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This week, Adam and Donna get brutally honest about the ADHD diagnosis journey: why does it feel like the entire process is designed to trip up the very people it’s supposed to help? 
From the endless waiting lists and the sea of paperwork to the sheer unknowns (and let’s be real, the frustration), we’re sharing what it’s really like trying to get an ADHD diagnosis in the UK.
Adam talks through his experience with the Right to Choose pathway (find out more here: https://adhduk.co.uk/right-to-choose/), why it’s a game-changer compared to the “usual” NHS route, and why it’s still far from perfect. 
Donna shares her perspective as a neurotypical partner—spoiler: the waiting and the constant not-knowing is hard for everyone.

We get into:
Why filling in endless forms feels like a cruel joke for people with ADHD
Was it just our experience, or is it this bad for everyone?
The actual diagnosis appointment: detailed, supportive, but… weirdly short?
Could you just say whatever you want? Should you?
The “treatment” options: medication or a super expensive app (seriously?!)
Doctors who seem as confused as we are, and what the heck a shared care agreement is
The never-ending wait for titration… is it all just one big anticlimax?

If you’re thinking about getting diagnosed, in the middle of it, or supporting someone who is, this episode is for you. We definitely recommend Right to Choose—but buckle up for the waiting game.

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Adam has finally received his ADHD diagnosis—and yes, it’s official! (Cue shock, tears, and a whole lot of numbness.) This week, Adam and Donna get real about the emotional rollercoaster of the diagnosis process—how it felt, what it means, and the big, looming question: What’s next? Will Adam become a recluse? Is medication about to change everything?

But that’s just the start. In this episode, we dive into a topic we’ve been avoiding: Addiction. Adam always believed ADHD explained everything—maybe even that a diagnosis would be a “cure.” Spoiler: it’s not that simple. We unpack the real connection between ADHD and addiction, bust some myths (“Not everyone with ADHD is an addict, and not all addicts have ADHD”), and dig into Adam’s own journey with alcohol.

We talk social anxiety, the confidence boost (and chaos) of drinking, and how addiction isn’t always what you think—it’s not just daily drinking. There’s bingeing, blackouts, embarrassing moments, “beer fear,” and those brutal hangovers. Was there really “two Adams”? We get honest about not being able to stop, and how that spills over into other addictions like food and gambling—always chasing “more.”

We get vulnerable about impulsivity, the progression of alcoholism, and the blind spots we all have when judging others. Adam opens up about his first 12-step fellowship meeting, relapsing, hitting rock bottom (hello, living in a caravan and drinking at work), and the loneliness that comes with it. But there’s hope: getting back to meetings, finding community, and choosing sobriety—plus, how Covid could’ve looked very different if Adam wasn’t sober.

We also talk about the ADHD side of recovery—backing off meetings, chasing dopamine in new ways, and the rush of problem gambling. Donna shares her perspective: is she an enabler? Do you need a drink to have fun? What’s it like living with a “manchild”? We get real about honesty, self-medicating, and how recovery changes you.

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It’s been a happy couple of weeks since our last episode—life’s been cruising along (for once!) while we wait for Adam’s ADHD assessment. So, we thought we’d tackle a topic that’s a bit… taboo: MONEY. Yes, it’s Donna’s actual worst nightmare, but here we are, diving in anyway.

This week, we’re getting real about how both our brains work when it comes to spending, saving, and, let’s be honest, sometimes avoiding our bank balances altogether. Are the Scottish really more generous when it comes to buying rounds for strangers? (Adam has thoughts.) Who actually handles money better between us? Spoiler: Adam’s Amazon and Temu addiction might just tip the scales. Donna would rather spend money on bingo than something “grown up”—relatable, right?

We also ask: could budgeting spreadsheets ever work for us, or is it just another failed “adulting” attempt? Plus, our classic five-minute moan returns—Donna’s got a rant about loose change, and Adam’s not letting Donna’s Now TV subscription go without a grumble.

And because we love hearing from you, we’re sharing your listener stories this week—all about money mishaps, wins, and everything in between. If you’ve ever felt clueless about cash, you’re in good company.

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Ever wondered if your urge to move house (again…and again) is just wanderlust or something more? In this week’s bonus episode of ADHD or Life – A Couple’s Perspective, Adam reveals the jaw-dropping number of times he’s packed up and moved. Spoiler: it’s a LOT. From caravan living adventures to the endless thrill of a fresh start, we’re diving deep into why some of us just can’t stay put.

