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This morning, I had the great fortune of an early phone call with two other women of faith. I sat in my garden just at sunrise, hearing the birds' morning song and almost seeing the leaves opening on our apple tree. A fluorescent cardinal was among the wrens on the branches, and somewhere in the distance, a woodpecker was digging out his breakfast.

I gazed out over the 10 acres that, yes, are ours and saw the pavilion where we have had so many lovely family dinners and joyful times with children and friends.   The sun was warm on my back, the air cool on my face, and I felt truly and abundantly blessed. This is joy.

Then the thought came.

Would my 20-year-old self even believe that my being here, right now, was even possible?  Would she believe I could be actively engaged in building a business, doing what I love, with people I love? That there was still time to sit quietly and write? 

If she were living in the Creator-based® Way, she might…but no, my 20-year-old self, living as a victim of her circumstance, would not!

Mired in the everyday demands of small children, saving for a house, and learning, learning, learning every day how to adult, she would never have considered that we would be where we are today, surrounded by women of wisdom and faith, watching the apple tree I always wanted in childhood begin to bear fruit, on acreage that is truly a gift.  

She couldn’t even conceive the level of peace and strength that had come from determination and good fortune, but it was there. 

We can create these beautiful things in our own lives.  It requires focus, faith and forever recalculating in the 50/50 of life.  As we stay in the role of an active creator, and choose to opt out of victimhood, we gain strength and perspective.  Graced by Grit and Guts, we will create the life we long for.  

You may not be 20 years old, but you are, at this moment, the youngest you will ever be. 

As the youngest you that will ever be, 

What is there for you that you are not seeing?

What would your future self, be she 40, 50, 60, or 90, want you to know today?

If I could reach back and tell my younger self one thing (funny, but it’s the same thing my Creator still tells me regularly,) it would be,

 “It all works out.  Simply do what is right, slow down, and stop judging yourself.  Enjoy!”

Take time to smell the flowers. Take pictures, write about it, savor the ice cream—it’s there to love because you are infinitely loved.  Create the life you always dreamed of.

This week, tap into your future self and see what wisdom she has for you.  Listen and Do it!

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The basic characteristics of grit are determination, persistence, resilience, excellence instead of perfection, and compassion. We’ve talked a little about determination  Remember, standing up to that thing in your life that is so hard that it feels like it might crush you?  And you have it.  I know you have faced up to hard things in the past.

This week let's talk about persistence and its role in your life.  Persistence is pretty simple.  It’s just ‘keeping on keeping on,’ right?  But what makes us persist as wise, modern women? Why not just pop some popcorn and watch Netflix or scroll reels on Insta or TikTok?

Remember, the wise, modern woman has been around long enough to know stuff.  She has had life experiences that have taught her an element of wisdom.  She may even have been gifted to discover and hold her ‘why’.  In short- she has perspective.

Persistence is born of perspective and understanding. 

Think of the great inventors, creators, world leaders, and great teachers.  

They didn’t have anything more than you do.  That is, as long as you have your ‘why.’  

What’s your why in life? Why do you persist in the face of adversity?  What keeps you off the couch and getting up to work?

Often, it's someone you love.  

It can also be something you love so much that you feel called to do it.  

It can be a principle you feel you must defend. 

Your why is your core motivator.   Your Why = Persistence. 

Here are a few questions to help you consider your why this week.  Write your answers down and put them somewhere you will see them.  I like to use my phone background for this, but dry-erase marker on a mirror works too, or a post-it..

Your answers to these questions will help you define what really matters to you. 

 Your ‘why’ will propel you to greater life confidence and contentment.  

Your ‘why’ may also be part of some of your worst days.  

That’s as it should be. Life is a 50/50 proposition.  

When you persist through adversity, it’s like weight lifting- you build muscle. 

With strong persistence muscles and 50/50 understanding, 

you will accomplish your dream.

Seriously! You will.

I can and I will.

You can too!

All my love,

Beth

Wise, modern women simply go to work.  Don’t you do that every day? See- I told you, you are great. 

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It has been said that where God closes a door, he opens a window.  However, I prefer the bigger, better imagery of “Where God closes a window, He opens a door.”  That door opening is sometimes 3-4 times larger than the window, and goodness, with the door open, the light just floods in.  We only need to be present to see and accept it. (And choose to open the door.)

