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87. The Subtle Abandonment Wounds of the Parentified Child
In this episode, we explore the subtle yet powerful ways we abandon ourselves—often without even realizing it. From childhood experiences of making ourselves small to avoid burdening others to the lifelong patterns of prioritizing others' emotions over our own, this episode dives deep into the roots of self-abandonment and how to break free. We discuss the exhaustion of being the caretaker, the guilt of having needs, and the path to reclaiming emotional safety without outsourcing it to others. If you’ve ever struggled with feeling responsible for other people’s emotions or have difficulty tending to your own needs, this episode will help you begin the journey back to yourself.
Top Episode quotes:
"The way you kept yourself safe as a child was by making sure everyone else was okay—even if that meant leaving yourself behind."
"I’m done abandoning myself. It’s not my job to soothe everyone else’s emotions while ignoring my own."
"Our job is not to tend to others—it’s to tend to ourselves and build relationships where both people are emotionally responsible for their own healing."
"There will be guilt and anxiety around speaking your needs because you were taught they didn’t matter—but healing means honoring them anyway."
"I’ve spent my whole life soothing others, but I’m learning now that I can turn to myself. I don’t have to seek external safety—I can create it within me."
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In this episode, we explore the subtle yet powerful ways we abandon ourselves—often without even realizing it. From childhood experiences of making ourselves small to avoid burdening others to the lifelong patterns of prioritizing others' emotions over our own, this episode dives deep into the roots of self-abandonment and how to break free. We discuss the exhaustion of being the caretaker, the guilt of having needs, and the path to reclaiming emotional safety without outsourcing it to others. If you’ve ever struggled with feeling responsible for other people’s emotions or have difficulty tending to your own needs, this episode will help you begin the journey back to yourself.
Top Episode quotes:
"The way you kept yourself safe as a child was by making sure everyone else was okay—even if that meant leaving yourself behind."
"I’m done abandoning myself. It’s not my job to soothe everyone else’s emotions while ignoring my own."
"Our job is not to tend to others—it’s to tend to ourselves and build relationships where both people are emotionally responsible for their own healing."
"There will be guilt and anxiety around speaking your needs because you were taught they didn’t matter—but healing means honoring them anyway."
"I’ve spent my whole life soothing others, but I’m learning now that I can turn to myself. I don’t have to seek external safety—I can create it within me."
❥Stay or Go Course:https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go
❥HeartSpace: An online monthly membership community for open-hearted, nervous system-attuned living.
Join with a free trial:
https://marinayt.com/community
❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewform
❥❥❥ FREE RESOURCE: a step-by-step process of working with your triggers
TRIGGERED TO ROOTED: A ROADMAP TO CREATE TREASURES FROM YOUR TRIGGERS
This powerful step by step process will walk you through how to somatically move through a trigger, ground yourself, allow the emotions to come up and experience massive growth in your life
Download here: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted
❥❥❥
Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/marina.y.t
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