Learning to diminish yourself for the comfort of others is something many minorities subconsciously learn as a defence mechanism in order to assimilate. It is much more difficult to consciously examine and unlearn, especially when enforcing your boundaries has been labelled as impolite.

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Kaidain Ivy breaks down some of the things they wish they had learned earlier in life.

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Kaidain Ivy muses through their journey of discovering and embracing sexuality.

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Taking mermaiding to the next step with a new mermaid tail skin to cover the monofin!

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Agoraphobia is a side effect of CPTSD that has been exacerbated over the pandemic due to the increasing level of hostility towards Asians.

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The topic of identity is a reoccurring one to examine especially when specific identifiers have become your introduction as a way to make people more comfortable.

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https://www.atonemeantforme.com/episode-66-adoption-as-an-identifier/

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The weight of being silenced and invisible is a burden with many faces but are met with incredulity or scorn when those experiences are voiced. 

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The weight of expectation can feel immeasurable at times. Sometimes the exhaustion of the journey can outweigh and dull the shine of the achievement, especially within the marginalized communities. 

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Having gained more experience mermaiding, Kaidain Ivy shows and explains the features of their new mermaid fluke (monofin). 

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Episode 62: Painting Breakdown