I’ve spent my life as a pastor and counselor, helping men find strength, clarity, and purpose. In this episode, I kick off a game-changing series focused on addiction—whether it’s alcohol, porn, overeating, or prescription meds. I get raw about my own 14-year struggle with masturbation, porn, and medications like clonazepam—and how I learned that real freedom isn’t about willpower, it’s about rewiring our lives around connection.

We dive into pivotal research, like the Rat Park experiment, which shows addiction thrives in isolation—not substance. When rats are connected and nurtured, addiction evaporates. That truth hits hard because most of us men were raised without proper emotional connection. We were wired for chaos, trauma, and triggers—so we medicate. But medication without connection falls short.

I unpack the 4 pillars of deep relationship—courage, authenticity, compassion, vulnerability—borrowing from Brené Brown and my own journey. These aren’t personality traits, they’re strategies. A life rebuilt on these principles isn’t just free from addiction—it’s alive, present, wired for purpose. Stick around—I’ll show how to reclaim your story, feel worthy of love, and build bonds that empower real healing.

00:00 - Intro & Purpose: Why this addiction series matters
00:35 - Personal Stakes: My lifelong struggle with addiction
01:59 - My Story: From masturbation and porn to medication dependency
04:14 - Defining Addiction: “Giving up what you want for what you don’t want”
06:12 - Signs We Are All Addicts: Driven, desperate, but often unaware
07:36 - Addiction is a Symptom: Trading one compulsion for another
09:36 - Rat Park Experiment: Community vs. isolation
12:07 - The Real Opposite of Addiction: Connection over sobriety
15:07 - Childhood Wiring: Why we feel unsafe, unseen, unheard
22:04 - Two Essential Connections: Deep bonds and tribe belonging
25:21 - The 4 Pillars of Connection
39:05 - The Path to Crushing Addiction

ABOUT BRAVECO
We live in a time where men are hunting for the truth and looking for the codebook to manhood. At BraveCo, we are on a mission to heal the narrative of masculinity across a generation; fighting the good fight together because every man should feel confident and capable of facing his pain, loving deeply, and leading a life that impacts the world around him.