A Creator-based® Life

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 The Blessings of Compassion

What is compassion really? 

Compassion is the C in CMH Coaching.  

It is vital to a happy, satisfying life. 

Compassion is treating someone with kindness and understanding.  

It is being a good friend.  

Compassion is nurturing

Listening

Seeking first to understand

Suspending judgment.

Are you as compassionate with yourself as you are with others?

Consider your Compassion: When you have done something you are not proud of, what would it look like to suspend judgment and seek first to understand?

Compassion is passion with a heart.

Jaycine reveals the Seven Forbidden Phrases:

1. No.

2. I don't know.

3.....listen and see- they're amazing!

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Trick or Treat is just around the corner, a day filled with little ghosts and goblins eagerly awaiting their treats, their faces glowing with anticipation and adorned in bright costumes. The sight of these little ones on their parade can be truly delightful. Have you ever taken a moment to experience the joy of dropping candy into their pillowcase or bucket? Their gratitude and delight can inspire us to contemplate the future in a new light.

Generosity is a remarkable and expansive act that carries the promise of hope and momentum for all involved. When we give generously, we also open ourselves up to receiving. Sharing your time, spirit, and heart generously is a way to grow and welcome overwhelming blessings into your life. It's almost a paradox that by giving, you receive even more, but that's how these backward laws work. The truth is, when you give, it often comes back to you in abundance, even if that means finding sticky candy remnants around the house after Halloween.

Let's delve into the 3 steps of Creator-based® Receiving: Ask. Believe. Receive.

1. Ask: Start by knowing what you want, even if it's as simple as wanting to feel better. Take a moment to articulate your desires to yourself or a loved one. Clarity in your requests is key. Many of us wonder why we don't get what we want, but the first step is asking for it.

2. Believe: Do you truly believe that you can receive what you're asking for? For instance, if you seek respect from your peers, do you believe you deserve it? Belief plays a significant role in the receiving process. You need to work on believing that you are worthy of what you desire, whether it's a new dishwasher or a new partner.

3. Receive: Place yourself in an environment where you're most likely to receive what you've asked for. If you're craving a McDonald's hamburger, you won't find it at Wendy's. Understand what it takes to receive what you want and where to find it. Then, work your way toward it.

Ask. Believe. Receive. It might sound simple, and in its essence, it is. However, in each of these steps, you are the creator of your own destiny. Embrace the Creator-based® way and know that you have the power to shape your life according to your desires.  Unlock the power or receiving!

Talking points:

Come see us at CMHCoaching.com! This month’s theme is Blessed, and we are considering how to receive the blessings that are out there in abundance for us already.  It’s harvest season, and one must go pick the garden produce in order to receive it.  What are your blocks and/or processes for receiving all the good that’s out there in the world just for you?

Do less, expect more- Hope opens the door to receiving- How do you receive the good when you’re grumpy?  Creator-based® Cognition

https://www.uschamber.com/co/start/strategy/science-of-entrepreneurs-brains.                    

https://www.eurekalert.org/news-releases/992361

According to a study by HEC Liège Management School and Liège University Hospital, the brains of entrepreneurs are wired differently than people who work traditional jobs for a company. The study utilized resting-state functional magnetic resonance imaging (rs-fMRI), which involves looking at the brain while it’s at rest. The test results suggest that serial entrepreneurs or those who launch multiple businesses have stronger connections between two essential parts of the brain: the right insula, which is correlated to flexible thinking, and the anterior prefrontal cortex, which is a vital area for new decision-making. This unique wiring in the brain helps serial entrepreneurs think with flexibility. They can effectively switch between making the most out of current opportunities and exploring new ideas. While this balance is difficult to achieve, it’s crucial for the success of a startup or new business.  Even if you don’t have the natural ability to think like an entrepreneur, you can train your mind to do so.   Expect change, recognize opportunities, set goals, accept risks, be creative, embrace failure, communicate and collaborate, stay calm.

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Receiving in Relationships, the Creator-based® Way

Building a great relationship in a creator-based® way means it is infused with compassion, mindfulness, and hope. Here are three principles to guide you on this journey:

 In creator-based coaching, we understand that you are the creator of your life experience, and this includes your relationships.

1.  Take ownership of your role in the relationship. 

2. Be proactive in creating a positive and loving environment. 

3. Instead of waiting for the other person to change or make things better, 

4. focus on what you can do to contribute positively. 

5. Your actions, words, and intentions have a profound impact on the relationship's direction.

  1. Compassion is the foundation of any healthy relationship. 

2. Understand that both you and your partner are unique individuals with your own light and truth.

3.  Embrace each other's differences and imperfections with kindness and empathy. 

4. When conflicts arise, approach them with a compassionate heart. 

5. Seek to understand your partner's perspective, and 

6. communicate your own thoughts and feelings in a loving and non-judgmental way. 

7. Compassion fosters trust and connection.

1. Mindfulness is about being fully present in the moment. 

` 2. In your relationship, this means giving your partner your undivided attention and listening deeply when they speak. 

3. Put away distractions and be in the now. 

4. Additionally, recognize that "Together is Better.". 

5. Celebrate each other's successes and be a source of strength during challenges. 

6. When you approach your relationship with mindfulness and unity, it becomes a source of mutual inspiration and joy.

Building a great relationship requires effort, commitment, and a creator-based® approach. By taking responsibility for your role, practicing compassion and understanding, and embracing mindfulness and unity, you can create a loving and fulfilling connection with your partner. Relationships, like life itself, are a beautiful journey of co-creation where both individuals contribute to the shared experience. 

