A Better Father

My apologies for being late on this episode.  You'll learn why in the episode.  It's about learning as a parent.  So, very appropriate for the focus of this podcast.

Well, I threw out a random "fact" on hemorrhoids.  Yup, it's true:  https://www.healthline.com/health/phone-toilet-health-risks ; https://clinicaltrials.gov/ct2/show/NCT03444389

Cal Newport: https://www.calnewport.com

James Clear (Atomic Habits): https://jamesclear.com

Also, check out:  abetterfather.com; where blog nearly daily.

I say the wrong episode at the beginning.  Episode 18 was an inspired moment this past weekend.

This is episode 19 inspired by three paragraphs in "this one wild and precious life" by Sarah Wilson:

https://www.sarahwilson.com

It's been an amazing read and highly recommended to check it out.

Thank you for listening.  Posted. Not Perfect.  From a Vegan Father trying to navigate a non-vegan world.

Whatever it is you want to do that's holding you back, you have permission.  Write.  Draw. Create.  Read.  Say hello to a stranger.  Splurge on a coffee, a treat, a whatever.  It's okay.  Just do it.

Links to things referenced in this podcast:

https://www.sarahwilson.com

https://www.sarahwilson.com/this-one-wild-and-precious-life/

https://seths.blog

https://dailystoic.com

Finsihed up the Daily Stoic 21 Day Challenge.  New Year, New You.

Day 20: Make Your End Of Life Arrangements; Day 21: Write Down Your Mistakes From 2020. Burn The List

I also reference Humble the Poet's book on Audible:  Unlearn; https://www.audible.com/pd/Unlearn-Audiobook/0062906321?qid=1611752039&sr=1-1&ref=a_search_c3_lProduct_1_1&pf_rd_p=83218cca-c308-412f-bfcf-90198b687a2f&pf_rd_r=367QJZBF34BBNY3HWW3G

https://www.humblethepoet.com

Thank you for listening and being next to me.

Day 19: Find Your 2021 Accountability Partner

First, find a place to find a person to be able to hold you accountable.  :)

Day 18: Stand Up To Something or Someone Bad

“The upright and honest man corrects the wrongs of Fortune, and softens hardship and bitterness because he knows how to endure them; he likewise accepts prosperity with appreciation and moderation, and stands up against trouble with steadiness and courage.” — Seneca, Letters From A Stoic, 98.3

From the Daily Stoic (dailystoic.com); New Year, New You Challenge.

Day 17: Make Amends With Someone You’re Holding A Grudge Against

dailystoic.com

jamesclear.com

https://seths.blog/page/2/

According to Johns Hopkins Medicine, the anger from holding on to grudges is like being in a chronic fight-or-flight mode. It disrupts your immune system, increases blood pressure, increases the risk of depression, as well as levels of anxiety and stress.

In a study published in the Journal of Health Psychology, a team of psychologists tested the relationship between forgiveness and psychological well-being. Study participants had similar levels of accumulated lifetime stress. Surprisingly, for participants with higher levels of forgiveness, their high levels of stress did not impact their mental health. As one of the researchers said of the finding, "We thought forgiveness would knock something off the relationship [between stress and psychological distress], but we didn't expect it to zero it out.”

Copied from the Daily Stoic New Year, New You Challenge 2021

This all comes from:     https://dailystoic.com

Current reading and referenced in this podcast; Atomic Habits:      https://jamesclear.com/atomic-habits

Look in the mirror, what is your worst vice?  This isn't easy to do and it's a moving target.  Writing down thoughts and talking through what it might be helps.  Be honest, look at your actions, look around your home, look at your bank statements.  For me, that made it easier to locate.

“We advise a man to regard his friends as highly as himself, to reflect that an enemy may become a friend, to stimulate love in the friend, and to check hatred in the enemy.” — Seneca, Letters From A Stoic, 95.63

Day 15: Take 1 Thing Off Your Plate

Some times to take away, you need to add.  I've added a todo list to take away many things physical and mental that were taking up time. Distractions unneeded.  Focus on what's important.  Stop using so much time and energy filling your mind with something you can just write down.  Build the habit of looking at this list and stop trying to remember the list.

https://jamesclear.com/atomic-habits

https://dailystoic.com

“Because most of what we say and do is not essential. If you can eliminate it, you’ll have more time, and more tranquillity. Ask yourself at every moment, “Is this necessary?” — Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, 4.24

The first 14 days of the Daily Stoic Challenge in summary.  I'll be doing this daily for the next seven days.  Always a day behind with thoughts and notes on the challenge from the previous day.  So, tomorrow will be day 15. (There were some computer issues, that I believe were resolved.  So, if you have a bump, or issue, my apologize.  I believe it has been corrected.)

Mentioned in this episode and things I'm focusing on for the individual challenges:

Rupi Kaur (https://rupikaur.com)

Cal Newport (https://www.calnewport.com)

If... Then (https://www.thelastarchive.com)

Teaching to Transgress: Education as the Practice of Freedom (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/27091.Teaching_to_Transgress)

The Challenges:

Day 1: Write Down Everything That Gives You Hope For 2021

Day 2: Stop A Backslide. Pick An Abandoned Resolution Back Up

Day 3: Unplug: Spend The Day On Airplane Mode

Day 4: Double Down. Pick The Best Change You Made In 2020 And Push Further

Day 5: Empower 3 People To Give You Honest Feedback

Day 6: Join A Club Or Community

Day 7: Review Your Worst Day Of 2020

Day 8: Take A 1 Hour Walk. Recall What You See

Day 9: Pick A Hard Thing To Tackle This Year. Take Your First Step Today.

Day 10: Put Up A Statue Of Someone You Want To Be Like

Day 11: Inflict A Hardship on Yourself

Day 12: Pick 1 Author. Read Everything They’ve Written This Year. Start Right Now

Day 13: Set A Bedtime & End of Day Routine

Day 14: Watch Or Read Something About A Topic You Know Nothing About