A Voice for Men

Please join us Monday, April 9, 2012 at 8pm EST when Paul Elam of AVoiceforMen and Dr Tara Palmatier of Shrink4Men will discuss the merits of thinking with your big head instead your "little head" and your lower brain. Too many otherwise intelligent men get themselves into trouble by choosing romantic partners based solely upon physical attraction and sabotage potentially good relationships or stay in bad ones out of fear.

Physical attraction is important, but if what lies beneath the surface is ugly and incredibly damaged, you’re not using your big head. If you sacrifice your self-respect and integrity to please a woman, you’re using your little head. If you sacrifice your self-respect and integrity because you believe you can’t live without some woman, you’re using your lower or “reptilian” brain because you’re allowing fear to guide your behavior.

We'll also discuss how to engage both your reason and emotion in your relationships with women. Reason and emotion do not have to be antagonists and making proper use of both is one path toward having more satisfying relationships.

As always, the phone lines will be open, so if you have a story about allowing your little head or lower brain to do the thinking for you or how you’ve been able to get your self-respect in alignment with what you will and will not tolerate in a partner, give us a call at +1 310 388 9709.

So you think you understand patriarchy? What if masculine “dominance” meant that instead of being in charge, men were required to assume all responsibilities, and had no choice. What if female submission meant that women were protected, provided for, and served, but owned no accountability. What if the definition of masculine identity was inexorably tied to service and sacrifice, and self actualization outside these narrowly defined boundaries was automatically punished with socially approved violence?

Tonight JtO and GWW examine the other side of patriarchy, the side big feminism refuses to acknowledge. It might even be that feminists banging the bongo drum have been right all along, but have only been telling half the story.

We don’t have to sell this to a red pill crowd. You know all about women on pedestals. Been there, done that, got the T-shirt and outgrew it. But there is still an awful lot of salvageable blue pill men out there that could benefit from a better understanding of what pedestalizing, and especially depedestalizing, is about. The knowledge alone can make the difference between walking bi-pedal and upright, or crawling through a relationship getting your knees, and the rest of you, scuffed up.

Join Dr. Paul and Dr. T Monday night on AVfM Radios “show with no name,” as we discuss the many ways you can tell if she is on a pedestal and what can be done about it.

Once the smoke clears from all the non PC points we have to make what we are left with is the most important thing for a man to know. If the choice is between keeping her and keeping self-respect, only a moron keeps her.

But the sad fact is that a lot more men than will admit it sacrifice their self-respect in order to hang on to someone who also doesn’t respect them. And remember, this isn’t Oprah. No one here is going to give these men a pass on making bad choices. That is why they call them choices.

What we will offer, though, is the rationale for making better choices; choices that lead men back to their dignity and well-being, and that offer them the only legitimate path to being treated with respect by their partners.

As always, the call in number for the show is 310-388-9709. We would especially like to hear men call in that can tell us their story on how they depedestalized a woman in their life.

In tonight's edition of A Voice for Men Radio, JtO and GWW take a closer look at violence. Necessary in this examination is discarding the childish notion that all, or even most violence in the world is direct. The use of violence by proxy, at one or more remove is the principal way that we disguise the use of violent force, from others, as well as hiding our own violence from ourselves, if we experience the ethical failing of the use of force.

The proxy violence of ideologues opposing the human rights of men is thrown under a bright light tonight with Hosts John the Other, and Girl Writes What. The call in number for the show is 310-388-9709

Do you throw up a little in your mouth whenever you hear a woman say she expects her man to "treat her like a princess?" Are you tired of the Princess Mentalityexhibited by so many women today? Then it's time to stop playing page, serfand vassal to her self-appointed highness.

With the exception of the few remaining royal houses, princesses aren't born, they're made. Well-meaning parents buy Disney princess costumes for their little girls and refer to their daughters as their "little princesses."

Here's the problem: Many little princesses grow up to become adult princesses with out of control entitlement issues, believe it's all about them, all the time and that their wants and feelings trump all else. Self-appointed princesses typically don't see their partners as equals, but rather as subjects who live to serve them. Reciprocity? Pfft.

