Crissle’s Couch

Please welcome Jade back to the Couch! This week, Crissle and Jade dive into complicated family dynamics, abusive relationships, controlling parents, and navigating life after a 20-year relationship.

They offer advice on setting boundaries, protecting the people you love, and figuring out what to do when relationships get complicated.

Want to talk to Crissle? Email [email protected] and include “chat live” in the subject line.

0:00 — Welcome Back to the Couch
1:08 — My Aunt Won’t Leave Her Abusive Ex
11:11 — How Can I Protect My Sister From Our Controlling Dad
25:12 — My Mom Is Making Bad Health Decisions
40:58 — I’m Single Again & Black Men Aren’t Taking Me Seriously

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Crew:
Executive Producers: Crissle · Alexandra Rago · Chris Morrow
Audio & Video Editor: Shatek for Beats on Film
Production Coordinators: Faith Lena & Bria Mosley

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This week on the Couch, Crissle gets into the messy realities of friendship, family, and healing. She explores what to do when your friends let you down, how to support someone whose relationship has become controlling, and what it means when a friendship starts to fall apart.

She also talks through the unexpected ways EMDR therapy can bring buried emotions, memories, and physical reactions to the surface. Across each conversation, Crissle helps callers sit with the uncomfortable parts, make sense of what’s happening, and figure out what to do when the people and relationships they love aren’t showing up the way they hoped.

Want to talk to Crissle? Email [email protected] and include “chat live” in the subject line.

Session Notes:

0:00 — Welcome Back to the Couch
0:18 — My Friends Ruined My Birthday
21:01 — I Didn’t Expect EMDR Therapy to Affect Me Like This
29:37 — My Cousin’s Husband Is Controlling
42:38 — I Don’t Know How to Fix My Strained Friendship

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Crew:
Executive Producers: Crissle · Alexandra Rago · Chris Morrow

Audio & Video Editor: Shatek for Beats on Film

Production Coordinators: Faith Lena & Bria Mosley

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This week on the Couch, Crissle sits down with Dr. Rheeda Walker to talk about her book; The Unapologetic Guide to Black Mental Health, psychological fortitude, and the importance of understanding the value of who we are. They explore what it means to stay connected to your purpose, navigate life’s stressors, and become more intentional about what you allow to take up space in your mind.

They also discuss the unique pressures that impact the Black community, the importance of building mental resilience, and how we can better support ourselves and others without losing sight of our own well-being. Crissle and Dr. Rheeda Walker unpack what it looks like to protect your energy, strengthen your sense of self, and create healthier ways of moving through life.

Want to talk to Crissle? Email [email protected] and include “chat live” in the subject line. 

0:00 — Welcome Back to the Couch
1:41 — The Unapologetic Guide to Black Mental Health by Dr. Rheeda Walker
20:45 — Understanding Psychological Fortitude
30:01 — Helping Others Without Hurting Yourself
38:57 — Where to Start When You Realize You’re Not Okay

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.rheedawalker/

Resources: The Unapolgetic Guide to Black Mental Health 

Crew:
Executive Producers: Crissle · Alexandra Rago · Chris Morrow
Audio & Video Editor: Shatek for Beats on Film
Production Coordinators: Faith Lena & Bria Mosley

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This week on the Couch, Crissle sits down with Dr. Raquel Martin to talk about boundaries, conflict, and what it really means to have healthy relationships. They unpack the difference between boundaries and standards, how to communicate your needs effectively, and why sometimes the person most likely to violate your boundaries is yourself.

Crissle and Dr. Raquel Martin unpack the importance of being reasonable in our relationships and how our own behaviors can impact the dynamics we have with others. They discuss what healing looks like while you’re still in the middle of the mess and explore how to navigate difficult conversations while still maintaining healthy boundaries.

Want to talk to Crissle? Email [email protected] and include “chat live” in the subject line.

