This isn’t your usual polished podcast… In this special live episode, I opened the floor to YOUR questions, shared behind-the-scenes stories, and let the conversation flow completely unfiltered. We dug into everything from:

👉 Gigging (even if music isn’t your full-time job)

👉 Pre-show rituals and post-show habits (the good AND the bad)

👉 Rejection, resilience, and staying confident on stage

👉 Touring, West End pit work, and building a sustainable music career

👉 Silly hypotheticals (yes, including unicorns 🦄 vs dragons 🐉)

This is raw, honest, and totally in the moment — the kind of episode you can’t script.

📩 Want to go deeper? Book a free discovery call and let’s talk about your music career: emilydrums.com

🎧 Listen. Laugh. Learn. Feel seen. This is what “Live & Unfiltered” is all about.

Welcome to Episode 199 of A Drummer’s Guide To… Getting Called Out!

😳 What happened when I was exposed for fake followers and automated comments

💡 Why accountability creates deeper trust than perfection ever could

🎶 How mistakes on stage (yes, I’ve made plenty!) actually brought me closer to bandmates

🤝 Why vulnerability is the bridge to stronger relationships in music and beyond

🎧 Plus: if you’re ready to get personal guidance on your music career, book a free discovery call with me at emilydrums.com.

Rejection stings. It’s personal, it’s painful, and it can leave you questioning whether you’re good enough. But here’s the truth: rejection isn’t a dead end — it’s data.

✅ The hidden reasons you might get turned down (that no one tells you)

✅ How to turn setbacks into setups for future success

✅ Practical steps to reframe rejection as feedback, not failure

🔥 Think posting on Instagram is enough to grow your music career? Think again.

In episode #197 — A Drummer’s Guide To... Posting Isn’t Enough, I’m breaking down the real reason musicians get stuck at “likes” and never land the gigs.

You’ll learn:

🎯 The biggest Instagram mistakes that quietly cost you opportunities

🤝 How to turn followers into paying clients without feeling salesy

📲 My exact networking strategy that got me gigs straight from my phone

💡 How to make your profile a magnet for the RIGHT people If you’ve been posting and praying, this episode will show you how to actually get noticed, booked, and paid.

🎧 Listen to episode #197 — Posting Isn’t Enough now and turn your IG from a time-waster into your most powerful gig-getting tool.

Ever found yourself stuck between your own career goals and commitments you've made to others?

You're not alone.

In this episode, I’m talking about one of the hardest parts of building a career in music: letting people down.

Whether it’s leaving a band, turning down a gig, or backing out of a commitment that no longer serves you — this one’s for you. I’ll walk you through:

• Why disappointing others is sometimes the right move

• How to handle guilt and anxiety when choosing yourself

• The mindset shift that helped me stop sacrificing my career out of obligation If you’ve ever made (or avoided) a difficult decision out of fear of hurting someone else’s feelings…

this episode might be exactly what you need to hear. 

🎧 This one’s a wake-up call. In this episode, I’m breaking down the sneaky ways we self-sabotage in our music careers — and how to stop.

From fear disguised as logic to procrastination dressed up as “research,” this is a raw, real talk on the hard truths most musicians avoid. If you’ve ever said:

👉 “There’s no work out there”

👉 “I’m just not ready yet”

👉 “I’ll focus on this after [insert excuse here]”

...then this episode is a must-listen.

Inside, we’ll talk about:

🔥 Why confirmation bias is stalling your career

🔥 How to build confidence without fake hype

🔥 Using jam nights, content, and community on purpose

🔥 Why perfectionism is the enemy of progress

🔥 How to replace passive hope with meaningful action

🎯 You’ll leave with honest strategies to stop unintentionally killing your own momentum — and a reminder that you're capable of so much more.

If you’ve ever looked at your age or your past and thought, “I’ve missed my chance,” this episode is for you.

👀 ⁠ I’m diving into one of the most common fears I hear from musicians: "Is it too late to make music my career?" ⁠ In this episode, I’m sharing:

🎵 Why your age isn’t a barrier — it's actually a superpower

💥 How life experience adds emotional depth to your playing

🧠 The subtle ways stereotypes around age, gender, race & goals limit us

🎯 How to reframe “missed opportunities” and start fresh — at any age ⁠ Whether you're 21 or 61, there is a place for you in this industry — and it's never too late to take your next step. ⁠

💌 Want support making that leap? DM me "coaching" or visit emilydrums.com/coaching.

Let’s be honest: sometimes what’s holding us back isn’t lack of talent, it’s avoiding the truth.

In this episode, I’m sharing the unfiltered advice I’d give you if I wasn’t afraid of hurting your feelings — because sugar-coating doesn’t create progress.

We’ll talk about:

• Why talent doesn’t guarantee success

• The difference between busy and effective

• How avoiding discomfort is secretly costing you gigs

• The harsh realities of professional musicianship no one talks about

• And what to actually do if you feel stuck right now

This episode is full of hard-won wisdom from years on the road, in studios, and navigating the ever-changing music industry. It’s the truth I wish someone had told me sooner.

💬 Listen in. Get uncomfortable. And grow stronger because of it.

😬 Got rehearsals coming up for a big gig… and no idea what to expect? You're not alone — no one teaches you what actually happens in pro rehearsals. That feeling of “I hope I’m doing this right”? I’ve been there — and this episode is here to help you ditch the panic and show up ready.

In A Drummer’s Guide To... Rehearsal Rundown 101, I cover:

🥁 How to prep before you even walk in

🤐 What happens when you don’t ask questions (and how to fix it)

📋 What MDs and artists expect from you

🍱 Why a heated lunchbox might just save your sanity

Whether it’s your first arena gig or your biggest gig yet, this episode will take away the guesswork.

🎙 Listen to A Drummer’s Guide To... Rehearsal Rundown 101 wherever you get your podcasts

📺 Or watch on YouTube.

🐺 Think you have to go it alone in music to prove yourself?

• Why isolating yourself slows your progress

• How to find your people (even if you’re shy)

• The difference between using contacts and building genuine connections

• What healthy networking looks like — without the cringe

• How mentors, bandmates, and fellow creatives keep you sane and successful