Adaptable | Behavior Explained

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over what it’s really like to experience EMDR therapy from the perspective of both client and therapist, featuring Jessica Silver.

I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!

I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.

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Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over how to learn to give the most generous assumption—a powerful mindset shift that leads to more peace, less conflict, and deeper connection in everyday relationships. By choosing to believe others are doing the best they can with what they know, we open the door to empathy, reduce emotional reactivity, and foster healing communication. Let's explore how this simple but profound approach can transform the way we relate to ourselves and others.

I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!

I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.

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Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over 5 strategies for effective communication—practical tools to help you connect with clarity, reduce conflict, and build stronger relationships. Whether you're navigating tough conversations or looking to deepen everyday interactions, these strategies will support healthier, more connected dialogue.

I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!

I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.

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Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over the benefits of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy, featuring a conversation with Kelly Ohoro and Dr. Eddie Shahnaz. We explore how ketamine, when used in a therapeutic setting, can support breakthroughs in treatment-resistant depression, PTSD, and anxiety. Learn how this innovative approach can enhance emotional processing, reduce mental health symptoms, and open the door to deeper healing.

I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!

I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.

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Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over how to get un-stuck from blame and projection. We explore how these defense mechanisms can keep us from taking responsibility and block personal growth. By understanding where blame and projection come from and how they protect us. We can begin to shift inward, reclaim our power, and create healthier patterns in our relationships.

I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!

I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.

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Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over why people stay stuck, featuring the Region Beta Paradox with Patrick O’Horo. We explore how sometimes being “just okay” can actually prevent growth and change. The Region Beta Paradox explains why mild discomfort can keep us in place longer than intense pain—and how recognizing this can motivate real transformation.

I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!

I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.

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Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over how to respond rather than react, highlighting 5 key habits that support emotional regulation and intentional behavior. We explore why reactive patterns often stem from survival instincts and how simple, consistent practices like pausing, breathing, and observing can create space between stimulus and response. These habits empower us to navigate challenges with clarity, reduce conflict, and strengthen relationships. Learn how to shift from automatic reactions to thoughtful responses that reflect your values and goals.

I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!

I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.

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Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over Mel Robbins’ Let Them Theory from a therapist’s perspective. We explore the psychological insights behind this mindset shift and how it can improve relationships, reduce stress, and foster emotional resilience. Learn how embracing the Let Them approach can help you set healthier boundaries and focus on personal growth.

Thank you for being part of the Adaptable | Behavior Explained community. Your support has made this season unforgettable. 🙌 Let us know in the comments which lessons resonated with you most or how the podcast has inspired you.

I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!

I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.

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https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpc

https://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgo

https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over Gottman’s Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse and how they impact relationships. These four behaviors—Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling—can erode trust and connection over time. Understanding them helps identify destructive patterns and replace them with healthier communication strategies. Learn how to recognize and counter these behaviors to strengthen your relationships.

Thank you for being part of the Adaptable | Behavior Explained community. Your support has made this season unforgettable. 🙌 Let us know in the comments which lessons resonated with you most or how the podcast has inspired you.

I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!

I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.

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https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpc

https://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgo

https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over Karpman’s Drama Triangle and how it affects relationships. The model identifies three roles—Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor—that create unhealthy interaction patterns. Understanding these dynamics can help break negative cycles, improve communication, and build healthier connections. Recognizing when you or others fall into these roles allows for more constructive and empowering relationships.

Thank you for being part of the Adaptable | Behavior Explained community. Your support has made this season unforgettable. 🙌 Let us know in the comments which lessons resonated with you most or how the podcast has inspired you.

I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing!

I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.

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https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpc

https://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgo

https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/