0:00 — Welcome Back to the Couch
0:30 — Talking Boundaries with Dr. Raquel Martin
10:15 — Conflict Management, Boundaries & Standards
26:08 — Are You the One Violating Your Own Boundaries
42:47 — What Healthy Communication Actually Looks Like
57:06 —   The Importance of Getting Your Information from Credible Sources
1:02:54 — Being Reasonable Is Part of Having Healthy Relationships

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raquelmartinphd/?hl=en

Crew:
Executive Producers: Crissle · Alexandra Rago · Chris Morrow
Audio & Video Editor: Shatek for Beats on Film
Production Coordinators: Faith Lena & Bria Mosley

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This week on the Couch, Crissle sits down with Dr. Taylor Cummings to talk about mental health, identity, and the pressure to become who the world expects us to be. They unpack what it means to navigate anxiety, depression, and belonging while learning to understand and trust yourself.

They also discuss decolonizing our minds, unlearning the ways we’ve been conditioned to adapt to oppressive systems, and why we have to stop treating systemic problems as individual failures. Crissle and Dr. Taylor Cummings explore what it looks like to bring our knowledge, resources, and strengths together to build healthier, more connected communities.

Want to talk to Crissle? Email [email protected] and include “chat live” in the subject line.

0:00 — Welcome Back to the Couch
0:44 — The Miseducation of Dr. Taylor Cummings
11:09 — Who Are We Supposed to Be in Order to Belong
18:29 — How Can We Better Educate Our Communities
26:21 — Decolonizing Your Mind & Relearning Yourself
35:10 — Why We Need to Stop Individualizing Systemic Problems

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Follow Dr. Taylor Cummings:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theselflovedoc/

Crew:
Executive Producers: Crissle · Alexandra Rago · Chris Morrow
Audio & Video Editor: Shatek for Beats on Film
Production Coordinators: Faith Lena & Bria Mosley

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This week on the Couch, Crissle sits down with renowned sex therapist, psychologist, and author Dr. Donna Oriowo to talk about self-esteem, sexuality, and the messages Black girls receive about themselves from an early age. They unpack how young Black girls can begin to understand the value placed on their hair, skin color, bodies, and appearance before they’re even five years old  and how those messages can stay with us into adulthood.

They talk about what it means to truly love yourself when you’ve been taught to seek validation from others, why we learn to perform for our safety and the comfort of others, and how low self-esteem can shape the way we experience relationships, sex, and pleasure.

Crissle and Dr. Donna Oriowo also explore the role of religion and the church in shaping Black women’s relationships with their sexuality, why secure self-esteem can lead to a healthier sex life, and what it looks like to stop shrinking yourself and finally desire yourself first.

Want to talk to Crissle? Email [email protected] and include “chat live” in the subject line.

0:00 — Welcome Back to the Couch
0:48 — Learning to Love Yourself
12:18 — How Early Are Black Girls Taught to Feel Insecure About Their Bodies
19:38 — Why Secure Self-Esteem Leads to Better Sex
29:10 — Religion, Church & Black Women’s Sexuality
37:30 — Building a Healthy Sex Life & Relationship With Your Sexuality

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Follow Dr. Donna Oriowo:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.donnaoriowo/

Crew:
Executive Producers: Crissle · Alexandra Rago · Chris Morrow
Audio & Video Editor: Shatek for Beats on Film
Production Coordinators: Faith Lena & Bria Mosley

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This week, Crissle is back on the Couch taking your live calls and getting real about mental health, relationships, and the complicated choices we make when life feels overwhelming.

In today’s episode, Crissle helps listeners navigate maintaining their mental health while traveling for work, questioning whether they’re settling in a relationship, and dealing with a parent who expects their children to take on their financial responsibilities. From finding ways to care for yourself when regular therapy isn’t an option to questioning whether a lack of attraction means it’s time to walk away, Crissle offers honest advice on knowing what you need and when it’s time to choose yourself.

Throughout this episode, Crissle gets into the importance of making space for your feelings, setting boundaries with family, and recognizing when someone else’s responsibilities are no longer yours to carry.

Want to talk to Crissle? Email [email protected] and include “chat live” in the subject line.

