Pornography has been the primary blame for many relationship problems. Fingers get pointed. Feelings get hurt. Doors get slammed. Psychologist and sex therapist David Ley, PhD believes pornography gets the blame because it is the “big, sexy, shiny object” that grabs the focus when a relationship is feeling bumpy. Ley says pornography is really just a symptom of other underlying issues that are not being discussed. In fact, he says pornography can be a great resource that can introduce novelty and new ideas to a couple’s sexy life if it’s viewed together. He and Ali also talk about why men seem to use it so much, the importance of communication and, hot tip, there is feminist porn out there.

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Links of Interest:

Dr. David Ley

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Ethical Porn for Dicks: A Man’s Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure

Is Watching Porn Right for You (Psychology Today)

A Beginner’s Guide to Watching Feminist Porn (Vice)

The Top Ethical Porn Sites that Are Inclusive and Empowering (Glamour UK)

Common Sense About the Effects of Pornography (Psychology Today)

Porn Addiction 

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Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins

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