That thing you were looking for that didn’t happen? It’s just small potatoes compared to what is coming for you next.  In the minutia of days, we can lose sight of the grand orchestrations of Heaven.  When you struggle, my friend, take a deep breath and then, take the long view.

Use your eternal eyeglasses.  When I used to teach high schoolers, I would place my middle and ring fingers on the hinge of my jaw with palms up towards the ceiling.  Then, I would bring my palms forward against my cheeks as my upside-down hands folded upward to support the ‘glasses’ created by my circled thumb and index finger.  It never failed to get their attention and open the discussion for eternal eyeglasses.  You can’t help but notice when someone is wearing the lenses of perspective.

Eternal eyeglasses allow us to see past the present moment, past this decade, and way off into the distant future.  They focus us on the great things coming as we walk the mucky path of the present.  Seeing that distant view creates hope and new energy in our souls.  Try it- what will the lesson of today do for you 20 years from now?  Put the glasses on!

Trust by remembering the help you received in the past- the way you have been comforted and looked after.  You are so loved!

Let the energy of perspective and trust propel you into your grandly orchestrated future.

Just keep swimming and don’t give up-

You’ve got this.

All my love,

Beth 

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Last month, we talked about ‘Inspired Goals,’ or goals that feel immediate, narrow, strong, precise, inspired, experienced, and declared.  This month, we continue by talking about self-care in that same inspired way.  Have you forgotten your goals?  That’s okay- I have hope- it is, after all, hope month.

 “For it is only by forgetting that we ever really drop the thread of time and approach the experience of living in the present moment, so elusive in ordinary hours.” 

― Michael Pollan, The Botany of Desire : A Plant'S-Eye View of the World

Michael Pollan introduces the gift of forgetting.  He assuages that by forgetting, we keep ourselves from overwhelm, thereby being more effective at our actual life purpose and mission.  Too much forgetting is simply too much, but a little is a built-in perk for beating overwhelm and stress if we will let it. 

So, have you forgotten your goals? That’s to be expected.  It’s fine. 

Introducing: Self-care, Creator-based® style; ‘Do less and expect more.’

This is an approach in which you maintain your status as a creator- not a victim.  So often, I can feel like a victim in my self-care- I got interrupted and didn’t finish, needed more sleep and didn’t get up, got too busy and didn’t do it.  Life was too hard to take care of myself.

 The first step out of the victim role is to recognize that you are the creator of your life experience and that you have within you light and truth-  all the power you need to grow and progress.  Ask yourself, “What do I want? What do I want to feel?”

From this foundation of power, you are ready to talk about a few points in creating a tailor-made self-care program for yourself.  (And it will bless the lives of others)

Your program will need 

Step One: 

What is something you keep trying to do for yourself but is challenging enough that it never seems to happen? 

Make a list of those things.  For me, it’s pretty long.  It sometimes includes meditation, vacation, exercise, reading, visiting with friends, pedicures, etc.;  write down all the self-care things you would like to do (include that Hawaii Trip) and have done in the past.  Permission to dream.

Step Two: Consider the items on your list and what you might do to build some comfort measures for yourself.  I don’t much like going to the dentist, so I’m great at putting it off.  One of the comfort measures I have built in is a Target trip immediately after my dental visit.  It’s a way for me to look forward to my self-care.  Other comfort measures could include a friend, an affirmation, or a little fun afterward. 

Step Three: create enough support to keep yourself going when these things get hard things.  Declare your intention to someone.  Of course, a coach is an incredible support.  I do personal sessions myself, and we also have our community at the 50/50 Girl Club, Group Coaching in Coach & Clear Sessions and in our Guided Mastermind Groups.  You might hire a professional coach, do something online, or enlist a partner or good friend to support you.  

So, for this week:

Here’s to creating hope, my friend!

All my love,

Beth

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What is the opposite of Hope? 

We all know what FOMO is, and even though it's no longer hip to call it that, we’re talking about it.  FOMO is a pressure-driven force that keeps us in scarcity, and we worry that we might miss something important.  It feels like fear.  That’s because it really is. FOMO is a universal and very real thing, especially when we seek to fit into society, our group of friends, and our workplace.  It’s ubiquitous in teens and young adults and breeds anxiety and pressure in young lives.

FOMO is a little different for adults raising children. We still want to be in the know, but there is an added dimension when we have parental stewardship to fulfill. Whether it’s toddlers or grandchildren, the 

Fear of Missing Opportunities can be paralyzing.  

