In this episode of The Boonie Breakdown, Boonie welcomes back friend of the podcast Ashley Cobb, who returns not just as a guest—but as a newly published author. The two dive into Ashley's debut book, Pleasure Please: The Black Woman's Guide to Unapologetic Pleasure and Confidence, and the journey that took her from podcast host to author.

The book's creative structure is built around the alphabet, with each letter representing a theme that invites readers to explore pleasure, confidence, relationships, and self-discovery in a way that allows them to jump around and engage with the content at their own pace.

A major part of the conversation centers around reclaiming pleasure and redefining the often-misunderstood concept of a "hoe phase." Ashley reframes it not as reckless behavior, but as a period of intentional self-exploration—one where women can learn their desires, establish boundaries, and build confidence in their sexuality.

Later in the episode, the conversation turns to sex, relationships, and responsibility. Ashley discusses her experiences with PrEP as a preventative measure for HIV and highlights the importance of having honest conversations about sexual health—particularly in cities with higher HIV rates like Atlanta. The two also explore ethical non-monogamy, communication in relationships, and how setting clear boundaries is essential for healthy partnerships.

This episode is an honest, empowering, and thought-provoking conversation about pleasure, confidence, sexual autonomy, and embracing your desires without apology.

We get into:

📚 Ashley Cobb's journey from podcast host to published author 🔥 Redefining the "hoe phase" as intentional self-exploration 💋 Pleasure, confidence, and sexual autonomy for Black women 🩺 Sexual health, PrEP, and responsible sexual freedom 💬 Ethical non-monogamy, boundaries, and communication in relationships

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https://www.sexwithashley.com/ 📲 Instagram: (@sexwithashley)

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Chapters 0:13 Welcome Back, Ashley Cobb 5:24 Boonie's Pick of the Week 5:24 Housekeeping Updates 5:38 Transition to Author Life 7:37 Writing Process Insights 11:40 The Whole Phase Explained 14:21 Navigating Dating Apps 17:27 Understanding Non-Traditional Relationships 20:22 The Complexity of Polyamory 23:30 Trust and Boundaries 28:25 The Importance of Safe Sex 35:53 The Power of Masturbation 41:35 Quickfire Breakdown 42:18 Book Promotion and Socials