Ever notice how fast “YES” leaves your mouth while your body whispers No!? 

We go deep into the real mechanics of yes and no. Some reasons why we say them. How they land in the body, and what it costs when we ignore the truth to keep the peace. From the short-term comfort of people-pleasing to the slow creep of resentment and burnout, we map the terrain so you can feel the difference between a clean answer and a automatic response.

We share personal edges and self practiced tools for holding boundaries without drama, including simple scripts, partial yes options, and a quick after-action audit that strengthens self-trust. 

We unpack two common traps: saying yes when you mean no to avoid conflict, and saying no when you mean yes to dodge vulnerability and growth. You’ll hear the subtle body cues of alignment, the calendar clues of misalignment, and why it’s often more fruitful to try and fail than to shrink and stall.

We also bring in human design as a practical lens for decision-making. If you’re sacral, that gut response is gold, clear and fast when you don’t override it to be polite. If you’re emotional authority, clarity arrives over time; riding the wave and acting when the answer lands is the move. And then there's splenic, where it could change very quickly.  Not into human design? Take what works and leave the rest. Knowing how your clarity shows up is the practice. Protect the space that lets you hear it, and claim your answer with one concrete step the moment it arrives.

Holiday season or not, this is an everyday practice. This episode will help you explore the energy beneath a true yes and true no, the short-term benefits of misalignment, and the long-term costs to self-trust, time, and intimacy. Here are the rapid fire episode bullet points:

• benefits and costs of false yes and false no
• people pleasing as self-abandonment
• resentment, calendar overload, and body signals
• vulnerability of a true yes and choosing growth
• small experiments to rebuild self-trust
• holiday invitations and partial yes strategies
• sacral/emotional authority/splenic decision-making
• claiming clarity with immediate action
• post-commitment self-audit for patterns

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