A Creator-based® Life

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Two friends are walking down the stony path.

One has had a painful experience.  

As she shares her struggle, her sympathetic and wise ally walks beside her.  

Over the course of the conversation, she feels heard.

Her emotions begin to shift from anger and poor me to acceptance.  

From acceptance grows understanding.

Finally, hope begins to dawn.  

With hope, new ideas and opportunity thoughts appear.

She, who was once despondent and isolated, is ready to reach out and create.

Such is the power of a great friend.

Our Creator is a friend like that.

When we walk together, even when we’re struggling, things begin to shift.  

Our sympathetic and wise ally invites us to be with them when we are low.  

Then, as we walk, our thoughts shift from poor me to acceptance.  

It may come ever so slowly, but it is sure.  

From acceptance, we move to understand and see a bit further off into the horizon. 

With that longer perspective, hope dawns.

Our Creator invites us:

Trust me.

Walk with me.

Love with me.

What will it look like for you to love with your Creator this week? 

One thing at a time. Take care of yourself.

Will you love yourself and be a bit kinder inwardly? 

Will hope begin to dawn and bring a new perspective?  

What good will come to the world from you 

simply choosing to open to the idea of your own power and change?

You are a powerful influence for good.

Lean into your hurt and walk with your Creator.

Watch.

See if it doesn’t bring a glimmer- or maybe a full blast - of hope.

Happy Hope Month!

You’ve got this, my friend!

All my love, 

Beth

P.S. This is not another thing to add to your to-do list.

This is hope.

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At the beginning of each day, I choose to spend time with my Creator, meditating and studying, talking and listening, and writing what I learn. 

This morning, an unexpected thing occurred.  

As I finished my time with my Creator, I felt/heard, “Namaste.” 

It came in pure love.

Namaste has not been a word I associate with quiet morning time in the past.  I have always associated it with yoga practice.  But recently, in a Creator-based® Mastermind Group, Sue Pine from Serenities Now was our guest speaker.  She ended her instruction and time with us with the same words and love I felt this morning.  Namaste.

Then she shared this with us:

“In India, "Namaste" means I honor the place in you where the entire universe resides. I honor the place in you of Love, of Light, of Truth, of Peace.  I honor the place within you where if you are in that place in you, and I am in that place in me, there is only one of us.

Aligning with my personal beliefs, this is what it means when I say Namaste:

This little light of mine, I’m going to let it shine!

The light inside of me honors the light inside of you.

We use our light to honor our Creator and to honor each other. 

When you and I are in that light, we are one, and we shine brighter together.”

Friend, our Creator loves all of us in all of our faiths and seeks to bring all of us back home.  When we honor our differences in love and align ourselves in the Creator’s Way, we are one.  And that feels really good!

Namaste fuels hope.

Namaste fuels action.

Namaste fuels love.

Namaste fuels unity.

Namaste is a path to a Creator-based® Life.

This week, as you move through your days, see if you can deliberately let your light shine and honor the light you see in others.  It will be an amazing start to Hope Month and all the beauties that await us as we honor and cultivate the light within each living being.

Namaste.

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Hey friend! Can you believe January is almost over?  All the excitement about What’s Your Word and Your INSPIRED Goals may be beginning to fade.  But don’t worry- the month of self-love is fast approaching.

As we finish this first month in 2024, let's visit for a minute on hope for the future.  As holiday excitement and New Year resolutions fade, hope may fade, too.  But here are a few tips and tricks to keep the hope going-

If you chose a word for the year, this is a good time to practice doodling it.  Did you know we have a Combatting Stress workshop coming up next Saturday morning? It’s actually using the power of doodling, among other things, to feel better and let go of the stress that can shadow your hope.

Join us! it’s free, but filling fast with limited seating.  Get your seat here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/788737022667?aff=oddtdtcreator

While you’re there, check out our other free online events we share as we seek to flood the world with Compassion, Mindfulness, and Hope! 

Have a great week y’all!

:) Beth

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In your heart of hearts, do you feel like you’re a good person? For me, that has changed through life seasons, but I have learned a way to get an accurate picture of my present circumstances.

