Acclaimed author Joseph Earl Thomas spent much of his childhood watching everyone around him, trying to figure out where he belonged. He grew up attending public school in Philadelphia and constantly scanned the classrooms and hallways to avoid being beaten up by bigger, stronger boys. And throughout his adolescence Thomas was always trying to figure out what a man is and what a man isn't. Then he realized that he shouldn't even bother with those expectations.

On this episode of Paternal, Thomas recounts what life was like growing in the Philadelphia neighborhood of Frankford, what he learned about violence and vulnerability from his grandfather, his own anxieties as a parent to four kids, and why he's reluctant to say his life story fits "the hero-story narrative thing" of Black kids finding success in America. Thomas is the author of the 2023 memoir Sink, which was dubbed "an extraordinary memoir of Black American boyhood" by the New York Times.

Thomas' memoir Sink and his 2024 novel God Bless You, Otis Spunkmeyer are available wherever you buy books.