A Really Good Cry

When the world tells you who you should be, how do you come home to your authentic self?

Can you be both stressed and blessed at the same time, or must you choose one?

How do we find room for joy and celebration while facing collective suffering and oppression?

 

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi sits down with Dr. Thema Bryant, a trauma recovery expert and 2023 President of the American Psychological Association (APA), for a deeply reflective conversation on identity, faith, and the process of "Homecoming."

 

Dr. Bryant shares her personal journey growing up with ministers who practiced liberation theology, which is about the community and the collective, not just the individual and God. This led her to discover liberation psychology, focusing on context and systems to empower everyone. 

 

She also discusses how her childhood home was like her "first time working at like a crisis hotline" and how moving to Liberia, West Africa, gave her confidence from seeing people who looked like her in positions of authority. Together, they explore how stress, trauma, and oppression disconnect us from ourselves, the meaning of her podcast and book Homecoming, and how to cultivate joy while working for justice.

 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

 

• Why "Homecoming" is about liberation and coming back to yourself, even for the first time
• How healthy relationships and spaces are required for you to be able to come back to yourself
• The difference between coping with trauma and healing from it
• Why avoidance in therapy prevents healing and the value of trauma-focused and somatic therapy.
• How liberation psychology recognizes that systems (like media and educational systems) affect us, beyond just personal issues.
• The connection between the desire for control (or "busy-ness") and past trauma or anxiety.
• The importance of self-care practices like quiet time to stay grounded and not be easily moved by others' opinions.
• That true worthiness and sacredness are not tied to performance.
• The difference between "God-fearing" and believing in a loving God 

 

This episode is a powerful reminder that while stress and oppression may disconnect us, liberation is possible. Healing isn't about becoming someone new; it's about remembering, accepting, and appreciating who you were before the world told you who to be. You hold the special sauce within you.

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Get Dr. Thema’s book here: Homecoming: Overcome Fear and Trauma to Reclaim Your Whole, Authentic Self

 

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Have you ever felt off—but couldn’t quite explain why?

Are you craving balance, clarity, or deeper connection with your body?

Or maybe… you're tired of chasing wellness fads and just want to feel at home in yourself again?

 

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi shares the gentle, powerful wisdom of Ayurveda—an ancient approach to healing that helps us reconnect to the natural rhythms of our body, mind, and spirit.

 

Rooted in presence and compassion, Ayurveda teaches us to slow down and truly listen. You’ll learn how the five elements and three doshas shape your physical and emotional patterns, and how everyday choices—from the meals you cook to the energy you carry—can guide you back to balance.

 

Radhi opens up about the rituals that ground her, the foods that nourish her, and how this practice has helped her understand herself more deeply—beyond just symptoms or routines.

 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to reconnect with your body’s subtle signals
• What the doshas are—and how they impact your mood, energy, and digestion
• The Ayurvedic approach to food, cooking, and self-care
• Why healing doesn’t mean perfection, but presence
• Simple practices to help you feel more grounded, calm, and aligned
• How honoring your unique constitution can support long-term health

 

Whether you're brand new to Ayurveda or looking to deepen your practice, this episode is an invitation to tune in, slow down, and return to what your body’s been trying to tell you all along.

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Why do we want what we want?

Is desire a sign of lack or alignment?

What if the only thing blocking your abundance is your capacity to hold it?

Can loss actually prepare you for more?

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi sits down with entrepreneur and spiritual teacher David Ghiyam to unpack manifestation, wealth, relationships, and the spiritual laws that shape our reality.

 

David shares how taking a vow of poverty at 19 shaped his understanding of money, and how subconscious beliefs kept him financially stuck for 15 years. He explains the concept of expanding your “vessel”: if you try to hold a million-dollar life with limited capacity, it will collapse. The work isn’t about chasing success, it’s about becoming someone who can sustain it.

 

They discuss immigrant scarcity mindset, generational trauma around money, and why enjoying wealth is just as important as earning it. The conversation also dives into magnetic energy in relationships, transforming darkness into certainty, and why true prayer is asking to become the person who can hold them.

 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why desire signals potential, not lack

How limiting beliefs cap your income and relationships

What it means to expand your capacity for abundance

How to break generational fear around money

Why validation repels and wholeness attracts

How to turn setbacks into spiritual growth

 

This episode is about doing the inner work so success doesn’t break you, it builds you.

