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264. How to Be a Dementia Caregiver When You Don’t Feel Ready (or Qualified)
Beth is a pastor’s wife who never planned to be a dementia caregiver. Her father died in January; her 75-year-old mother could no longer live alone. In today’s episode, Beth admits:
“I’ve moved into my bedroom and she’s moved into the house.”
Shadowing, constant haggling, endless “Where’s my bank card?”—Beth is overwhelmed. So I invite her to pause and answer the question I ask every guest:
“Let’s imagine it’s six months from today and your caregiving journey feels easier. What does easier actually look like for you?”
Beth answers, “Having found a way to keep her contented in life… and a little more quiet time.”
That statement becomes her first purposeful decision—an act of stewardship, not survival.
Three Anchors from this episode:
1) Commit on purpose. Caregiving starts with saying yes to God’s providence, not white-knuckling the chaos.
2) Use Therapeutic Truth-Telling™. I coach Beth to respond cheerfully—even to the 17th repeat—because validation lowers Mom’s anxiety and builds security.
3) Reframe shadowing. We picture toddlers’ fingers under the bathroom door: Mom’s constant presence isn’t disrespect; it’s her seeking safety.
Beth’s next faithful step? Practice the “That’s interesting—tell me more” script from the Contented Caregiver Blueprint™ and remember: brain changes make her mom child-like, not childish.
If you feel unqualified, Episode 264 proves that caregiving clarity starts with a single decision rooted in God’s steady design.
🎧 Listen now and register for our free July 12 workshop at thinkdifferentdementia.com/WSL
💬 Struggling for words with a loved one who has dementia?
✝️ Speak calm, not chaos.
Grab “What Do I Say?”—a free Christian guide with:
✅ 10 ready-to-use scripts
✅ Scripture support
✅ Therapeutic Truth-Telling™ tips
📥 Download: https://www.dementiacaregivingmadeeasy.com/script
🤝 You Don’t Have to Do This Alone
Join other Christian caregivers who are walking this road too — and learning how to care with compassion, clarity, and faith.
👥 Join the free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dementiacaregiversupportforchristians
🗣️ Ask Your Question Live — and Be Heard
Bring your real-life caregiving questions to Ask the Dementia Coach — our free monthly Q&A session. You’ll get support, clarity, and maybe even be featured on the podcast.
🗓️ Brought to you every month!
🎤 Register here: https://www.thinkdifferentdementia.com/ask
🎓 Want to Reduce Overwhelm Right Now?
Join our free workshop:
How to Immediately Reduce Dementia Caregiver Overwhelm and Stress — in 3 Simple Steps
✅ Practical tools
✅ Faith-informed strategies
✅ Same-day results
🎟️ Reserve your seat: https://www.thinkdifferentdementia.com/wsl
🧭 Still Feeling Stuck?
If you’re wondering what’s underneath your stress, the Caregiver Stress Assessment can help clarify what’s really weighing you down — so you can take your next step with peace.
📊 Take the free assessment: https://www.thinkdifferentdementia.com/dca
❤️ Enjoy This Podcast?
Leave a quick review on Apple or Spotify — it helps other Christian caregivers find encouragement and real help.
🎧 Leave a review on Apple Podcasts
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By Lizette Cloete, Christian Dementia Coach
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7575 ratings
Beth is a pastor’s wife who never planned to be a dementia caregiver. Her father died in January; her 75-year-old mother could no longer live alone. In today’s episode, Beth admits:
“I’ve moved into my bedroom and she’s moved into the house.”
Shadowing, constant haggling, endless “Where’s my bank card?”—Beth is overwhelmed. So I invite her to pause and answer the question I ask every guest:
“Let’s imagine it’s six months from today and your caregiving journey feels easier. What does easier actually look like for you?”
Beth answers, “Having found a way to keep her contented in life… and a little more quiet time.”
That statement becomes her first purposeful decision—an act of stewardship, not survival.
Three Anchors from this episode:
1) Commit on purpose. Caregiving starts with saying yes to God’s providence, not white-knuckling the chaos.
2) Use Therapeutic Truth-Telling™. I coach Beth to respond cheerfully—even to the 17th repeat—because validation lowers Mom’s anxiety and builds security.
3) Reframe shadowing. We picture toddlers’ fingers under the bathroom door: Mom’s constant presence isn’t disrespect; it’s her seeking safety.
Beth’s next faithful step? Practice the “That’s interesting—tell me more” script from the Contented Caregiver Blueprint™ and remember: brain changes make her mom child-like, not childish.
If you feel unqualified, Episode 264 proves that caregiving clarity starts with a single decision rooted in God’s steady design.
🎧 Listen now and register for our free July 12 workshop at thinkdifferentdementia.com/WSL
💬 Struggling for words with a loved one who has dementia?
✝️ Speak calm, not chaos.
Grab “What Do I Say?”—a free Christian guide with:
✅ 10 ready-to-use scripts
✅ Scripture support
✅ Therapeutic Truth-Telling™ tips
📥 Download: https://www.dementiacaregivingmadeeasy.com/script
🤝 You Don’t Have to Do This Alone
Join other Christian caregivers who are walking this road too — and learning how to care with compassion, clarity, and faith.
👥 Join the free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dementiacaregiversupportforchristians
🗣️ Ask Your Question Live — and Be Heard
Bring your real-life caregiving questions to Ask the Dementia Coach — our free monthly Q&A session. You’ll get support, clarity, and maybe even be featured on the podcast.
🗓️ Brought to you every month!
🎤 Register here: https://www.thinkdifferentdementia.com/ask
🎓 Want to Reduce Overwhelm Right Now?
Join our free workshop:
How to Immediately Reduce Dementia Caregiver Overwhelm and Stress — in 3 Simple Steps
✅ Practical tools
✅ Faith-informed strategies
✅ Same-day results
🎟️ Reserve your seat: https://www.thinkdifferentdementia.com/wsl
🧭 Still Feeling Stuck?
If you’re wondering what’s underneath your stress, the Caregiver Stress Assessment can help clarify what’s really weighing you down — so you can take your next step with peace.
📊 Take the free assessment: https://www.thinkdifferentdementia.com/dca
❤️ Enjoy This Podcast?
Leave a quick review on Apple or Spotify — it helps other Christian caregivers find encouragement and real help.
🎧 Leave a review on Apple Podcasts
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