Why we get triggered and a whole new way to look at it + work through it

When we are born, we experience less than perfect attunement from our parents. At this moment, we make the unconscious choice to side against ourselves and develop a way to cope: a coping tool like shutting down our anger, making our parents laugh, or even becoming their little therapists.

These coping mechanisms bring out a specific part of us, neglecting another, opposing part. For example, when I feel unloved, I become a people pleaser. I neglect my wild, untamed powerful, selfish self, I highlight my nice part.

And guess what's happening here? Two things:

We can work through this by regulating our nervous system, and by allowing emotions to arise and processing them: emotions that likely have to do with what I ACTUALLY wanted to express in my childhood towards my parents when they did this thing that caused me to create this coping mechanism/part in response.

Mindful self compassion and parts work are another set of tools that are extremely helpful in this process of working through our triggers. 

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