December 08, 2025

5 Cliches about being submissive

31 minutes

We’ve all heard them—the recycled lines, the oversimplified tropes, the porn-ified fantasy of what submission “should” look like. On this episode of The Weekly Hot Spot, Mistresses Olivia and Erika tear down the most persistent clichés about being submissive.

No ball-busting today. Just myth-busting. From the fantasy of total surrender to the myth that all subs crave pain, humiliation or degredation, we talk about our top 5 myths about being a submissive man—and exposr the misconceptions that keep men from truly understanding their power, their boundaries, and their joy in kink.

This isn’t about performance. It’s about truth.

BDSM Myth: Submissives Have No Power
Spoiler: That’s not just wrong—it’s dangerously misleading. We’ll tell you why.

Kink Myth: “Being Submissive Means Blind Obedience”
Ah, the classic “do anything you want” fantasy. It sounds hot in theory but in practice saying that is often a red flag for an experienced Mistress. You'll hear why.

Myth of Total Power Exchange: “The Power Dynamic is 24/7”
Let’s be real: Total Power Exchange (TPE) is rare. And even when it exists, it rarely looks like the movies. In real-world dynamics, power shifts with context.

BDSM Myth: “Submissives Are Weak or Broken”
Submission is not a lack. It’s a choice. It takes strength to say: “Here are my limits.” or “This is what I crave.”and “Help me explore who I am.” That’s not a weakness. That’s emotional intelligence. That’s courage to speak your truth in a world that tells men to stay silent.

D/s Myth: “Submission Is the Same for Everyone”
And one of the biggest clichés of all? That there’s one “right” way to be submissive. There isn’t. Some thrive on verbal degradation. Others need praise and affection. Some crave strict cock control. Others long for sensual guidance. There are many ways to express submission: feminization, primal service, humiliation, and/or worship.
Remember, your submission is yours.
As listener and collared sub Slut Pie puts it: “At first, I thought it was all or nothing. Total loss of control. But now I see—it’s not about losing myself. It’s about finding myself, one session at a time.”

Final Thoughts:
Submission Is a Conversation.
Kink isn’t static. It’s dynamic. It evolves. So question the clichés.
Don’t let porn, stereotypes, or shame dictate your path. You have power. You have limits. You have a voice. Use them.

We want to hear from you: Which cliché hit home the most? Share your thoughts.

Mistress Olivia's blog: Experienced Mistress
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Mistress Erika's blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy
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