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Do your standards shrink the room?

Have you ever been called too much, too intense, too selective, too particular?

What if that's not a flaw, but proof of the work you've done on yourself?

 

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi gets real about what it means to hold high standards — in dating, friendship, work, and with yourself. She breaks down the difference between ego-driven expectations and value-driven ones, and why knowing the difference changes everything.

 

In this episode, you'll learn:

- Why being "low maintenance" isn't the flex we think it is.

- The difference between ego standards and value standards.

- Three tests to check if your standards are rooted in values or image.

- Why "you're too much" is about their capacity, not your worth.

- How Oprah, Serena Williams, and Indra Nooyi refused to shrink and won.

 

Your standards aren't the problem. Compromising them is.

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In a world where we’re told to “wait until you’re ready,” what does that really mean for your body?

Are we empowering women with information about fertility — or overwhelming them with fear?

And how do you hold hope when the journey to pregnancy feels uncertain, unpredictable, or painfully slow?

 

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi sits down with fertility specialist and author of The Lucky Egg, Dr. Lucky Sekhon, for an honest, empowering conversation about modern fertility, egg health, PCOS, endometriosis, IVF, and everything in between.

 

Dr. Sekhon breaks down what’s actually happening in our bodies — from ovulation and insulin resistance to inflammation and the biological clock — in a way that feels informative, not intimidating. She explains why regular periods matter, why lifestyle is important (but not something to weaponize against yourself), and how science has dramatically improved IVF success rates over the years. Together, they explore the emotional toll of trying to conceive, the frustration of conflicting advice, and why fertility isn’t just about statistics — it’s also about resilience, timing, and sometimes, a little bit of luck.

 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

 

• When women should realistically start thinking about fertility — and why education shouldn’t start in crisis
• The real connection between insulin resistance, PCOS, and ovulation
• Why painful periods should never be normalized and what that could signal
• How endometriosis affects fertility — and why it often goes undiagnosed
• The truth about egg freezing and what it can (and can’t) protect you from
• What lifestyle habits actually move the needle (and which trends are overrated)
• How GLP-1 medications are unexpectedly changing fertility journeys
• Why regular movement, strength training, and sleep matter more than perfection
• The difference between forcing control and staying resilient in uncertainty
• Why you only need one healthy egg — and why that truth gives so many women hope

 

This episode is a reminder that fertility isn’t a moral measure of your worth. It’s biology, timing, health, and sometimes sheer unpredictability. Whether you’re actively trying, planning for the future, freezing your eggs, or simply wanting to understand your body better — this conversation gives you clarity without panic, and hope without false promises.

 

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Are you waiting to feel certain before you make a move?

Do you know something needs to change but not what?

What if feeling lost isn't a flaw, but a signal?

 

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi breaks down the real psychology behind feeling lost and why it's not about lacking ambition or motivation, but about unmet needs you might not even know you have. From the Self-Determination Theory to envisioning your future selves, this episode gives you a practical, honest framework to stop spinning and start moving.

 

Rather than telling you to "follow your passion" or make a dramatic leap, Radhi explores how small experiments, values clarity, and the right questions can create more direction than any five-year plan ever could. Because sometimes the path forward isn't found by thinking harder, it's found by understanding yourself better.

 

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why feeling lost is often a sign of an unmet psychological need, not a life crisis.
• How to identify whether you're missing autonomy, growth, or connection.
• A powerful exercise to envision three versions of your future self.
• Why values always matter more than goals.
• How to run low-stakes "micro-experiments" instead of making terrifying leaps.
• Three questions to return to whenever you feel stuck again.

Clarity doesn't come from overthinking; it comes from honest self-reflection, small brave actions, and knowing what actually lights you up from the inside.

 

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Why does hair loss feel so sudden—and so personal?

Is it stress, hormones, diet… or something deeper happening in the body?

And why do so many “miracle” hair products never actually work?

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi Devlukia is joined by board-certified dermatologist Dr. Noreen Galaria for a grounding, science-forward conversation about hair loss, scalp health, and what your body is really communicating through your hair.