To begin with, you are whole and valuable just as you are.  Never forget your innate value.  The fact that you are here means we need you.  Our Creator is abundant but smart.  Nothing is wasted- and that includes the energy needed to create you.  You are worth every effort ever exerted on your behalf.  You, my friend, are a treasure indeed.

Now, that has not always rung true to me in my life, so I want to share with you a way to get a more accurate picture than you may see in your present circumstance.  Maybe you’re in a great place.  In that case, read no further.  You know your worth, and you know how much we need you.  Kudos.  But, on doubtful days, this might help.  It helped me.  You’ll need paper and a pen.

Five steps for clarity, the Creator-based® Way.

You see friend, we are all loved in one way or another.  We are all good in some way and not so good in others.  That’s what a 50/50 life is all about.  Life is not all of nothing.  It’s an amalgamation of experiences that ultimately add up to good.   And you are good.  For real.  Your Creator will assure you of that when you ask.

You are good!

You are valuable!

You are a brilliant contribution to this world.

Remember that.

All my love, 

Beth

Have you ever been lonesome while in a group of people?  Remember that middle school fear of not having someone to sit with at lunch, or being picked last for kickball?  It can be quite daunting, feeling alone and different in a group.

The thing is, we are different.  We are different by divine design and those differences are what give our lives delightful purpose and energy.  

Why then, do we feel lonesome in those differences sometimes?

The Stories I Tell Myself in My Head.

I listened to a coaching call this morning.  When the gal who came for help had finished explaining herself- and it took awhile -her wise coach said, “I’m going to ask you to do something very difficult. Will you do it for me?  “Yes”, came the hesitant yet determined reply.  Then the coach used three words that made all the difference, “Stop the Stories.”

Stop the Stories.

What would your life look like without the stories?

Would you feel more connected?

Would you embrace more of your unique gifts and talents, your differences?

I challenge you this week to take some time and let yourself stop the story in your head, turn the channel if you must to some good music or a blog that makes you feel good.  Stop the story and see yourself for who you really are- an amazing, unique gift to this world, different by design.

Sameness is to be found most among the most “natural” men, not among those who surrender to Christ.  How monotonously alike all the great tyrants and conquerors have been; how gloriously different are the Saints.  C.S. Lewis

 It's the season of fresh starts and the flu…

How has your inaugural week of the New Year unfolded? Ah, the season of fresh beginnings, where hope and optimism intertwine with the sniffles and flu, bills to pay, and blessings to savor. It's a 50/50 blend of life's tapestry; remarkably, it's all good.

Life is woven with threads of hardship and ease, good and evil. The beauty lies in our ability to navigate these intricacies and craft a rich, fulfilling existence.

Henry Nouwen wisely said, "The question is not 'How am I to love God?' but 'How am I to let myself be loved by God?'" Love is the answer.

As you walk through your days, are you open to feeling the love that your Creator has for you?

Here are three ideas to try to enjoy more love in your life this week, whether your life is hope, optimism, flu, or overdue bills…

1. Choose not to play the role of judge.

Of all of the ways I feel more love in my life, this is number one. When I choose to opt out of judgment (this is so hard for me!), life is always better. Choosing not to criticize, hypothesize why, or explain away someone’s offensive behavior (I was offended because I judged…) leaves so much room for light and hope that sometimes I don’t even know what to think about all the possibilities. Try it. For one day or one hour, choose to suspend all judgment. Love shows up, the world opens, and light pours in.

2. Choose not to worry. (A form of judgment)

Imagination and the ability to reason are gifts given to us by our Creator. So is our brain. Since our brain is always on the alert for ways to protect us, reason, on high alert, can misread a situation and begin to worry. As that worry increases, imagination engages, and if we are not cognizant of our thoughts, a whopper of a scary story can be created. Our worries can create incredible physical reactions in our bodies, generating emotions of fear, anxiety, anger, and betrayal- even when nothing has happened at all. 

Fortunately, we can always choose our thoughts. If you struggle with this, join us for group coaching: coach n clear or a mastermind group.

 Learn to self-coach. The power of self-coaching is profound.