Session Notes:

0:00 — Welcome Back to the Couch
0:23 — How Do I Maintain My Mental Health While Traveling for Work
14:29 — Am I Settling for This Man
29:44 — My Dad Is Financially Irresponsible and Expects Us to Cover for Him

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Crew:
Executive Producers: Crissle · Alexandra Rago · Chris Morrow

Audio & Video Editor: Shatek for Beats on Film

Production Coordinators: Faith Lena  ·   Bria Mosley

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Taking a look back on the couch to Session 23: Please welcome acclaimed writer, cultural critic, and bestselling author Roxane Gay to the couch!

Resources:

Bad Feminist by Roxane Gay

Hunger by Roxane Gay

Pet Care Tips

Mental Health Resources 

How to Be Heard (Upcoming Book)

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Session Notes:
0:00 — Welcome Back to the Couch
1:50 — The Journey of Dog Parenthood
10:28 — The Reality of Being a Public Figure: Expectations, Accountability & Perfectionism
20:50 — Roxane Gay’s Journey as a Writer
30:58 — Honesty & Boundaries in Personal Storytelling
36:20 — The Importance of Saying No & Protecting Your Energy
39:32 — Responsibility in Writing: The Weight of Personal Stories
49:30 — Therapy & Personal Growth
58:09 — Social Media, Loneliness & Moving Away from Twitter
1:09:21 — Upcoming Projects & New Books 

Follow Roxane Gay:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/roxanegay/

Crew:
Executive Producers: Crissle · Alexandra Rago · Chris Morrow
Audio & Video Editor: Shatek for Beats on Film
Production Coordinators: Faith Lena & Bria Mosley

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This week, Crissle is back on the Couch taking your live calls and getting real about the complicated relationships we have with the people we love.

In today's episode, Crissle helps listeners navigate friendship breakups, setting boundaries with parents, and the emotional exhaustion that comes with constantly being the person everyone relies on. From missing a friend after more than a year of no contact to navigating a strained relationship with their mother, Crissle talks about knowing when to choose yourself, holding your parents accountable, and what it means to stop taking on responsibility that isn’t yours.

Throughout this episode, Crissle gets into the double standards between siblings, the exhaustion of dealing with people who constantly play the victim, and why sometimes you have to put yourself first....even when it’s your parents.

Want to talk to Crissle? Email [email protected] and include “chat live” in the subject line.

Session Notes:

0:00 — Welcome Back to the Couch
0:31 —  Why Do I Miss Someone I've Outgrown
20:46 — I’ve Been No Contact With My Mom for Over a Year… Now She Wants to Meet
41:51 — Why Am I Expected to Do More Than My Siblings

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Crew:
Executive Producers: Crissle · Alexandra Rago · Chris Morrow

Audio & Video Editor: Shatek for Beats on Film

Production Coordinators: Faith Lena  ·   Bria Mosley

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This week, Crissle is back taking your live calls! 

Today, she's helping listeners navigate friendships, family conflict, and the challenges of finding the right mental health support. One caller is struggling after his best friend of 20 years tells him she doesn't agree with his lifestyle because he's gay. Another caller is trying to set healthy boundaries after her family accuses her boyfriend of cheating with one of her close friends. Our final caller is a mother looking for advice on helping her 17-year-old daughter find a therapist who truly understands her. Throughout the episode, Crissle discusses what to do when core values no longer align with loved ones, why paying out of network for the right therapist may be worth it, and how parents can support teenagers throughout their mental health journey.

Want to talk to Crissle on a future episode? Email [email protected] and include "chat live" in the subject line.

0:00 — Welcome Back to the Couch
0:23 —  My Best Friend of 20 Years Doesn't Accept That I'm Gay
15:43 —  My Family Accused My Boyfriend of Cheating With My Best Friend
37:50 —  My 17-Year-Old Daughter Is Struggling to Find the Right Therapist

Stay Connected:
Join the Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/crisslescouch
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/crisslescouch/

Crew:
Executive Producers: Crissle · Alexandra Rago · Chris Morrow

Audio & Video Editor: Shatek for Beats on Film

Production Coordinators: Faith Lena  ·   Bria Mosley

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