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It’s Friday, so grab your coffee and join us for another honest, slightly chaotic episode of ADHD or Life – A Couple’s Perspective!
We kick off with our usual catch up: Adam’s convinced he’s been moody (Donna didn’t notice), and he’s been extra forgetful lately - classic ADHD. We chat about the rough patch of symptoms over the past few weeks, including RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria) and that relentless racing mind. Oh, and did Donna really want to go to The Spa Garden, or was Adam just overthinking again?
Then we dive into this week’s big question: Is it ADHD, or am I just allergic to housework?

Let’s be real - housework is boring. But why is it so hard for some of us? We talk dopamine (can you actually get a hit from scrubbing toilets?), executive dysfunction, and initiation paralysis. Adam opens up about his “paralysis is real” moments, plus his weird love for doing the washing. (Is there a better feeling than hanging it out on a sunny day? Hands up if you’ve had to do a load twice!)
We get into distractibility: Is Adam’s dish-washing method a recipe for disaster, or does Donna just not get it? And what’s the deal with polishing? are we cleaning or just moving dust around? We confess to buying all sorts of cleaning gadgets, and debate the all-or-nothing approach (deep clean or nothing at all). Skirting boards? Adam’s nemesis. (Spoiler: we get the kids to do them.)
Cue the shame spiral: you feel guilty for not doing housework, so you avoid it, then feel even more guilty. We talk time-blindness, and how we always over- or underestimate how long things will take. Pro tip: never buy a cheap hoover. (Trust us.)
And yes, we admit it - we have a cleaner. Should we feel ashamed? 
We talk about how this impacts our relationship, and whether mirroring behaviour is a thing (is Adam leaning into the ADHD or just unmasking?). Donna’s been getting annoyed. How do “normal” 9-5 families do this?!
We wrap up with some practical tips: body doubling, co-cleaning, delegation, and outsourcing. Then we share some brilliant listener stories that prove we’re all in this together.
Finally, it’s time for our 5-minute moan: Adam can’t put rubbish away to save his life, and Donna loves Kids TV at full blast.
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This week’s bonus episode is a little different – we’re taking a break from the usual ADHD deep dives to chat about what’s been keeping our ears entertained lately! 
First up, Adam shares just how long it’s been since he started his ADHD diagnosis journey (spoiler: it’s a lot longer when you have ADHD and time feels like it’s moving in slow motion). We talk about how endless waiting can feel and why the whole process drags on even more when your brain’s wired a bit differently.
Then, we get into the big question: do you watch or listen to podcasts? (We’re split!) We’d love to know how you take in your favourite shows.
Next, we each share our top podcasts—both ADHD-related and just plain brilliant listens. 
Adam’s obsessed with the Have a Word Podcast for a proper comedy fix (link below). We chat about whether you should start a new podcast from episode 1 or just jump in wherever. 
Donna’s top pick is My Therapist Ghosted Me (link below)—she’s absolutely hooked.
For ADHD-specific listens, we give a shoutout to You’re Wrong About ADHD (super relatable and fun, link below) and the ADHD Adult Podcast (link below). Adam’s also discovered Follow the Dream (not ADHD, but a wild ride about a guy called Jordan trying to interview Amanda Holden—trust us, you’ll want to hear this story!).
We also debate: is long-form or short-form podcasting better? (Spoiler: we can’t agree. Classic.)
And of course, we want to hear from you! What are your go-to podcasts? Any hidden gems, ADHD-related or otherwise? Drop us a message or tag us on socials—we’re always looking for new recommendations.
Tune in, get comfy, and let us know what’s tickling your eardrums!
Links to podcasts we mentioned:

Have a Word Podcast: https://haveawordpod.com/

You’re Wrong About ADHD: https://open.spotify.com/show/4SfQOU9OTjAjghHxgial39

The ADHD adults Podcast: https://theadhdadults.uk/

Follow the Dream: https://www.followthedream.co.uk/

My Therapist Ghosted Me: https://www.mytherapistghostedme.com/

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Is it ADHD or Is Sleep Overrated?