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This month’s theme is Blessed, and we are considering how to receive the blessings that are out there in abundance for us already.  It’s harvest season, and one must go pick the garden produce in order to receive it.  What are your blocks and/or tools for receiving all the good that’s out there in the world just for you?

Your being is whole whether you solve your problems or not.  They’re just problems, not you. (Mark Nepo) Let’s talk about focusing on you instead of your problems today.

Joy opens the door to receiving:

The Ta-Da List flips the to-do list on its head.  It’s not a list of things you need to do.  It's a list of things you have done.  It can be energizing and powerful for us.

When you’re doing many different things and feel like you’re never getting anywhere on one thing (being pulled in many directions), this can show you that you really are accomplishing a lot.  You can see what you did on every project and have the feeling of accomplishment you crave.  It can also prevent burn out by showing you your progress and that you’re not just spinning your wheels- you really are getting things done.

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Have you had a hard day? Well, you've come to the right place! Welcome to A Creator-based Life, the weekly podcast for CMH Coaching. We empower women of faith to create the lives they love- the lives they’ve always wanted. I’m here with Jaycine Bonnett, a business coach, Mom, Grandma, and avid runner, and Jennifer Dereus, a coach, a can-grow-anything gardener, and a hypnotherapist. And I’m Beth, a Master Life Coach, author, and creator of The Creator-based Way: Create Your One, Awesome, Amazing, Perfect Life.

This month’s theme is Blessed, and we are considering how to receive the blessings that are already out there in abundance for us already.  It’s harvest season, but one must go pick the garden produce in order to receive it.  Today, we are considering two of the blocks for receiving the good that’s out there in the world, judgment and conflict

In The Gifts of Imperfection, Brené Brown wrote, “Until we can receive with an open heart, we are never really giving with an open heart. When we attach judgment to receiving help, we knowingly or unknowingly attach judgment to giving help.”

Did something go wrong for you today?  It’s a Monday…

1. When something goes wrong in your life, what happens to your day?

Persecuted Victim: Choosing to continue the story and escalate

Challenged Creator: Choosing to create a more authentic story:   clarity and focus 

Judgment is the root of conflict.  

2. Pretend that we’ve gone to Anthropology and are trying on clothes.

3. Let’s try on some Ideas the same way. What experiences have you had about conflict, and how did they work out?  

4. Does conflict impact receiving? 

5. Consider the use of Thought Alchemy* to convert conflict to open receiving:

6. This is alchemy in the form of a transformation process or algorithm, like the ancient process of trying to convert different chemicals to gold- no voodoo or black magic here!

7. ALCHEMY! A New thought to try on- and it’s a very flattering style and your favorite color!  Judge less, Love more.  The alchemy of loving thoughts on current conflict is powerful.

“Until we can receive with an open heart, we are never really giving with an open heart. When we attach judgment to receiving help, we knowingly or unknowingly attach judgment to giving help.”

Judge less, Love more.  The alchemy of loving thoughts on current conflict is powerful.

Whatcha thinkin' my friend? Let's build Resilience through Working with our Thoughts.

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Show notes:

What is resilience? The ability to bounce back.  Talk about how our words and thoughts affect our resilience.

Napoleon Hill said, “All thought is creative! However, not all thought is constructive or positive.” 

Our words are like the electrical current that runs through our life- positive, negative, neutral.  They are tools for creating the life we have and will have.

Very negatively charged words,

 activating words- hate, positively charged, lifting words,  love- but equally important neutral words like intention.  (Wayne Dyer's The Power of Intention)

Experiment: drop a pen on the floor.

(More than a Definition - Words are Energy book by Sharon Klinger) 

A word is more than its definition because it contains energy and power. We actually feel words:

“The language you use brings forth the life that you create. And the words that you use over and over are the language that teaches you - and teaches the world about you. Your words are reflections - images of yourself.”

James J. Kilpatrick: We learn that words have an independent life of their own, grown out of echoes and connotations and associations.”  Every word carries an energy that can be sensed, whether you’re reading, hearing or thinking it.

James again- “We see words that blow like leaves in the winds of autumn- golden words, born words, words that catch the light like opals.”

Einstein: “I never came upon any of my discoveries through the process of rational thinking.”

Tips and tricks to capitalize on creating happiness, love, and joy in our hearts through working with our thoughts.

Did your mother ever take one good look at you and ask, “What were you thinking?” (Was your head with you all day?)

Today's podcast is a little shorter because of internet issues, but in a display of true Unity, Jenn and Jaycine took over and had a great teaching conversation while I got things back up and running. It's worth the listen!

On Patriot Day, a day of remembrance, we have the choice to remember in a way that helps us create a life we love. Join Jaycine, Beth, and Jenn as they share how they use compassion, mindfulness, and hope in their Creator-based coaching journey. They'll show you that being different isn't a deficiency but part of our design, and change is a gift. Today, choose to embrace these principles to create a life filled with light and truth.

Lissa Rankin's book, "Anatomy of a Calling," is an absolute game-changer! 🚀 This month, as we dived deep into the art of resilience and mastering the graceful dance of adapting to change, our discussion about Lissa's book was an absolute blast! Listen and learn the tools of graceful resilience. 📚🤩