According To B

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According To B episodes

  • Living At Home as an Adult w/ Tshegetso Moepi

    Checking into Hotel Mom and Dad?  

    Whether you’re moving back in with your parents or you never left the bird’s nest, living at home as an adult can be a wild ride. Maybe you need to save some cash, maybe it's comfortable & convenient, or perhaps you’re going through a tough time and need extra support. Look, we all have our reasons!

    In this episode, I’m joined by my good friend Tshegetso and we chat about what it’s really like to be grown up and still living at home. We share our personal experiences and you’ll get to listen to some heartfelt voicemails from fellow listeners who are also navigating this unique living situation.

    We’ll cover:

    - The pros and cons of living at home as an adult (yes, free laundry is a pro!)

    - Setting boundaries with your parents without causing World War III

    - The murky waters of finances, mental health and making the best out of a sticky situation

    Grab your headphones and a cup of tea, and let’s dive into the ups and downs of adulting under your parents' roof. You won’t want to miss this one!


    More Bokang:

    Instagram:⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang/⁠⁠

    Tik Tok:⁠ ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang⁠⁠


    More The B Word:

    Instagram:⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za/⁠⁠

    Tik Tok:⁠ ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za?lang=en⁠⁠ 


    Listen to Tshegetso’s Podcast (A Cup Full): https://open.spotify.com/show/5QzWSAsKddFrTo2yJcaNjw?si=1b316e7221a44a01


    For business inquiries: [email protected]

    Thank you for tuning in. Catch you in the next episode! x


    1 hr 16 min
  • A Seat at My Table: The Keys to Healthy & Meaningful Friendships

    Friendship in adulthood can be challenging to navigate but also incredibly special to experience and both of those things have been true for me. I have grown, changed and experienced so much love through friendship, and strongly believe that we all deserve to have those life changing friendships.


    Join me in today's episode as I delve deep into how friendship has been an anchor in my life and share all the ingredients necessary to build and sustain deep, meaningful and long-lasting friendships.

    We break down:   

    • The value of friendship in adulthood

      • Meet my “kitchen table” of close friends ()

        • The importance of authenticity and dependability

        • What women appreciate most in female friendships

          • Being growth oriented and facing conflict in friendships

            • Making space for more platonic love in your life

            • Buckle up and enjoy!

              - B xx


              Follow Bokang:

              Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang/⁠

              Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang⁠


              Follow The B Word:

              Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za/⁠

              Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za?lang=en⁠ 


              For business inquiries: [email protected]


              Thank you for tuning in. Catch you in the next episode! x

              1 hr
            • Everything Has Changed, Including Me. The Last Year of My Twenties!

              Okay so a lot is changing… Including me! Y’all, its been way too long – 9 months to be exact - since we last chatted but According to B is officially BACK and needless to say we have a lot to catch up on!

              Believe it or not, your girl has officially entered the last year of her twenties and as you can imagine I have a lot of feelings about it. But don’t worry, today we get into all that as well as what a transformative time the lead up to turning 29 has been.

              We break down:

              - Big changes to this podcast

              - The transformation that happens in your late 20s

              - The pressure & uncertainty of the early 20s

              - What it means to pivot

              - Listener’s Dispatch (Your experiences on your

              early 20s vs late 20s)

              - The biggest learnings & growth points in my

              journey

              - Late bloomer success stories

              - What’s next?

              Follow Bokang:

              Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang/

              Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang

              Follow The B Word:

              Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za/

              Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za?lang=en

              For business inquiries: [email protected]

              Thank you for tuning in. Catch you next week! x

              34 min
            • Dating with Intention & Design your Love Life w/ Thandi Gama

              ✰ ABOUT ✰


              In this week's episode I sit down with Thandi Gama to talk about intentional dating. Thandi shares what her dating experience has been like thus far and what intentional dating means to her. We discuss the values we looks for in a partner, navigating creating boundaries in a romantic relationships, how to navigate dating apps for better results and re-shaping our minds and relational expectations.


              ✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰


              Thandi Gama is a South African lifestyle content creator and entrepreneur. She is well known for her YouTube channel, where elegant meets laid back and her apartment living Instagram page which she shares with her sister and fellow content creator showcasing how they style their apartments/homes. She has worked with multiple high-end brands in her capacity as a content creator and has amassed a large following as a result.


              ✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰


              Bokang

              ➜ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang/

              ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang?lang=en

              ➜ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SheIsBokang

              The B Word

              ➜ Instagram:@thebword_za - https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za/

              ➜ Twitter: @thebword_za https://twitter.com/thebword_za

              ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za?l...

