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If you have ADHD and your sex life feels challenging, you're not broken - your brain just works differently. Maybe you have super high libido and use sex or masturbation to feel at home in your body. Or maybe your libido is low because sex hasn't been working for your body or you're stuck in your head and you don't know why or how to fix it. Or maybe you're both, depending on the day.
In this episode, we unpack why ADHD creates these extremes - from sex as self-medication to getting stuck in your head during sex to not knowing what your body actually needs. We also cover Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (why "not tonight" feels catastrophic) and emotional dysregulation (the intensity that confuses your partner).
Whether you're the ADHD partner or the non-ADHD partner trying to understand, this episode will help you make sense of what's been happening. No shame, just clarity. First in a 4-part series on ADHD and desire gaps.
Special Course Announcement: limited time, last enrollment:
Thriving Together, Couples Healing Attachment Patterns Through Touch
A Groundbreaking 6-Week Live Online Workshop
with Dr. Aline LaPierre & Dr. Laura Jurgens starts February 1, 2026
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Get my free guide: 5 Steps to Start Solving Desire Differences
(Without Blame or Shame), A Practical Starting Point for Individuals and Couples, at https://laurajurgens.com/libido
Find out more about me at https://laurajurgens.com/
Read The Desire Gap Blog at https://laurajurgens.com/the-desire-gap-blog/
By Laura Jurgens, Ph.D.5
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If you have ADHD and your sex life feels challenging, you're not broken - your brain just works differently. Maybe you have super high libido and use sex or masturbation to feel at home in your body. Or maybe your libido is low because sex hasn't been working for your body or you're stuck in your head and you don't know why or how to fix it. Or maybe you're both, depending on the day.
In this episode, we unpack why ADHD creates these extremes - from sex as self-medication to getting stuck in your head during sex to not knowing what your body actually needs. We also cover Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (why "not tonight" feels catastrophic) and emotional dysregulation (the intensity that confuses your partner).
Whether you're the ADHD partner or the non-ADHD partner trying to understand, this episode will help you make sense of what's been happening. No shame, just clarity. First in a 4-part series on ADHD and desire gaps.
Special Course Announcement: limited time, last enrollment:
Thriving Together, Couples Healing Attachment Patterns Through Touch
A Groundbreaking 6-Week Live Online Workshop
with Dr. Aline LaPierre & Dr. Laura Jurgens starts February 1, 2026
https://neuroaffectivetouch.com/thriving-together
Get my free guide: 5 Steps to Start Solving Desire Differences
(Without Blame or Shame), A Practical Starting Point for Individuals and Couples, at https://laurajurgens.com/libido
Find out more about me at https://laurajurgens.com/
Read The Desire Gap Blog at https://laurajurgens.com/the-desire-gap-blog/

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