We’re running on fumes this week (the title says it all), so join us for a slightly sleep-deprived deep dive into the wild world of sleep habits and ADHD!
Fresh from a chaotic week with friends visiting from Spain, we’re sharing how days without naps and chasing after the baby have left even Donna questioning if she’s got ADHD (spoiler: she doesn’t, but sleep deprivation is a great equaliser). Adam’s birthday party gets a mention—did he survive the festivities and the “insulting” birthday cards? You’ll have to listen to find out.
Then it’s on to the main event: sleep and ADHD. We only recently learned how much ADHD can mess with your sleep, and we’re unpacking it all. Does Adam pretend he’s cool by getting less sleep? Why does he need noise to drift off, and what’s with his infamous 20-minute alarm for midnight biscuits (but then becomes impossible to wake up)? And how does all this affect Donna, the partner of someone with truly weird sleep habits?
We talk about:
Different ADHD types and their unique sleep problems
Active minds between midnight and 4am (hello, insomnia club)
The mysterious circadian rhythm (are we quoting science or just Facebook memes? Who knows!)
Night shifts, sleep envy, and Donna’s 3am wake-ups (is it menopause or just life?)
Caffeine, work patterns, and being “passing ships” in the night
Online gaming, pool credit binges, and late-night anxiety spirals
Restless leg syndrome (the struggle is real), depression, and medication side effects
Why misdiagnosis happens so often
Plus, we share some brilliant listener sleep stories, a handful of practical sleep tips, and our 5-minute moans (spoiler: sleep features heavily).
Tune in for laughs, honesty, and maybe a yawn or two.

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This week’s bonus episode is all about spoons—but not the kind you eat with! Adam’s joined the Dubbi Club from ADHD_LOVE and started body doubling (think: Zoom calls with a bunch of people all working together to stay accountable). But suddenly, everyone’s talking about “spoon theory”—and honestly, Adam’s not convinced it fits.

Donna’s not a fan of Adam’s “charging the battery” analogy either, so we try out a few more: WiFi signals, traffic lights, and anything else that helps explain what it’s like to manage energy with ADHD (spoiler: we’re still searching for the perfect fit).

We share what’s working for us, what isn’t, and why some of these metaphors just don’t land. Plus, Adam shares how body doubling is going so far (and, as always, there are a few laughs and awkward moments along the way).

Have you tried body doubling? Do you use spoon theory, or do you have your own way of describing your energy? Let us know—we love hearing your stories!

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Is it ADHD or Is Social Media Addictive?

This week, Adam’s complaining about his sore back (Donna says it’s his “extra padding” 😂) before we dive headfirst into the wild world of social media and ADHD.
We get real about how social media messes with our concentration, feeds our impulsiveness, and—let’s be honest—is absolutely brilliant. Adam admits to getting sucked into strangers’ arguments and falling down the rabbit hole (relatable, anyone?). We chat about that delicious dopamine hit from likes and instant gratification. Is this just an ADHD thing, or is everyone hooked?
Donna confesses to using the baby for likes (no shame!), and Adam wonders if he should finally get involved in X (Twitter). Spoiler: he’s a professional lurker, but why? We break down our experiences on Facebook, Instagram, X, TikTok, and YouTube, and even question if phone addiction is a real thing (especially when Marketplace and impulsive spending come into play).
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We also compare our (slightly embarrassing) screen time numbers, talk about the explosion of ADHD content online, and whether it’s helping or just making everyone think they have it. Donna reveals her ASMR obsession—could it be dirty? 😂 And we talk about the fear of someone seeing your YouTube history (guilty!).
Of course, there’s the 5-minute moan (glasses and e-cig liquid drama), plus some truly epic good, bad, and ugly listener stories.
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This week’s bonus episode gets real about the rollercoaster that is ADHD diagnosis. 
Adam’s finally at the next stage, pre-diagnosis questionnaire! But it’s not just about ticking boxes. Donna’s in the hot seat too, filling out her own form (and stressing about saying “no” to symptoms). 
We talk through the emotional side of digging into childhood memories, how weird/bittersweet it feels, and why this step is both exciting and a little daunting.