For the men out there who haven't figured out that a woman who refers to herself as princess is best avoided (huge red flag), this show is for you. It's time to stop playing vassal to Her Monstrosity (i.e., her monstrous, over-inflated ego) and time to learn that healthy love relationships are about treating one another with MUTUAL respect, dignity, integrity, love, affection, consideration, getting back what you give and not treating one partner like royalty.

Please join your co-hosts, Dr Tara Palmatier of Shrink4Men and "Dr Paul" Elam of AVfM on Monday, March 26, 2012 at 9pm EST, when they'll discuss a big part of the Princess Problem: Men who buy into these royal pains in the arse.

Phone lines will be open +1 310 388 9709.

So you say you want a matriarchy, eh?

John the Other and Girl Writes What will be examining this question tonight on AVfM Radio.

What is the natural outcome of a true matriarchal social system, in which in contrast to property and land being owned by men and passed through inheritance from father to son, it is owned by women, and passed by inheritance from mother to daughter. Idealistic feminists continue to insist that this is a more peaceful and utopian way of doing business for human cultures.

Are they right? In tonight's show, we will apply a little bit of logical reasoning, as well as examining the outcomes of some currently extant matriarchal social models in real world application.

The answer is unfortunately a violent, socially fragmented social system in which everyone is impoverished, and the most aggressive, violent and predatory men end up on top of it all. Opposing arguments are invited to call in to the show 310-388-9709

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Do you ever feel like you are being tested in a relationship with a woman to see just how much garbage you will put up with? Does her voice start sounding like fingernails on a chalkboard? Do you often want to pull your hair out and scream “What the heck will it take to make her get off my back??!!”

Well, she is probably not a borderline, or a narcissist or any other kind of personality disorder.

She is a normal female, and she is making you crazy with normal female behavior. She isn’t bad, guys. She isn’t evil. She’s just a woman.

Sh*t testing, also known as nagging, criticizing, shaming, guilting and moaning, manipulating and a dozen other labels that your average guy knows all too well, is often a normal and expected part of the female relationship repertoire, and the fact is that most all men are really powerless and ignorant when it comes to handling these things.

You don’t have to take the brunt of this nonsense, and tonight, on Red Pill Relationship Rehab with Dr. Tara J. Palmatier of Shrink4Men and Dr. Paul of AVoiceforMen, are going to discuss this and the very simple solutions will bring peace back into your life and help you to understand that saying No to a woman is neither a four-letter word nor is it "abuse."

The call in number is 310-388-9709. The show starts at 9:00 p.m. EDT.

Tonight AVFM Radio introduces GirlWritesWhat as new co-host, and examines male identity in an increasingly feminized world. This is the blue-pill, blue kool-aid world most men and women inhabit before theyve swallowed and digested what we commonly call the red pill. But what do we mean when talking about these two views of reality. Male identity and value as a human being is what's at stake. In the blue pill world, this is based on utility, conformity and disposability. However, as women take on a greater participation in the working world, men find themlseves increasingly identified as disposable drones, socially indistinguishable from women. Where in this landscape do men find social value in thier identity as men?

Prevention of rational thought. The use of ideology to poison and cripple human minds. Is feminism more than just a set of false dogmas, hate and proxy violence? Tonight on AVFM Radio – John the Other examines the use of crippling anti-logic to prevent not only thought, but to render minds incapable of reason, logic or rationality. Feminism, the dominant ideology in our culture examined tonight as a cognitive poison, permanently damaging the minds of it's proponents. Tune in to AVFM Radio for an inoculation against the anti-logic of hatred, proxy violence and reason inhibiting cognitive toxin.

The Abortion Question - considering a third option. In the ongoing public debate between the right to life of unborn children, often argues as "pro life" and the right to self determination of prospective mothers, a third option is almost never considered. This third option is neither pro life, nor pro choice. Tonight JtO and guest Bob O'Hara will examine the question : why do we assume the right to reproduce at all? The third option in the debate over abortion is mandatory abortion, the question of choice. Join us at 6PM Pacific Standard Time on AVFM Radio.