              Thandi

              ➜Instagram: https://instagram.com/thandigama?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA=

              ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thandigama?lang=en

              ➜ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Thandi_Gama/status/1489164230091808770?lang=en

              ✰ LISTEN ON ✰


              Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7bUlKg3TQS6LWZpZE?si=rLJ32 g73Q9a gjbU_VbORXw

              Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/according-to- b/id1686532135

              Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?utm_campaign=a_share_ch&utm_medi um=dlink&utm_source=a_share&country=gb

              ✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰


              47 min
            • The reality of following your dreams and living with purpose with Tshegetso Moepi
              Calling all dreamers and purpose chasers! This week is a bit of a different episode because first and foremost its a collaboration with Spotify Africa! Spotify invited me to record a podcast episode at their pop-up Greasy Tunes café and of course I said yes. This episode also has a video available to it so you can watch the conversation only here on Spotify if you'd like!
              ✰ ABOUT ✰
              In this week’s episode I sit down with my friend and the co-producer of According To B Tshegetso! We talk about the reality of following a dream and aspiring to live in our purpose. Both Tshegetso and I share our experiences of being creators, what taking a chance on ourselves has looked like, the role that God has played in continuing to prepare us for more, some mistakes we have made along the way, whether we feel like we are living in our purpose or not and what has kept us going even in the midst of uncertainty.
               
              ✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰
              Tshegetso is a podcaster, content writer and producer. As a content writer and producer here at The B Word she is part of a team of women behind the camera who is adding her unique voice to the stories we tell on this platform. Tshegetso has years of experience creating different kinds of content for different kinds of broadcasting spaces. Her podcast A Cup Full encourages listeners to prioritise their well-being and find sustainable ways to consistently show up for themselves and others in the in-betweens of life. It is filled with relatable conversation, empowering stories, experiences, lessons and plenty of wisdom. 
              ✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰ 
              Bokang
              ➜ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang/ 
              ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang?lang=en 
              ➜ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SheIsBokang 
                 
               The B Word
              ➜ Instagram: @thebword_za - https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za/ 
              ➜ Twitter: @thebword_za https://twitter.com/thebword_za 
              ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za?l... 
              Tshegetso 
              ➜ Instagram: https://instagram.com/tshege_mo?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA== 
              ➜ Tik Tok: www.tiktok.com/@acupfull 
              ✰ LISTEN ON ✰
              Spotify:
              https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7bUlKg3TQS6LWZpZE?si=rLJ32g73Q9a gjbU_VbORXw
              Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/according-to- b/id1686532135
              Castbox:
              https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?utm_campaign=a_share_ch&utm_medi um=dlink&utm_source=a_share&country=gb
              ✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰
              ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰             
              Director: Bokang Lehlokoe
              Producer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi 
              Videographer: Maxine Araujo
              Editor: Mbali Nzaka
              42 min
            • Loneliness In Your 20s (and beyond) w/ Foyin OG

              Get in girls! We’re getting vulnerable and talking about loneliness in the 20’s with Foyin OG aka Foyinla (and yes, she's here to fix our lives)!


              ✰ ABOUT ✰

              In this weeks episode I sit down with Foyin OG to talk about navigating loneliness in the twenties. Foyin shares what her experience have been with loneliness, how it has affected her relationship with herself and others, what navigating it has looked like and how she has had to adjust her expectations to the realities of it.. 

              ✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰

              Foyin is a beauty, life and lifestyle digital creator and podcaster. She is also the founder of #7days7faces, an interactive and fun online space to create unique make-up looks with opportunities to win prizes. Foyin has years of experience creating relatable, fun and unique content and has worked with multiple brands.

              Her podcast As Told By OG, chronicles lessons on love, life, pop-culture, and navigating the 20 somethings. It is filled with so much relatable conversation, thought provoking ideas, gems of wisdom and a little bit of banter.


              ✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰ 

              Bokang

              ➜ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang/ 

              ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang?lang=en 

              ➜ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SheIsBokang 

                 

               The B Word

              ➜ Instagram:@thebword_za - https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za/ 

              ➜ Twitter: @thebword_za https://twitter.com/thebword_za 

              ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za?l... 

              Foyin 

              ➜Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/foyinog/?hl=en 

              ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@foyinog 

              ➜ Twitter: https://twitter.com/foyinog 

                 

              ✰ LISTEN ON ✰

              Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7bUlKg3TQS6LWZpZE?si=rLJ32g73Q9a gjbU_VbORXw 


              Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/according-to- b/id1686532135


              Castbox:

              https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?utm_campaign=a_share_ch&utm_medi um=dlink&utm_source=a_share&country=gb


              ✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰


              ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰          

              Director: Bokang Lehlokoe

              Producer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi 

              Videographer: Maxine Araujo

              Editor: Bokang Lehlokoe


              42 min
            • Melissa Nayimuli on Miss South Africa 2023, Xenophobia and Learniing to love her Dark Skin

