The Confidence Project Podcast

You'd never call me a people pleaser. I have boundaries up to my ears. I don't get FOMO. I love saying no.

And I'm still a covert people pleaser. I just couldn't see it until motherhood took away the margin that was hiding it.

With less time and less energy, I started noticing how often I accommodate everyone else before myself. Not in the obvious ways- I'd caught all of those years ago. In the quiet ones. The ones that only show up when you no longer have the surplus to absorb them.

This episode is about what scarcity reveals, why having boundaries doesn't mean you've stopped abandoning yourself, and how I'm learning that putting myself first isn't indulgent- it's maintenance on the one machine the whole house runs on. How my day goes decides whether I can be a patient, present mother. So my day is not optional.

Here's the part I can't stop thinking about: having boundaries isn't the same as being on your own side. I learned the difference the year I ran out of room to hide it. ______________

If you're a woman running a business and this one hit a nerve, if you've got great boundaries and you're still over-delivering, under-charging, and quietly saying yes in the back room0 that's not a discipline problem. It's the covert version, and it's exactly the kind of thing we find and untangle in an Untangle Session.

You are the sum of the 5 people you spend the most time with. But, are you really? Jenna Jozefowski is back for another guest epsiode where we talk about our thoughts on this sentiment.

You can find Jenna: On IG On her website On her podcast, Tough Cookie Talks

Do you notice that you have certain times of the month where you're confident, have energy and capacity for work and life and raising your kids and dealing with everything that needs to be done and other times of the month you literally just cannot handle any of it? Same. That's what we're covering on today's episode. This is not a cycle syncing episode, but rather an educational episode about how our menstrual cycles are actually a superpower and how to harness that power to more strategically approach your life.

We talk about:

• How your period is a super power even if women and our bodies get nearly none of the funding that men's bodies do
• Follicular phase vs luteal phase- super basic overview
• What each phase of your cycle typically includes in terms of energy, capacity, and focus
• Some ideas on how to approach your personal life, fitness, and business once you're aware of your cycle

This episode is spicy, honest, raw, education, and fun! Pull up a seat, definitely grab headphones for this one and let's hangout!

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Not Your Mother's Menopause MOM TALK: Daily Planners A Smarter Way to Plan Your Year

Jenna Jozefowski is back with the most random and fun crossover we've done in awhile! Grab a coffee, pull up a seat, and let's talk about the silly and deep things that have been the subject of our 17 minute voice notes all summer long!

On this episode we talk about:

• Our own explorations of personal style and what makes us feel hot.
• How alone time gives us time to recharge & reconnect with ourselves.
• Why we LOVE voice messaging our friends.
• The ways we each set boundaries around our phone notifications & understanding other people's response styles.
• Black cat & golden retrievers in relationships & friendships (can you guess which ones we are?)
• Realizations we've had as we've made our own career shifts.
• How we feel about aging + our various roles in our lives.
• Some very deep thoughts around loss, relationships, self-worth, and external validation.
• Some very random thoughts about traffic and chin hairs.
• So many other good things!

Last episode I told you your business might be quietly eating your life. This week, the uncomfortable part: the reason it's happening is probably you.

If you're the founder everything runs through- the one who closes up, does the programming, answers every email, handles the payments, and can't take a real day off without the whole thing wobbling- I need you to hear this: being indispensable is not a badge. It's a bottleneck. And you built it yourself.

In this episode, I get into why being the bottleneck doesn't feel like a problem (it feels like being needed), the real reason you won't let go, which is never actually "no one can do it as well as me" - and the small, almost embarrassingly un-dramatic first move to start loosening your grip. This isn't a delegation-tips episode. It's a get-out-of-your-own-way episode. Because the systems were never the problem. The grip is and the grip has a reason.

In this episode:

• Why being the bottleneck disguises itself as dedication
• The three real reasons you won't let go: identity, control, and worth
• "Your business can't grow past what you're personally willing to hold" — why you're the ceiling
• Why becoming less necessary is the most powerful thing you can do
• The one small first step to start handing things off without the sky falling

A few lines from this one:

• "Being indispensable is not a badge. It's a bottleneck. And you're it."
• "As long as everything runs through you, you ARE the ceiling."
• "Delegating isn't losing control. It's trading busy for free."
• "Become unnecessary so you can finally go live."

We were all sold the same lie: that the business is the goal, and your life is the stuff you squeeze into the cracks once you've "earned" it. Grow it, scale it, hit the next number — and never once stop to ask the only question that matters: for what?

In this episode, I'm making the case that we've got it completely backwards. Your business was never supposed to be the destination. It was supposed to be the engine — the thing that funds and enables a life. And the moment it starts eating your life instead of funding it, it has failed at its one real job, no matter how much money it's making.

I get into why so many of us left a 9-to-5 only to build ourselves a 24/7 with the worst boss we've ever had (spoiler: it's us), what actually became possible in my life once I stopped being the center of my business, and the one question to ask yourself if your work has quietly taken over your whole identity.

In this episode:

• The lie the business-coaching world keeps selling — and the question nobody asks
• Why a business making great money can still be a failing business
• How "freedom" turns into a job you can never quit
• What my life looks like now that my business funds it instead of eating it
• The better question to ask than "how do I grow this?"

A few lines from this one:

• "Your business was never the destination. It was the engine."
• "A business that's making great money and taking your whole life is not a successful business. It's a failing one."
• "You didn't quit having a boss. You became one."
• "The goal was never a bigger business. It was a bigger life."

After my annual summer hiatus, we're back! In today's episode, I talk about:

• surrendering to motherhood and how it's helped me
• why my daughter and I are almost always barefoot
• why you should never wear Hokas (+ my conspiracy theory about them)
• how I'm teaching my kid to eat
• wrapping up my running season
• transitioning into winter lifting
• the winter scaries return

Amanda and Christina are back to talk all things Mom life.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Building a village and grieving the one you thought you'd have
• Dealing with our aging parents and their weird health/doctor quirks
• Secret Lives of Mormon Wives!
  • What they don't show, like getting ready and filming. Who is helping them do that?
  • TFP's adoption story and mother issues
  • The weight loss conversation/GLP-1 issues shown in SLOMW
  • The insane reality that some of these women have 4 children before they're 30. HOW!? WHY!?

After an unplanned hiatus, we are back! In this episode, we do a life catch up and then I talk about GLP-1s out in the wild. I talk about:

• Why I love Mack more than ever before
• How I celebrated both myself and my daughter for our 1st BIRTH-day
• A few details about my traumatic birth
• Hiking with a 20+ lb baby on your back
• Things I love that we did for the friends & family birthday party
• Building my daughter's college fund
• Social events and how pervasive GLP-1s are
• Body image thoughts since having a baby
• Why I maintain my stance on intentional weight loss & caution against weight loss medication

Hannah and Christina are back to discuss:

• Hannah's birthday celebration!
• How late people stay our during the week (??)
• The recent moon orbit
• How we save for big home projects and trips
• A farewell... for now :(