October 20, 2022

180. Healing, Hope and Mothering Babies in Heaven After a Twin Loss (twin to twin transfusion) & Premature Loss (Incompetent Cervix) with Nickesha Dillon

47 minutes

This week on the podcast I am interviewing Nikesha Dillon. A mama to 3 precious sons in heaven. Listen in as she shares her story of motherhood – her sons Liam & Legend, identical twins who passed from twin-to-twin transfusion at 20 weeks’ gestation, and Louie, born at 24wks and 5 days as a result of cervical incompetence. Louie lived, fought and brought so much joy and laughter for 13 days in the NICU before passing from complications associated with prematurity.

Nickesha shares with us what it means to be a mother with empty arms, how she celebrates, honors and remembers her sons, the challenges she faced in her journey and how she navigated those challenges. She shares how she found healing and how she educated herself and advocated for herself and her future children regarding her cervical incompetence – if you are navigating any kind of medical concern in your journey, her wisdom on this is really helpful. Nickesha also shares what it has been like to lovingly help others understand that she IS a mother.

No matter what your story of loss is – Nickesha’s story, and the hope and joy she brings in this episode, is sure to bring your joy and hope to you today.

QUESTIONS WE DISCUSS IN NO. 180

What has been the most challenging aspect of this journey? What has been helpful to you as you navigated those challenges?
What has healing looked like for you in this season? What practical steps did you take to cope and pursue healing after your losses?
What about physical healing – after losing Louie, you began looking into Cervical Incompetence a little more indepth, what has that looked like for you? What advice would you give to a woman in a similar situation?
What are practical ways you mother your sons in heaven? What does motherhood practically look like for you now?
What has it looked like to remember and honor Liam, Legend & Louie’s life?
How do you answer the question: How many children do you have? Or Do you have any children?
You told me it was important to you to help others understand what loss motherhood means – tell me more about that.
What do you wish others knew and understood about loss, grief and finding healing?
If you could give someone who loves a grieving mom, one piece of advice – what would it be?

FOR YOUR SPECIAL DAYS (BIRTHDAYS, DUE DATES, ANNIVERSARIES & MORE)

“We honor their memories. We celebrate the milestones.” -Nickesha

If you have ever wondered:

How to make it through those big, sweet, and hard days
What you can do to make those days special
If anyone else feels the way you do
How to find tangible ways to mother your baby in your heaven
Where the beautiful keepsakes are for you and your baby, because your motherhood doesn’t fit the “typical” narrative

Then you’re going to love our brand new Birthday Journal, Special Days Journal and Milestones Workshop! Click here to get a peek at our new journals – created specifically for birthdays, due dates, anniversaries when you have a baby in heaven.

The Milestones Workshop – honest, encouraging, and practical content for you as you face birthdays, due dates, anniversaries of death, diagnosis days, or any milestone that is meaningful to you in an easy to digest audio recording.

Check out both of those brand new resources to help your special days feel a little less heavy: themorning.com/specialdays.

FREE ONLINE SUPPORT COMMUNITYA place away from social media where you can find support and care from women who are just like you. Women navigating the day to day ups and downs of grief. A place where you can feel not alone in this. Come join us: themorning.com/community

FREE GUIDE: IF YOU LOVE A GRIEVING MOMAnd if you love a grieving mom, we have something for you too, a free guide with simple tips for how to love a grieving friend: themorning.com/friendsandfamily.

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