Love Each Other Better

28: You’re Upset—Now What? How to Talk About It Without Making Things Worse


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We all experience moments of hurt, frustration, or disappointment in relationship—but how do we address them without making things worse? 

How can you talk about the things that bother you in a way that doesn’t escalate the conflict or further damage the connection?

In this episode, we’ll explore the critical difference between intent and impact and why both matter. Most of the time, your partner is probably not trying to hurt you—they’re trying to meet a need. But when the impact of their actions does hurt, that still really matters. 

When you can talk about both the intent behind their actions AND the impact it had on you, you open up the possibility of not only deepening your understanding and strengthening your bond, but also finding solutions to the challenges in your relationship that genuinely work for both of you. 

Tune in to episode 28 for actionable advice that will help you approach those painful moments with clarity, curiosity, and the tools you need to build a stronger + realer relationship, together.

Your love story isn’t broken—it’s just waiting for a deeper, more compassionate conversation.

 

Resources mentioned in the show

Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In: https://www.AliMillerCoaching.com/freeminicourse

Get my free feelings and needs lists: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds

Apply to join us for the Love Each Other Better: Group Coaching Program for Couples at https://www.alimillercoaching.com/groupprogram

Apply for Stop Fighting! Private Coaching Program for Couples at https://www.alimillercoaching.com/stopfighting

Book a free consultation call with Ali: https://www.calendly.com/alimillercoaching/45

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