3. Create more love:  If things can be horrible and end badly, couldn’t something wonderful happen just as easily? It’s only a thought, friend, and a thought can be changed.  Choose a thought that helps you feel better. With that change in thought comes a change in emotion. If you sustain that emotion for a while, you can even change your mood. Hang around with that positive mood, and it will become a habit, a character trait, and ultimately a gift to your posterity through your DNA. The thoughts you choose to create are powerful!

There are endless possibilities in this world. 

Choose the ones that help you feel loved and secure. 

You are a creator by heritage.

Use that divine gift and create a life you love. 

You’ll be glad you did.

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Happy Holidays!

Working with the Echo of Christmas Past

This month, we are reading ‘Marley’ in Book Club, the story of Ebenezer Scrooge’s guide through the “Echo” of his Christmases Past.

 Navigating the echoes of past holidays can be a profound journey, and understanding the ECHO framework — Event, Context, Homeostatic shift, and Outcomes — provides a valuable map for this exploration. Just like Ebenezer Scrooge confronted his Christmas Past with the help of Marley's ghost, we too can delve into our own echoes and transform them.

E - the Event

C -the Context

H -The Homeostatic shift 

O - The Outcomes in our lives

Thomas McConkie's insight into the Homeostatic shift (H) is particularly enlightening. When intense emotions overwhelm us during an event (E), our bodies generate a surge of chemicals. This overflow, or overwhelm, necessitates redirection to prevent an adverse impact on our well-being. The stored emotions may resurface during an ECHO, triggering a powerful re-experience of those feelings. Recognizing these echoes is the first step in addressing them.

Have you had experience reliving the echoes of Christmas past?

To navigate the echoes of Holidays Past, consider these Creator-based® Coaching tools:

6. A 50/50 Holiday and Expectations: Expect a balanced experience and let that 50/50 plan change your holidays for the better.  

7. Compassion and self-love/self-care create a holiday spirit; rehearse & remember the good echoes from your life daily.

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Creator-based® Christmas: Embracing Your Creator Role with Grace

As we dive into the festive season, the whirlwind of holiday activities can sometimes sweep us off our feet. Personally, I revel in the magic of Christmas and discovering the beauty in Hanukkah and other winter celebrations. The diversity, the lessons, and the shared joy in each holiday contribute to the magic of this special time of year. Yet, my absolute favorite is Christmas – a time for me to center myself and celebrate my Creator.

Amidst the hustle and bustle, there are moments when I unintentionally slip out of my creator role and find myself being influenced by the holidays rather than actively shaping how I engage with them. I feel like a victim to my to-do list. Sound familiar?

There are two key indicators the role shift: thoughts and feelings.

Alert messages manifest in thoughts laden with 'have to,' 'must,' 'should,' and 'gotta' – clear signals that I've relinquished my creator power to external forces. Emotional indicators like resentment, frustration, and guilt serve as a compass as well.  If the feelings aren't positive, it's time to check my stance.

Conversely, words like 'get to,' 'excited,' 'can’t wait,' and 'delight' firmly place me in a creator stance. Recognizing this duality is part of the human experience, where we're expected to navigate both success and failure. 

If you find yourself ensnared in the 'should and have to' mindset, fret not. Life is a 50/50 blend, and if you mess up, it’s okay. Where you are right now is precisely where you're meant to be to grasp this life lesson.

Here's a gentle guide to reclaiming your creator role during the holidays or any time:

1. Pause and reflect on the suffering you’re feeling.  It’s okay.  Give yourself a hug and recognize you are not alone. We are all 50/50 Beings, and this is simply the other half.  Allow yourself to feel the feels and take care of yourself in it. Then…

2. Celebrate your Recognition: Pat yourself on the back for recognizing your thoughts and role as a victim and owning it – Recognition is  90% of the battle won!

3. Express Gratitude: Thank your Creator for opening your eyes to this realization. Gratitude is a super power!

4. Take a Mini-Minute and Extend Grace: Whether it's a deep breath or reflecting on a time of success and abundance, take a moment for you.  Be kind to yourself. Grace is a friendly, helpful force – an expression of Creator love. It's as powerful as, if not more than, gratitude.

