After discovering more of who you are from Ep 3, you might notice some things are out of alignment with your values, but it feels impossibly scary to change!

Fear is a huge block to our authentic self-expression and acceptance. What would it be like to have a healthier relationship with it? And how could we know when to heed it vs. not let it hold us back?

This ep has an accompanying PDF workbook Fear-Kicking Feb (part of Dr. Toni's Monthly Challenges)

Study on the Remarkable Resilience of Happiness (Lottery Winners & Accident Survivors)

Ep 3: Who Are You, Really? How to Find Out

Building on your answers from Ep 1 and 2, this is a jam-packed episode with 30+ questions to discover who you truly are.

This understanding of your core, the 90% invisible part of the iceberg, is key to self-acceptance.

23 Free Personality Tests

Article on how the Gut actually has nerve cells!

Eudaimonic vs. Hedonic Happiness

Ep 2: Where did we come from? Escaping the Matrix

Where did your answers to episode 1’s questions come from? (What do you think you need to be, do or have in order to be “acceptable”?)

Tidbits and fun facts about conditionings. And how to start separating what YOU truly want from what OTHER people want or taught/told you you should want.

Share your thoughts or responses with Dr. Toni at DrTooni.com or her Acceptsians community. 

References:

If you suspect you may have experienced Childhood Emotional Neglect, take Dr. Jonice Webb's free quiz HERE!

Bredehoft PhD’s experiment

Subliminal messages/priming

Body Image Dissatisfaction Stats

Dr. Toni’s journey & story behind the birth of this podcast, from overweight awkward nerdy people-pleaser under strict Tiger Parent pressures to the thriving, quirky soul she is now after hitting Rock Bottom burnout. 

Why does the order matter between accepting and achieving? Why did she throw all her medical training away to follow her heart and childhood dreams of being a cartoonist & nomadic world wanderer? And how you can start honoring your heart too.

Blog at DrTooni.com

[00:57] - Traditional Asian Tiger Parenting upbringing

[04:44] - Overweight body shame

[05:50] - End of innate childhood lovability

[08:08] - About Highly Sensitive People (HSPs)

[10:16] - Hitting Rock Bottom

[12:02] - Issues with the broken medical system

[14:00] - Skydiving as an “Escape”

[16:55] - The birth of this podcast

[17:41] - Why the order matters between Accepting + Achieving

[19:45] - The root of a lot of mental health issues

[20:27] - Backlash + criticisms from family

[21:30] - Verbal + emotional abuse

[23:55] - How Self-Acceptance completely changed my life

[25:14] - Summary + 2 Action items

This show helps High Achievers, who dream of following their hearts but are tied down by self-doubt, practicalities, family or society’s pressures, create an authentic life of natural, joyful excelling from their fullest expression. 

Join Dr. Toni, ex-doctor now cartoonist, nomad & advocate for Asian Mental Health, as she shares tips, tools & tales of authentic achievement AFTER self-acceptance. 

Asian Tiger Parent & other high-pressure cultures demand that we conform & achieve in order to finally feel worthy, "good enough" & acceptable.

But they have it backwards; achieving through pushing & shaming yourself wrecks your mental health and can only get you so far.

You are okay and worthy, just as you are. You BELONG already, and you don’t need to perform, people-please, prove, or be perfect to deserve unconditional love & acceptance. 

Who you are is MORE than okay and MORE than enough. You belong, unconditionally. And you can actually achieve MORE if you accept first.

Subscribe and connect with Dr. Toni at DrTooni.com/contact or join her Acceptsians Self-Acceptance community.