Dr. Galaria breaks down the hair growth cycle using a simple seasonal analogy, explaining why hair loss today often reflects stress from months ago—and why patience is essential when it comes to regrowth. Together, they unpack the two most common causes of hair loss in women: chronic stress and hormonal pattern hair loss, and why each requires a completely different approach.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why hair loss has a 3-month delay—and what that means for healing
• The difference between stress-related shedding and hormonal pattern hair loss
• How cortisol and chronic anxiety affect hair growth
• Why scalp health matters more than most products
• What ingredients actually help (and which ones are overhyped)
• The truth about Minoxidil, biotin, rosemary oil, and onion juice
• How protein intake directly impacts hair density
• Why tight hairstyles can cause permanent hair loss
• What your hair can reveal about your overall health
  
  

This episode is a reminder that hair loss isn’t a personal failure. Your body isn’t betraying you, it’s responding.

 

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What if you’re not burnt out — just energetically cluttered?

Why does anxiety build even when nothing “big” has happened?

How much of your exhaustion comes from micro-betrayals of your own boundaries?

What would change if you cleaned your energy the way you clean your body?

 

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi introduces the concept of Spiritual Hygiene — the daily practices that prevent emotional, mental, and energetic buildup. She explains how we don’t usually fall apart from one major event, but from tiny, unreleased accumulations: unspoken irritation, doomscrolling, overgiving, comparison, and saying yes when we mean no.

 

Radhi breaks down five forms of spiritual hygiene — integrity, attention, emotional, relational, environmental, and talk hygiene — and explores how anxiety is often the gap between who we say we are and how we’re actually living. She shares personal reflections on leaked energy, digital clutter, overstimulation, and the subtle ways we disconnect from ourselves in modern life.

 

This episode is a reset — an invitation to clear the dust off your spirit and return to yourself.

 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why micro-accumulations lead to burnout and resentment.
• How doomscrolling dysregulates your nervous system.
• What “integrity hygiene” means and how to practice it.
• Why unprocessed emotions turn into personality traits.
• How your environment quietly impacts your anxiety.
• The power of changing the way you speak to yourself.

 

Spiritual hygiene isn’t about perfection — it’s about daily clearing so you can move through the world lighter, calmer, and more aligned.

 

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What if your anxiety isn’t just in your mind, but in your body?

Why do certain pains never fully go away?

Can tiny movements actually release stored trauma?

What if your body isn’t broken but just protective?

 

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi sits down with somatic healing expert Liz Tenuto to explore how emotional stress and trauma live in the body, and how to safely release it.

 

Liz explains that “soma” means body, and somatic healing focuses on small, intentional micro-movements that help regulate the nervous system. Unlike traditional workouts or even yoga, somatics is about restoring agency, reconnecting the mind and body so you feel safe inside yourself again.

 

They discuss how unprocessed stress can show up as jaw tension, tight hips, gut issues, panic attacks, and chronic pain. Liz breaks down nervous system responses like fight, flight, freeze, and dissociation, and explains why shaking, or neurogenic tremors, can actually be the body completing a stress cycle.

 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How trauma gets stored physically in the body.
• Why jaw, neck, and hips hold stress.
• What the freeze response actually feels like.
• How to calm panic through simple body-based tools.
• The difference between nervous system safety and intensity.
• Why healing is about regulation, not perfection.

 

This episode is a reminder that your body is always trying to protect you - and with the right tools, you can teach it that it’s safe again.

 

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What if forgiveness isn’t about the person who hurt you, but about your own peace?

Can anger be a disguise for deeper feelings like guilt or betrayal?

Is it possible to forgive without ever speaking to someone again?

How do you release trauma that keeps looping in your body and mind?

 

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi explores forgiveness as a one-person process, a choice made for your own healing, not for anyone else. She explains why forgiveness must be voluntary and intentional, and how societal pressure can make it feel performative.

 

Radhi also distinguishes between “big T” trauma, like abuse or loss, and “little t” daily grievances, sharing stories from survivors and her experiences in Rwanda after the 1994 genocide. She breaks down how anger can physically manifest and keep you tied to past pain.

 

The episode walks you through the four stages of forgiveness: Hate, Hurt, Understanding, and Release — practical steps to untie the emotional knot and reclaim your peace.

 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why forgiveness is for you, not them.
• The difference between forgiveness and reconciliation.
• How anger can hide deeper emotions.
• Why trauma can show up physically in your body.
• The four-step framework to release pain.
• How daily practice of forgiveness can free your nervous system.

 

Forgiveness is not a single moment — it’s a process of reclaiming your power and choosing peace.

 

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