What happens to resilience when the uniform comes off? This profound question lies at the heart of my conversation with James Elliott, a former British Airborne Forces soldier whose journey from the battlefield to Harley Street offers unique insights.

Through his work with elite athletes, special forces, and cancer patients, he's discovered that resilience isn't about suppressing emotions or "toughing it out" – it's about developing a robust sense of self that transcends external roles and circumstances.

Our discussion takes a provocative turn when James explains why the military recruits from disadvantaged backgrounds. Contrary to the belief that "council estate kids are tougher," he argues that vulnerability makes individuals more psychologically malleable – easier to shape into effective soldiers. This pattern creates a dependency where purpose, identity, and belonging become inextricably tied to military service, leaving many veterans struggling when that structure disappears.

James advocates for a proactive approach to transition: "Find a sense of who you are outside the uniform while you're still in it." His personal journey exemplifies this philosophy, from working with rugby players as a strength coach to pursuing multiple academic degrees. He's become, in his words, "the very version of myself that I needed as a child."

Perhaps most powerfully, James challenges us to define ourselves beyond what we do. When he asks clients "Who are you?" many respond with roles and titles – things that could be taken away. True resilience, he suggests, comes from knowing your essential qualities and values that remain regardless of circumstance.

Whether you're navigating a military transition, career change, or personal reinvention, this episode offers transformative insights into building lasting resilience through self-knowledge, emotional intelligence, and continuous growth. As James reminds us: "A master is an individual who has failed at every possible eventuality in a very limited subject."

James's book "Think Yourself Resilient" is available on Amazon and in Waterstones. His new Patreon "The Vault" launches March 31st with regular content sharing his expertise on resilience and mental performance.

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