I think we've been asking ourselves the wrong questions. We waste an awful lot of time asking and wondering: Do I look ok? Does my hair look alright? Am I wearing enough makeup? Or too much? Does my body look ok? Does it tell the 'right' story? Am I doing this right? When really, I think, what we've been trying to ask along is: Am I relevant? Do I matter? Does anyone see me? Am I lovable? I wonder if we start to ask a different question if we'll finally be able to give ourselves a different answer.