This Empty Nest Life

110. Fear Whispers, Love Shouts: Reclaiming Your Purpose After 40


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Are you feeling trapped in your empty nest years but can't quite understand why? That paradox of being busy yet unfulfilled, with success feeling just out of reach, is more common than you think—especially among men who struggle to verbalize these emotions. 

In this powerful episode, John Mylant unpacks the deeper reasons behind these feelings and offers a transformative perspective on how to move forward. He explores the ongoing battle between our subconscious fear—our primal self-preservation instinct—and love, which requires conscious effort and fuels growth. At the core of this struggle is the inner critic—a relentless voice telling us we’re not enough, won’t succeed, or shouldn’t try. When we listen to this inner dialogue, we trap ourselves in cycles of self-doubt, indecision, and inconsistency, making real progress impossible.

The key insight? Everything we desire is already within us—"just a decision away."

Highlights & Key Takeaways:

  • Feeling stuck often stems from disconnecting what we do from what we truly want inside.
  • The inner critic fuels self-doubt, leading to indecision and inconsistent action.
  • Living in the present, with honesty and self-awareness, provides clarity and direction.
  • True answers emerge when you stop forcing and start questioning.
  • The inner critic will never disappear completely—learning to turn it into a barely audible whisper is the key to growth.

John Mylant Bio
Based in Colorado Springs, CO, John specializes in working with men who feel the pressure to succeed but are secretly battling self-sabotage, fear of success, and the weight of playing small. These are men who lead their families, businesses, and communities—but quietly struggle to lead themselves.

Having lived this journey himself, John knows what it feels like to have potential burning inside you while being stuck in hesitation and insecurity. After overcoming his own internal war with fear, doubt, and a scarcity mindset, he dedicated his life to helping other men break free—without sacrificing family, faith, or financial stability.

Find John Online: Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn

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