Today, we’re diving into your questions about parenting kids with melancholy personalities—from helping a 5-year-old navigate self-critical thoughts to encouraging a 10-year-old who always wants to leave the party early, to figuring out how to connect with a tween who keeps butting heads with you. If you’ve ever wondered how to better understand your child’s temperament and parent with both wisdom and grace, you’re in the right place.

Episode Recap:

9:15 - My son can be so negative about himself, how can I coach him? 

12:10 - My melancholy child always wants to leave events early - how would you approach this?

14:45 - We have to learn not to be embarrassed our kids behavior

15:40 - How do I build a better relationship with my blue son? 

17:55 - Practice encouraging your son in his strengths 

19:00 - How can I figure out my child’s personality color?

Scripture for Reflection:

Psalm 139:14 (NIV) – “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”

Questions for Discussion:

1. How do you see your child’s temperament influencing their everyday experiences?
2. What strengths do you notice in your child that may be hidden beneath their struggles?
3. How can you shift your parenting approach to encourage and support, rather than correct, your child’s personality?
4. What strategies have worked for you in connecting with a child who tends to be more withdrawn or self-critical?
5. Are you praying for the Lord’s guidance so that you can parent your son according to his strengths?

Resources:

• Register for the Soar Conference today: https://subsplash.com/birdsonawire-ga/lb/ev/+j2j9wpq
• Take the Colors Quiz for yourself or your child! https://birdsonawiremoms.com/personality-quiz
• Download our FREE temperaments guide: www.boaw.mom/colors
• Pick up the book A Grown Up’s Guide to Kids’ Wiring https://amzn.to/40QLoaO