I wrote a note and stuffed it in. What’s going on? Give me a call.

Another week, nothing.

I leave messages at the place where I think he works, but is not in the directory. I find out who the property owner of his building is and leave messages…..more like pleas. Do you have any info. Somebody feels sorry for me and calls me back. He moved a couple of weeks ago. So he hasn’t died. I am suppose to be his emergency contact. I am relieved, but I have no way to reach him. We had no mutual friends. He is a single city dweller and I am a family man in the sub-burbs.

Two weeks I worried, almost always assuming the worst. When I found out he moved, I was mad. Why isn’t he connecting with me. I have sent emails. He can check his email at the library. Why? What is wrong.

Then the pain set in. He loved his neighborhood. He had been living in his apartment for about 20 years. He’ll never afford his neighborhood now. He’s almost 60. He’s slower. He’s been having major allergy issues. Last time I visited, we walked to the coffee shop and he had to stop midway to catch his breath.

Where is he? Is he on the street? Is he sick? Did he lose his job? No one will hire him. He’s too old. How can he get by? He has no family. What’s happened? Why?

On and on this went inside my head. My body would follow feeling grief. I was in grieving over circumstances that I did not have information on. Grief became my meditation practice. I was totally fine when it was out of mind, but when it came back, I struggled. The grief sucked my energy and I was sad. Quite frankly, I was sick of myself. I wanted to get out of myself. I just wanted a break.

I have not touched booze in 3 months, but it was the only solution to escape myself. 4 beers and a movie. My children stayed away, without me even asking, and I had a few hours of forgetting.

But of course, I would pay for it. Even thought it was only 4 beers, it completely ruined my sleep. My body detests alcohol. It fights it. While I try to sleep, my body is going crazy working the alcohol out. It keeps me up. I wake up, not rested, and therefore unproductive. Thank god for Sundays.

My focused moved from my lost friend to my stupidity.

When Monday came around, I began to realize that I was grieving over fiction. I had created various negative situations regarding my lost friend. I knew 2 things only - his phone number does not work and he moved. I know nothing else.

I formed these attachments. I became attached to the melancholy. I became attached to grief. I became especially attached to myself - how dare he not call me? Am I not his friend?! Then I became attached to an old coping mechanism, beer, that I knew stopped working. It’s no good, if the end result is bad. The end result being a full day of being tired and not well rested, not to mention being harmful to this vehicle called my body.

Let me tell you something about this experience, and I want you to think about it. Do you do this too? I grieved over fantasy. I went with worse case scenario and experienced a roller...

Boss it on Social Media

Ian Farrar joins me today with some great insights on social media.

Some highlights include:

- Don't just sell

- 3 X 30 minute sessions

- Meaningful content

- Boss one platform

- The slow burn

- a hack for algorithms

- AND Ian't top 5 tips

Check Ian out at http://industryangel.com/

Listen at https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/industry-angel-business-podcast/id1081088439?mt=2

My special guest today is Ian Farrar of the industry Angel Business Podcast.

http://industryangel.com/

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I was recently a guest on Life Transformation Radio with Sean Douglas talking about my journey as the Podcaster’s Coach and the recently released, Book on Podcasting. It was a lot of fun and I really appreciated the opportunity.

There were several things that came up during the interview that I would like to expand on today. The book I wrote is about how the process of podcasting and podcast creation can change a person’s life. Regardless to say, I am a huge advocate for people to start their podcast…..today! Right away! Don’t delay if you haven’t already.

Today I present a podcast on 3 ways podcasts can improve your life.

On the second part of this podcast, I am joined by Mr Ian Farrar of the Industry Angel Business Podcast. He’ll join me for a Micro Podcast Improv. @Industry_Angel @Ian_Farrar

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@podcasterscoach

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Alexander Laurin, The Podcaster's Coach & Lorraine White

https://www.lifestrategist.co.uk/lorraine-akalya-whyte/

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Keep in mind these things to combat feels of perfectism -

 Remember something in the past that you took on and compare yourself from day 1 to day 60

 Embrace your imperfection. Listen to the imperfection of others. Listen to podcast #1 from your favorite podcaster.

 Tell yourself that it is ok that you are not perfect

 When you see perfection in social media, remember that this can be a snap shot in someone elses life. You don’t even know that its real.

 Cut yourself some slack. Love yourself. Don’t beat yourself up

 And create a range from 1 to 10. Put someone at 1 and anther at 10. Where are you? Practice will move you up.

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Lorraine Whyte from the Unlock Your Soul Podcast joins me in the second half for a Micro Podcast Improv. You can hear our full interview this coming Friday.

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Special Guest: Cory Johnston of the Brainstorm Podcast.

If you want to be someone new or re-invent yourself, then you have to just do it. You have to start somewhere. You start being who you want to be on day one, and you build your experience up. It’s going to be hard, and you will meet opposition, but you have to persevere. You must not allow negativity from strangers get you down. They are strangers and not a meaningful part of your life. Of course, if I was approach by a stranger with courteous feedback and valid points, that would be meaningful. If it is something other than that, brush it off.

This episode is about a strategy on dealing with criticism which appears negative and unhelpful.

Cory Johnston from The Brainstorm Podcast joins me for a Micro Podcast Improv. I’ll share a short interview that we did together this coming Friday.

Have a great week!

Alexander

http://podcasterscoach.com