"Getting off on every stroke" is a skill of turning unpleasant experiences into enjoyable ones. On the one hand it's a nice metaphor for alchemizing suffering. On the other hand it's a literal physical skill.

Carolyn Elliott described it in her book Existential Kink and discussed in our 2020 interview. Some people asked if I could break it down, so here it is.

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