This Empty Nest Life

127. Breaking The Bullshit Box: Identity, Triggers, And Life After Kids


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When the house goes quiet and everyone expects you to feel "free," but your heart says otherwise, it's time to confront the stories that keep empty nesters feeling stuck. In this transformative episode, attorney and master NLP coach Amber Fuhriman joins us to dismantle the guilt, shame, and belief that our worth lies in being needed. Instead, we’ll explore practical tools to change your daily experience and embrace a fulfilling life.

Amber shares her own journey, detailing the mindset that led her to outward success while grappling with internal panic. We delve into how compartmentalizing pain can create “gremlins” that shape our thoughts and behaviors, and why opening that emotional box is the safest path to healing and identity reconstruction as parenting shifts.

We also discuss the importance of connection without codependency as we navigate relationships with friends and partners. By learning to ask for help, extending small invitations, and letting go of self-punishing narratives, you can deepen your bonds and foster a supportive community. 

Highlights & Key Takeaways:

  • Identify and challenge the “bullshit box” that keeps you compartmentalizing emotions.
  • Address the identity loss that occurs when parenting roles fade.
  • Understand the “I’m fine” mask that conceals shame and grief.
  • Learn to respect your adult children’s choices while focusing on your reactions.
  • Understand the importance of creating boundaries around your triggers.

Amber Fuhriman's Bio
Recovering Perfectionist and Serial Accomplisher helping professionals design their best life and have the courage to live it. Attorney, author, podcaster, speaker, success architect, NLP Master Coach, NLP Certified Trainer.  Author of the book Break Your Bullsh*t Box where she discusses the excuses we have relied on to justify holding ourselves back and how to break the bullshit box those excuses live in.

Find Amber Online: LinkedIn, Instagram, Facebook, Website

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