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This week, we're diving into a topic that's often misunderstood, oversimplified, or used as a buzzword: toxic masculinity.From the pressure men face to suppress emotions to the ways these expectations affect friendships, relationships, mental health, and everyone around them - we're unpacking what toxic masculinity means and what it doesn't.

What happens when something that once made you feel magical stops feeling like home?In this episode, Steggy (Stephany) talks about her relationship with cosplay. The creativity, confidence, friendships, identity, and internet /social media version of herself that came with it - and what it feels like to step away from something that shaped her for years. Is it really about costumes...or is it actually about evolution, burnout, changing passions, and learning how to let go of versions of yourself with love instead of guilt?

Steggy and Mal dive further into friendship dynamics, including the question: what the HECK do male friendships look like?! Which leads us into toxic masculinity - which we'll be discussing way more in depth on another episode!

In this episode, we’re diving into the grief of losing a friend and the emotional weight that doesn’t always get acknowledged. From wondering what you did wrong to realizing how much of yourself you gave, we unpack WHY these endings can feel so uniquely painful.We also explore the different ways men and women experience friendships and why emotional vulnerability can feel easier in some spaces than others, and how societal expectations (like, toxic masculinity) shape the way we connect and communicate.We also share your responses on friendship dynamics, “girl friendships” vs. “guy friendships,” and whether people feel truly seen and supported in their relationships.This is part 1 of 2 - so tune in for the next episode!

Listen to part 2 of Christopher Gutierrez walking us through dating throughout the decades and even gives men dating today some advice!

From AOL chatrooms to dating apps, we’re diving into how love has evolved across the decades. Joined by author Christopher Gutierrez, we explore ghosting, swipe culture, and what we might’ve lost (or gained) along the wayBe sure to follow Christopher at @deadxstop AND check out the Catcade in Chicago!

https://www.thecatcade.org/

In our first-ever video podcast Steggy sits down with Professional Cool Guy Benjamin Trust to talk all things relationships (vodcast available on YouTube)Watch/listen to us yap about everything from meeting Ben back when he and his now-wife were just dating, to how he balances a demanding wrestling career, fatherhood, and intentionally showing up in his marriage.We also dive into:• Private vs. public relationships• Advice for younger guys trying to figure love out• What Ben has seen cause relationships to crumble in wrestling• And more!A huge thank you to Ben for joining us and being so open.Make sure to follow him on Instagram: @Benjamin_Trust & don't forget to support indie wrestling!

Part 2 of the New Years Episode! Mal and Steggy discuss their 2026 goals, vibes, and predictions for the new year. What are your resolutions?

*Apologies again for the audio - we're still figuring out the best method for now until we get the right equipment!

In this episode, Mal and Steggy reflect on 2025: the best of, the worst of, the lessons we’re keeping, and the energy we’re leaving behind. From wins we’re proud of to experiences that humbled us, we’re unpacking what this year really taught us and how it’s shaping our intentions for 2026.We talk growth, gratitude, mistakes, glow-ups, and the personal shifts that changed us. This is your reminder that reflection can be honest, messy, meaningful, and a little magical!Part 2 coming next week, where we dive into goals, resolutions, and what we’re calling in for 2026.

Mal and Steggy read MORE submissions from the audience - except this time, we're discussing Green Flags! From the lovely green flags that make us swoon to the overrate green flags that make us rethink the color assignment.