Why do smart, capable people find ourselves overthinking, getting defensive, or stuck in the same communication patterns at work and at home?

In this episode, I sit down with leadership coach and communication strategist Amy Wong to explore what’s really happening beneath conflict, power struggles, and the need to be right. Together, we unpack how unconscious focus and nervous system hijacking quietly derail connection, why accountability is actually the gateway to freedom (not self-blame), and how a simple shift in attention can restore clarity, alignment, and trust.

This conversation is for leaders, partners, and humans who are tired of knowing better—but still reacting anyway—and who are ready for a more grounded, sane way to lead and relate.

Amy Wong is an award-winning author and leadership expert who helps organizations harness the power of human connection to unlock breakthrough performance and create winning teams. Drawing from her unique background in mathematics and transpersonal psychology and two decades in Silicon Valley, she has developed methodologies that create thriving cultures at organizations like LinkedIn, Salesforce, and Meta. Amy currently teaches communication and leadership courses at Stanford University Continuing Education and is the award-winning author of "Living on Purpose.” Amy shows how trust, alignment, and exceptional communication create the conditions for individual fulfillment and organizational success.

 

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction and Connection

02:05 Amy's Journey: From Mathematician to Intuition Advocate

04:16 The Catalyst of Motherhood: Awakening to True Self

10:48 Spotlight Shift: Focusing on Service Over Self

18:14 Bridging Divides: Constructive Communication in Teams

27:29 The Neuroscience of Validation and Conflict

29:45 Practices for Reestablishing Harmony in Relationships

31:09 Shifting Focus: From Self to Collective Desires

34:35 The Power of Self-Awareness and Emotional Agency

37:37 Radical Accountability: Taking Charge of Your Feelings

40:50 Understanding Others: The Key to Compassion and Forgiveness

42:13 The Interconnectedness of Personal and Professional Growth

44:14 Finding Common Ground in a Divided World

 

Guest Resources:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/amyelizawong/ 

https://www.instagram.com/amyelizawong/ 

https://amyelizawong.com/ 

 

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