Should my child do gymnastics or soccer? What about the value of music lessons and time with friends? There’s an after-school program in robotics…. And it continues all the way from preschool to retirement.  There’s a class I want to take; should I spend the time in the community? What about the friend I haven’t seen in a while? 

Choices, blessedly, abound.  

But sometimes, it is downright overwhelming.  

Fear of missing an opportunity can be incapacitating.

There is an important element missing in FOMO.  It’s trust.  

Trust that ‘What is for you will not pass you by.’ 

Trust that your Creator has orchestrated your life and the lives of others for good.

Trust that it all works out.  He is the Creator, after all. 

 We can’t frustrate his plans, only our own.

 There is a real element of trust there…can you trust enough to say no?

There are many, many faces of Fear of Missing Opportunities: fear of disappointing others… fear of overstepping…. fear of regret…fear of making the wrong choice…fear of ruining your own life,  fear of not living up to your potential- and that inner critic taunting you, “Too bad, you missed it.”

It’s all just plain fear of missing “it,”….. and what’s crazy is most often, 

the most important things are missed by being afraid, causing us to feel off base and distracted.

Our beautiful friend Jennifer Dereus often comforts us with the quote, 

“Fear and faith both ask me to believe in something I cannot see. 

 I choose faith.”

Anything fear-based does not come from our Creator.

What would a creator-based® belief be?

And you are- so loved.

Let’s choose a week of trust!

:) All my love

Beth

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What is the opposite of Hope? 

We all know what FOMO is, and even though it's no longer hip to call it that, we’re talking about it.  FOMO is a pressure-driven force that keeps us in scarcity, and we worry that we might miss something important.  It feels like fear.  That’s because it really is. FOMO is a universal and very real thing, especially when we seek to fit into society, our group of friends, and our workplace.  It’s ubiquitous in teens and young adults and breeds anxiety and pressure in young lives.

FOMO is a little different for adults raising children. We still want to be in the know, but there is an added dimension when we have parental stewardship to fulfill. Whether it’s toddlers or grandchildren, the 

Fear of Missing Opportunities can be paralyzing.  

Should my child do gymnastics or soccer? What about the value of music lessons and time with friends? There’s an after-school program in robotics…. And it continues all the way from preschool to retirement.  There’s a class I want to take; should I spend the time in the community? What about the friend I haven’t seen in a while? 

Choices, blessedly, abound.  

But sometimes, it is downright overwhelming.  

Fear of missing an opportunity can be incapacitating.

There is an important element missing in FOMO.  It’s trust.  

Trust that ‘What is for you will not pass you by.’ 

Trust that your Creator has orchestrated your life and the lives of others for good.

Trust that it all works out.  He is the Creator, after all. 

 We can’t frustrate his plans, only our own.

 There is a real element of trust there…can you trust enough to say no?

There are many, many faces of Fear of Missing Opportunities: fear of disappointing others… fear of overstepping…. fear of regret…fear of making the wrong choice…fear of ruining your own life,  fear of not living up to your potential- and that inner critic taunting you, “Too bad, you missed it.”

It’s all just plain fear of missing “it,”….. and what’s crazy is most often, 

the most important things are missed by being afraid, causing us to feel off base and distracted.

Our beautiful friend Jennifer Dereus often comforts us with the quote, 

“Fear and faith both ask me to believe in something I cannot see. 

 I choose faith.”

Anything fear-based does not come from our Creator.

What would a creator-based® belief be?

And you are- so loved.

Let’s choose a week of trust!

:) All my love

Beth

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We'd love to meet you! Here's the story....

Two friends are walking down the stony path.

One has had a painful experience.  

As she shares her struggle, her sympathetic and wise ally walks beside her.  

Over the course of the conversation, she feels heard.

Her emotions begin to shift from anger and poor me to acceptance.  

From acceptance grows understanding.

Finally, hope begins to dawn.  

With hope, new ideas and opportunity thoughts appear.

She, who was once despondent and isolated, is ready to reach out and create.

Such is the power of a great friend.

Our Creator is a friend like that.

When we walk together, even when we’re struggling, things begin to shift.  

Our sympathetic and wise ally invites us to be with them when we are low.  

Then, as we walk, our thoughts shift from poor me to acceptance.  

It may come ever so slowly, but it is sure.  