              Wear your crowns queens! We’re embracing our beauty and talking Miss SA 2023 with top 5 finalist Melissa Nayimuli!
              ✰ ABOUT ✰
              In this weeks episode I am joined by Miss South Africa 2023 top 5 finalist and film and television producer Melissa Nayimuli. Melissa opens up about her experiences growing up as dark skinned black girl and how that shaped her ideas about beauty. Her experiences with colourism and xenophobia. Her journey in the Miss South Africa pageant, the significance of it to her and what she hopes to achieve should she be crowned.
              ✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰
              Melissa is a film and television producer. Miss South Africa 2020 top 5 finalist and Miss South Africa 2023 top 5 finalist. Melissa started her career as an intern on The Voice Nigeria and went on to work on the SABC 2 music show Stand Up SA. She is currently producing Mzansi Magics Lenyalo Ha Se Papapdi.
              Melissa hopes to use the Miss South Africa platform to eradicate the prejudice and injustice people face through xenophobia and highlight the warmth and love that South Africans have to give.
              ✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰
              Bokang
              ➜ Instagram:   / sheisbokang  
              ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang?l...
              ➜ Twitter:   / sheisbokang  
              The B Word
              ➜ Instagram:@thebword_za -   / thebword_za  
              ➜ Twitter: @thebword_za   / thebword_za  
              ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za?l...
              Melissa
              ➜ Instagram: @melissanayimuli on all platforms
              ✰ LISTEN ON ✰
              Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7b... gjbU_VbORXw
              Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... b/id1686532135
              Castbox:
              https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?... um=dlink&utm_source=a_share&country=gb
              ✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰ E-mail: [email protected]
              ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰
              Director: Bokang Lehlokoe
              Producer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi
              Videographer: Maxine Araujo
              Editor: Mbali Nzaka

              52 min
            • The Cost of Becoming The Woman of Your Dreams w/ Candice Modiselle | Faith, Healing & The Process

              Get in girlies! We’re becoming the women of our dreams! 


              ✰ ABOUT ✰

              In this week's episode of According To B, I am joined by creative genius, artist and overall sweetheart Candice Modiselle! Join us as we talk all about becoming the woman of our dreams and what that journey has looked like for better or for worse.

              Candice opens up about her journey of becoming, starting over and the long process of working through the triumphs and disappointments of this season. She also shares how she has had to alter her perspective on life and even her own ideas of what her life should look like to accommodate what God wants for her. 


              ✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰

              Candice Modiselle is a South African business woman, actress and television and radio host. Her acting credit roles include: popular telenovela Generations: The Legacy, Impilo: The Scam and unreleased Disney animation Kizazi Moto: Generation Fire. In addition to her acting career Modiselle is also the founder of the 5 minute call, a YouTube channel dedicated to shining light on young talented South Africans in the film and media industry. She has also been a presenter on popular youth show YoTv and has presented the South African Film and Television Awards. She was also a radio host on urban Johannesburg radio station; Massive Metro. Her business Sellé Jewellery sells different unique jewellery pieces including those that can cater to individuals who want the piercing look but don’t want to go through the pain of it.


              ✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰


              Bokang

              ➜ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang/

              ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang?lang=en

              ➜ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SheIsBokang


              The B Word

              ➜ Instagram: @thebword_za - https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za/

              ➜ Twitter: @thebword_za https://twitter.com/thebword_za

              ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za?l…


              Candice

              ➜ Instagram: https://instagram.com/candicemodiselle?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

              ➜ Twitter: https://twitter.com

              CandieModiselle

              ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com @candicemodiselle_t=8cpK4BwHvcs&_r=1


              ✰ LISTEN ON ✰ 

              Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7bUlKg3TQS6LWZpZE?si=rLJ32g73Q9agjbU_VbORXw

              Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/according-to-b/id1686532135

              Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?utm_campaign=a_share_ch&utm_medium=dlink&utm_source=a_share&country=gb


              ✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰


              ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰

              Director: Bokang Lehlokoe

              Producer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi 

              Videographer: Maxine Araujo

              Editor: Nelani Majozi


              1 hr 12 min
            • Adult Friendships w/ Gugulethu Nyatsumba | Outgrowing Friends, Boundaries, Jealousy & Sisterhood

              This one is for everyone trying to successfully navigate adult friendships👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩

              ✰ ABOUT ✰

              We’re back for another episode of According To B and my co-host for this one is fellow YouTuber, podcaster and creative entrepreneur Gugulethu Nyatsumba popularly known as Sis G.U! Join us as we talk all about adult friendships and her experiences navigating them. We also discuss adjusting to changing friendship dynamics, the importance of communication, space and healthy boundaries.