We unpack the ADHD symptoms that might be behind Adam’s “itchy feet” and get Donna’s honest take on all the house-hopping. Is it ADHD restlessness, or just a love of new beginnings? Plus—exciting news—we welcome our very first special guest! He opens up about his own ADHD journey, the challenges he’s faced, and how he’s learned to accept and celebrate his neurodivergent self.

Of course, it wouldn’t be us without our signature segments:

• 5 Minute Moan: Donna’s got a bone to pick with crumbs, while Adam’s horrified at the state of Donna’s car (it’s a whole thing).
• The Good, Bad and Ugly: Our guest shares his personal highs and lows of living with ADHD, alongside our regular stories from the community.

Tune in for laughs, real talk, and relatable ADHD moments—whether you’re a serial mover or just love a good story.

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ADHD or Life? – Apps that Tackle the Mess! | Bonus Episode

This week’s 10-minute bonus episode is all about real ADHD life updates and techy solutions for daily chaos! 
First up: Adam finally has a date for his ADHD assessment (cue the nerves and excitement). Six weeks feels like three years—will he manage the wait, or will Donna need to hide the snacks? 
We get real about the feelings and “what ifs” that come with waiting for a diagnosis (plus, what if it’s not ADHD after all?).
Then Donna takes over and we deep-dive into the best apps for managing chores, routines, and household overwhelm—because adulting with ADHD is no joke. 
We chat about:

Sweepy – Turns cleaning into a game (yes, really)
Tody – Flexible routines for brains that hate routines
OurHome – For families and couples who want to share the load
Goblin Tools – Breaks big tasks into tiny, manageable steps
Brite – Habit tracking and planning, actually designed for ADHD

We’re picking one app to try out and will spill the tea on how it goes next episode! 

Plus, Adam remembers (just in time) that he has to order his Spacegoods—again. Details below on how you can claim a discount too!

Tune in for laughs, honest ADHD chat, and practical tools to make life just a little less messy.

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It’s Friday, so grab your coffee and join us for another honest, slightly chaotic episode of ADHD or Life – A Couple’s Perspective!
We kick off with our usual catch up: Adam’s convinced he’s been moody (Donna didn’t notice), and he’s been extra forgetful lately - classic ADHD. We chat about the rough patch of symptoms over the past few weeks, including RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria) and that relentless racing mind. Oh, and did Donna really want to go to The Spa Garden, or was Adam just overthinking again?
Then we dive into this week’s big question: Is it ADHD, or am I just allergic to housework?

Let’s be real - housework is boring. But why is it so hard for some of us? We talk dopamine (can you actually get a hit from scrubbing toilets?), executive dysfunction, and initiation paralysis. Adam opens up about his “paralysis is real” moments, plus his weird love for doing the washing. (Is there a better feeling than hanging it out on a sunny day? Hands up if you’ve had to do a load twice!)
We get into distractibility: Is Adam’s dish-washing method a recipe for disaster, or does Donna just not get it? And what’s the deal with polishing? are we cleaning or just moving dust around? We confess to buying all sorts of cleaning gadgets, and debate the all-or-nothing approach (deep clean or nothing at all). Skirting boards? Adam’s nemesis. (Spoiler: we get the kids to do them.)
Cue the shame spiral: you feel guilty for not doing housework, so you avoid it, then feel even more guilty. We talk time-blindness, and how we always over- or underestimate how long things will take. Pro tip: never buy a cheap hoover. (Trust us.)
And yes, we admit it - we have a cleaner. Should we feel ashamed? 
We talk about how this impacts our relationship, and whether mirroring behaviour is a thing (is Adam leaning into the ADHD or just unmasking?). Donna’s been getting annoyed. How do “normal” 9-5 families do this?!
We wrap up with some practical tips: body doubling, co-cleaning, delegation, and outsourcing. Then we share some brilliant listener stories that prove we’re all in this together.
Finally, it’s time for our 5-minute moan: Adam can’t put rubbish away to save his life, and Donna loves Kids TV at full blast.
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This week’s bonus episode is a little different – we’re taking a break from the usual ADHD deep dives to chat about what’s been keeping our ears entertained lately! 
First up, Adam shares just how long it’s been since he started his ADHD diagnosis journey (spoiler: it’s a lot longer when you have ADHD and time feels like it’s moving in slow motion). We talk about how endless waiting can feel and why the whole process drags on even more when your brain’s wired a bit differently.
Then, we get into the big question: do you watch or listen to podcasts? (We’re split!) We’d love to know how you take in your favourite shows.
Next, we each share our top podcasts—both ADHD-related and just plain brilliant listens. 
Adam’s obsessed with the Have a Word Podcast for a proper comedy fix (link below). We chat about whether you should start a new podcast from episode 1 or just jump in wherever. 
Donna’s top pick is My Therapist Ghosted Me (link below)—she’s absolutely hooked.
For ADHD-specific listens, we give a shoutout to You’re Wrong About ADHD (super relatable and fun, link below) and the ADHD Adult Podcast (link below). Adam’s also discovered Follow the Dream (not ADHD, but a wild ride about a guy called Jordan trying to interview Amanda Holden—trust us, you’ll want to hear this story!).
We also debate: is long-form or short-form podcasting better? (Spoiler: we can’t agree. Classic.)
And of course, we want to hear from you! What are your go-to podcasts? Any hidden gems, ADHD-related or otherwise? Drop us a message or tag us on socials—we’re always looking for new recommendations.
Tune in, get comfy, and let us know what’s tickling your eardrums!
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Have a Word Podcast: https://haveawordpod.com/