From acceptance, we move to understand and see a bit further off into the horizon. 

With that longer perspective, hope dawns.

Our Creator invites us:

Trust me.

Walk with me.

Love with me.

What will it look like for you to love with your Creator this week? 

One thing at a time. Take care of yourself.

Will you love yourself and be a bit kinder inwardly? 

Will hope begin to dawn and bring a new perspective?  

What good will come to the world from you 

simply choosing to open to the idea of your own power and change?

You are a powerful influence for good.

Lean into your hurt and walk with your Creator.

Watch.

See if it doesn’t bring a glimmer- or maybe a full blast - of hope.

Happy Hope Month!

You’ve got this, my friend!

All my love, 

Beth

P.S. This is not another thing to add to your to-do list.

This is hope.

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At the beginning of each day, I choose to spend time with my Creator, meditating and studying, talking and listening, and writing what I learn. 

This morning, an unexpected thing occurred.  

As I finished my time with my Creator, I felt/heard, “Namaste.” 

It came in pure love.

Namaste has not been a word I associate with quiet morning time in the past.  I have always associated it with yoga practice.  But recently, in a Creator-based® Mastermind Group, Sue Pine from Serenities Now was our guest speaker.  She ended her instruction and time with us with the same words and love I felt this morning.  Namaste.

Then she shared this with us:

“In India, "Namaste" means I honor the place in you where the entire universe resides. I honor the place in you of Love, of Light, of Truth, of Peace.  I honor the place within you where if you are in that place in you, and I am in that place in me, there is only one of us.

Aligning with my personal beliefs, this is what it means when I say Namaste:

This little light of mine, I’m going to let it shine!

The light inside of me honors the light inside of you.

We use our light to honor our Creator and to honor each other. 

When you and I are in that light, we are one, and we shine brighter together.”

Friend, our Creator loves all of us in all of our faiths and seeks to bring all of us back home.  When we honor our differences in love and align ourselves in the Creator’s Way, we are one.  And that feels really good!

Namaste fuels hope.

Namaste fuels action.

Namaste fuels love.

Namaste fuels unity.

Namaste is a path to a Creator-based® Life.

This week, as you move through your days, see if you can deliberately let your light shine and honor the light you see in others.  It will be an amazing start to Hope Month and all the beauties that await us as we honor and cultivate the light within each living being.

Namaste.

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Hey friend! Can you believe January is almost over?  All the excitement about What’s Your Word and Your INSPIRED Goals may be beginning to fade.  But don’t worry- the month of self-love is fast approaching.

As we finish this first month in 2024, let's visit for a minute on hope for the future.  As holiday excitement and New Year resolutions fade, hope may fade, too.  But here are a few tips and tricks to keep the hope going-

If you chose a word for the year, this is a good time to practice doodling it.  Did you know we have a Combatting Stress workshop coming up next Saturday morning? It’s actually using the power of doodling, among other things, to feel better and let go of the stress that can shadow your hope.

Join us! it’s free, but filling fast with limited seating.  Get your seat here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/788737022667?aff=oddtdtcreator

While you’re there, check out our other free online events we share as we seek to flood the world with Compassion, Mindfulness, and Hope! 

Have a great week y’all!

:) Beth

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In your heart of hearts, do you feel like you’re a good person? For me, that has changed through life seasons, but I have learned a way to get an accurate picture of my present circumstances.

To begin with, you are whole and valuable just as you are.  Never forget your innate value.  The fact that you are here means we need you.  Our Creator is abundant but smart.  Nothing is wasted- and that includes the energy needed to create you.  You are worth every effort ever exerted on your behalf.  You, my friend, are a treasure indeed.

Now, that has not always rung true to me in my life, so I want to share with you a way to get a more accurate picture than you may see in your present circumstance.  Maybe you’re in a great place.  In that case, read no further.  You know your worth, and you know how much we need you.  Kudos.  But, on doubtful days, this might help.  It helped me.  You’ll need paper and a pen.

Five steps for clarity, the Creator-based® Way.

You see friend, we are all loved in one way or another.  We are all good in some way and not so good in others.  That’s what a 50/50 life is all about.  Life is not all of nothing.  It’s an amalgamation of experiences that ultimately add up to good.   And you are good.  For real.  Your Creator will assure you of that when you ask.

You are good!

You are valuable!

You are a brilliant contribution to this world.

Remember that.

All my love, 

Beth