              Gugulethu expresses her views on learning to evolve together and preserving the love in friendship, shares how being in community with other women saved her life, speaks on the importance of needing space in her friendships,how to create healthy and long lasting boundaries and why communication is necessary for the survival of friendship.

              ✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰

              Gugulethu Nyatsumba is a South African social media influencer, YouTuber and podcaster. She is known for her relatable, empowering and fun content coupled with a powerful and perfect voice for broadcasting voice; Nyatsumba has won the hearts of many. Her podcast After School is After School was inspired by her YouTube channel Uncomfortable Growth where many enjoyed her highly sought after/unique voice and she also saw an opportunity to translate her videos into a podcast. (She has also worked with multiple high-end brands in her capacity as a social media influencer.) Both her podcast and YouTube channel focus on topics relating to navigating the turbulence and fun of the twenties

              ✰ TIME STAMPS ✰

              00:00 - Intro

              02:56 - Understanding the origins of the name SIS GU

              04:12 - About The Assembly 

              06:47 - What friendship means to Gugu

              07:59 - How important friendship is to Gugu

              12:40 - Sustaining a good friendship 

              16:19 - Outgrowing friendships

              21:16 - Adjusting expectations in friendship

              24:20 - Making new friends in adulthood

              28:07 - Romantic relationship changing the friendship dynamic

              32:29 - Comparison and envy in friendship

              37:53 - How the girls should be pouring into their friendships

              40:56 - Question for Gugu from the co-producer

              44:47 - Where to find Gugu on social media

              45:23 - Outro

              ✰  SOCIAL MEDIA ✰

              Bokang

              ➜ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang/ 

              ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang?lang=en

               ➜ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SheIsBokang 

              The B Word

              ➜ Instagram: @thebword_za - https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za/ 

              ➜ Twitter: @thebword_za https://twitter.com/thebword_za 

              ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za?l... 

              Gugulethu

              ➜ Instagram: https://instagram.com/gugulethu_nyatsumba?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

              ➜ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Guugu_lethu?s=20

              ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@gugulethu_nyatsumba?_t=8cUxBFbyoEA&_r=1

              ✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰

              ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰

              Director: Bokang Lehlokoe

              Producer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi 

              Videographer: Maxine Araujo

              Editor: Nelani Majozi

              48 min
            • What Rom-Coms Don't Say About Love w/ Shekhinah

              Calling all Rom-Com lovers!

              ✰ ABOUT ✰

              The first episode of According To B is here and my co-host for this episode is none other than the nation's songbird Shekhinah! Join us as we talk all about romantic comedies and how this film genre has impacted our expectations and perception of love and romance, and whether what we saw in the movies can and matches up to real life.

              Shekhinah expresses her views on romanticism, spills the tea on her favourite romantic comedy movies, breaks down her favourite rom-com tropes, how her views on love has evolved over throughout her twenties, what the experience of falling in love with herself and healing has been for her and she even builds her own perfect rom com!

              ✰ MEET OUR CO-HOST ✰

              Shekhinah is a South African RNB & pop; singer/songwriter who first captured the souls of many during her time on South African Idols over two seasons. She has released multiple hit songs including Back to the Beach, Suited, Fixate, Let You Know and Please Mr. Her soulful and timeless debut album Rose Gold won the hearts of many South Africans and continues to. She has also won multiple South African music awards including Album of the Year and female artist of the year for her album Rose Gold. She is also the founder of Rosefest, a festival focused on uplifting women in the South African music industry.

              ✰ TIME STAMPS ✰

              00:00 - Intro

              00:54 - Welcome To According To B

              03:31 - Bokang introduces Shekhinah

              05:30 - Shekhinah's favourite roms coms

              14:30 - Breaking down romantic comedy tropes

              26:28 - Lets talk love: 21 year old Shekhinah vs 28 year old Shekhinah

              31:00 - Season of being single, healing and shadow work

              35:19 - Shekhinah's new music

              37:55 - Build your own rom com

              41:58 - Afterthoughts

              44:55 - Outro

              ✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰

              Bokang

              ➜ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang/

              ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang?lang=en

              ➜ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SheIsBokang

              The B Word

              ➜ Instagram: @thebword_za - https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za/

              ➜ Twitter: @thebword_za https://twitter.com/thebword_za

              ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za?l...

              Shekhinah

              ➜ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shekhinahd/

              ➜ Twitter: https://twitter.com/shekhinahd

              ✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰

              ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰

              Director: Bokang Lehlokoe

              Producer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi

              Videographer: Maxine Araujo

              Editor: Nelani Majozi

              46 min

            About According To B

            From the publisher's feed

            According to B is your go-to podcast for real talk with women who are ditching the rulebook and doing life their way. Hosted by Bokang Lehlokoe, it’s all about the messy middles, quiet wins, and bold…