Lisa knew the next step—get help in the home—but guilt and fear kept saying, “Don’t spend the money… what if you need it later?” If that’s your inner soundtrack, Episode 296 is for you. We name the fear, anchor in truth, and build a simple plan you can act on this week.

I began with my usual focusing prompt: “in six months, what needs to have happened for you to be able to say that you are stewarding your caregiving, your health, and your relationships well… and making this season easier?” Lisa said, space for me—and consistent help for Mom. That clarity became our path.

Step 1: Ask clearly (and specifically). Church family often says, “Let me know how to help,” but they don’t know what you need. Tell them plainly you’re seeking a Christian private-duty caregiver within 10–15 miles, with clear speech, who will support Mom’s independence (observe safety while letting her do breakfast, simple lunch, light cleanup, walking). Be specific about hours: 5–10–15 hours/week. Specific ask → specific help.

Step 2: Put it on the calendar. Keep a small “help list” in your purse. When someone offers, pull it out and schedule a slot on both calendars. People aren’t busy when it’s scheduled.

Step 3: Set a loving deadline. Give yourself 30 days. If you haven’t found a good-fit helper by then, hire an agency for coverage while you keep looking privately. Stewardship includes your health.

Step 4: Steward the money on purpose. Pray, then speak with an elder-law attorney about asset protection and the five-year look-back. Using Mom’s funds for her care is stewardship, not selfishness. Burnout serves no one.

All of this sits inside the Think Different Dementia Method™, with Therapeutic Truth-Telling™ for honest, kind conversations and weekly rhythms from the Contented Caregiver Blueprint™—caregiving clarity anchored in Scripture. And if you need people beside you, join the DigniCare Society—lifetime access (under $100) and a 15-minute welcome call for the first 100 caregivers.

Don’t walk alone. The Christian DigniCare Society (lifetime, under $100) gives you community, coaching, prayer, and practical tools. 

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