You’re Wrong About ADHD: https://open.spotify.com/show/4SfQOU9OTjAjghHxgial39

The ADHD adults Podcast: https://theadhdadults.uk/

Follow the Dream: https://www.followthedream.co.uk/

My Therapist Ghosted Me: https://www.mytherapistghostedme.com/

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Is it ADHD or Is Sleep Overrated?

We’re running on fumes this week (the title says it all), so join us for a slightly sleep-deprived deep dive into the wild world of sleep habits and ADHD!
Fresh from a chaotic week with friends visiting from Spain, we’re sharing how days without naps and chasing after the baby have left even Donna questioning if she’s got ADHD (spoiler: she doesn’t, but sleep deprivation is a great equaliser). Adam’s birthday party gets a mention—did he survive the festivities and the “insulting” birthday cards? You’ll have to listen to find out.
Then it’s on to the main event: sleep and ADHD. We only recently learned how much ADHD can mess with your sleep, and we’re unpacking it all. Does Adam pretend he’s cool by getting less sleep? Why does he need noise to drift off, and what’s with his infamous 20-minute alarm for midnight biscuits (but then becomes impossible to wake up)? And how does all this affect Donna, the partner of someone with truly weird sleep habits?
We talk about:
Different ADHD types and their unique sleep problems
Active minds between midnight and 4am (hello, insomnia club)
The mysterious circadian rhythm (are we quoting science or just Facebook memes? Who knows!)
Night shifts, sleep envy, and Donna’s 3am wake-ups (is it menopause or just life?)
Caffeine, work patterns, and being “passing ships” in the night
Online gaming, pool credit binges, and late-night anxiety spirals
Restless leg syndrome (the struggle is real), depression, and medication side effects
Why misdiagnosis happens so often
Plus, we share some brilliant listener sleep stories, a handful of practical sleep tips, and our 5-minute moans (spoiler: sleep features heavily).
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This week’s bonus episode is all about spoons—but not the kind you eat with! Adam’s joined the Dubbi Club from ADHD_LOVE and started body doubling (think: Zoom calls with a bunch of people all working together to stay accountable). But suddenly, everyone’s talking about “spoon theory”—and honestly, Adam’s not convinced it fits.

Donna’s not a fan of Adam’s “charging the battery” analogy either, so we try out a few more: WiFi signals, traffic lights, and anything else that helps explain what it’s like to manage energy with ADHD (spoiler: we’re still searching for the perfect fit).

We share what’s working for us, what isn’t, and why some of these metaphors just don’t land. Plus, Adam shares how body doubling is going so far (and, as always, there are a few laughs and awkward moments along the way).

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Is it ADHD or Is Social Media Addictive?

This week, Adam’s complaining about his sore back (Donna says it’s his “extra padding” 😂) before we dive headfirst into the wild world of social media and ADHD.
We get real about how social media messes with our concentration, feeds our impulsiveness, and—let’s be honest—is absolutely brilliant. Adam admits to getting sucked into strangers’ arguments and falling down the rabbit hole (relatable, anyone?). We chat about that delicious dopamine hit from likes and instant gratification. Is this just an ADHD thing, or is everyone hooked?
Donna confesses to using the baby for likes (no shame!), and Adam wonders if he should finally get involved in X (Twitter). Spoiler: he’s a professional lurker, but why? We break down our experiences on Facebook, Instagram, X, TikTok, and YouTube, and even question if phone addiction is a real thing (especially when Marketplace and impulsive spending come into play).
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We also compare our (slightly embarrassing) screen time numbers, talk about the explosion of ADHD content online, and whether it’s helping or just making everyone think they have it. Donna reveals her ASMR obsession—could it be dirty? 😂 And we talk about the fear of someone seeing your YouTube history (guilty!).
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