5. Ask an Empowering Question: What thought would make me feel really good right now? Ponder that thought, then act on the next positive impulse. Remember, it's all about baby steps. Action brings Creation and more positive action.

Embracing your creator role with grace transforms the holiday hustle into a meaningful celebration. Wishing you a joyous and Creator-based® Christmas!

Creating light in the darkness.

Let’s talk about darkness. We are approaching winter solstice, and it’s dark when I wake in the morning. I miss the warmth and optimism of the summer sun, the birds singing, the world waking as I wake. I mean, it’s dark. And it’s cold and often gloomy.

Do you have darkness in your life right now? Is the emotional light of your days getting shorter, and you find your thoughts with less light and hope, feeling less love? That’s okay.

We have a 50/50 Life, and that dark side is part of it.  

The trick, my friend, is to remember that the light is just on the other side while it's dark. Choose to sit in gratitude for the contrast and learning that comes in the darkness. I can still hear my yoga teacher saying, as we held a difficult pose, “Don’t fight it.” As we allow the discomfort, it feels better.

Choose to allow.  

Choose to learn. 

Choose gratitude.

Things are easier when we choose to learn as we feel through the dark times.

So, as the days grow darker - quite literally - try these thoughts on.  

If you can’t say I’m grateful for the darkness, sadness, anger, frustration, grief, injustice etc. can you say… 

I am willing to feel and learn from this. 

Can you choose to tell yourself a different story about the dark? I heard this week that peace is the space we find between the stories we tell ourselves. I’m sure you have felt those moments of quiet peace- they’re lovely.  

What about remembering the good you have experienced when the tough experiences arrive?

Remember when your Creator has been there for you.  

Remember when the sun is warm on your skin and the times you have felt loved.  

Remember how strong and supported you are.  

Remembering the good will bring you light over the short, dark times.

This winter darkness is simply seasonal. Whatever the pain, it is neither permanent nor pervasive and will end. That’s what 50/50 is all about. The flip side of this coin is light and lovely, and light will return- it’s inevitable. Life is a 50/50 experience. 50% good and 50% not so good. 

Here’s to the light, my friend- and the learning in the darkness. 

It’s all good.

All my love,

Beth

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There are many emotions and patterns associated with the holidays.  Yes, I said it- “The Holidays”.  The very words may conjure happy anticipation or dread and an adrenal surge.  It happens every year, just like clockwork.  There are so many feelings about “The Holidays.”

The Holidays can be a very soothing and happy time as we enter into them in the Creator-based® Way.  This tip from Alex Howard can propel you forward as you stop focusing on the upcoming problem situations and create the holiday and the life you really want. 

It’s a simple little acronym- STOP.  Like stop holiday stress, stop holiday dread, and stop holiday angst.  Instead, use this acronym to start creating the holidays you would like to have.

I just returned from 3 weeks at my daughter’s - a delightfully foreign place filled with children and all their attending happiness, screaming, joy, and chaos.  We waited and walked through those weeks for her fourth baby to be born.  In that time, I was able to practice STOP repeatedly.  When I came home, I kept going and wanted to share it with you because it works.  When you notice that you are activated in some way- irritated, worried, frustrated, lonely, etc. STOP.

S See the Pattern

T Take the pause

O Open to the feelings 

In your emotional and

Physical body.

P 

  Praise yourself.

1. See the pattern: when has this happened before?

2. Take the pause: Come back into your body through a deep breath, finding your feet or noticing scent, sound, taste, and touch.

3. Open to the feelings in your emotional and physical body: What emotions are you feeling? Where in your body do you feel them? See into them and notice what they say to you.

4. Praise Yourself: You need to do nothing more than congratulate and tell yourself how great you are at this point. You remembered to take care of yourself- good job! You have reset your nervous system onto a new path and most likely feel differently. 

This little pattern, practiced regularly over time (through the holidays), will change the way you think and feel and promote an ongoing kinder, gentler approach to yourself and your life. It is incredibly simple and profound.

 Try it! You’ll be glad you did!

 I sure am.