We’ll share what the process actually looks like, why “Right to Choose” is a game-changer (and why we recommend Care ADHD: https://www.careadhd.co.uk/your-right-to-choose), plus what happens next on Adam’s diagnosis journey. 

Adam also gives a shoutout to the Sintra App for making work life smoother, seriously, it’s a lifesaver! You can sign up here: https://playosinc.pxf.io/N9PmQb

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Is it ADHD or is it a Superpower? 🤢

This week on “ADHD or Life – A Couple’s Perspective,” Adam and Donna get competitive as they launch a new challenge: counting calories using the Nutricheck app, with both hosts vying for a special prize. If you want to join in, you can get one month free with this link: https://www.nutricheck.co.uk/partner/adhdorlifepod. We share how turning food tracking into a friendly competition can actually be motivating (and sometimes hilarious).

We also talk about our latest adventures—Adam being the only adult dressed as a tree at The Wiggles concert, and Donna’s unexpected new role as a candyfloss maker. Life definitely doesn’t slow down around here.

The main topic this week is the “superpower” narrative around ADHD. We break down strengths like hyperfocus, high energy, risk-taking, and creativity—but also point out that neurotypical people can have these traits too. Adam shares why he finds the superpower label patronising, and we question if the real “superpower” is actually the tendency to overthink what others think and feel (which, honestly, can be exhausting).

We don’t shy away from the negatives: Adam talks about the stress and masking involved in hosting his big Eurovision party, and we discuss how social situations can be overwhelming when you’re trying to hide symptoms. We also tackle the impact of patronising language, forgetfulness mid-conversation, impulsivity, addiction, and how hyperfocus isn’t always positive (especially when it comes to online shopping on Temu).

Listener comments from social media feature heavily—many of you are firmly against the superpower label, with one person calling it “grossly offensive.” We debate whether the superhero tag can be empowering for anyone, or if it just adds more pressure.

We wrap up with our “Good, Bad and Ugly” stories and “5 Minute Moans”—both of which revolve around coffee this week (because, let’s face it, coffee is always a hot topic in our house).

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🎯 Bonus Episode: Obsessing Over Obsessions 🎯

This week on ADHD or Life? – A Couple’s Perspective, Adam and Donna are back with a 10-minute bonus episode all about hyperfixations—those irresistible obsessions that come with ADHD (and sometimes just life)! Adam’s latest? He’s back to being “Darts Guy”… but Donna steals the spotlight with a bullseye finish! 🏆

We chat about the upsides of having an escape through hyperfixation, and Adam reveals his other current obsession: a work obsession called Sintra (imagine having a team of 12 AI creators at your fingertips!). Plus, we sneak in a cheeky plug for our businesses: Kaleidoscope Parties at https://www.kaleidoscopeparties.co.uk and Fast Track Quiz at https://www.fasttrackquiz.co.uk.

Big question of the week: Should you use manners with AI? Do you say “please” and “thank you” to your digital helpers? We want to know!

This week’s listener stories are all about hyperfixations—think Ryan Gosling marathons, bingeing SVU, and… well, let’s just say we’re not likely to be obsessed with chess anytime soon!

Listen now for laughs, relatable ADHD stories, and practical hacks!

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This week, we’re diving into a more serious and thought-provoking topic: the stigma surrounding ADHD. The episode kicks off with Donna surprising Adam with a gift, but things take a reflective turn as we unpack some harsh comments we received on a recent social media post about ADHD. These reactions got us thinking—what do people with ADHD really face daily?

We candidly explore questions like:

Is ADHD just bad behaviour, laziness, or even “spoilt child syndrome”? Why is there extra stigma for those diagnosed later in life? Is ADHD a disorder, a difference, or even a gift—but definitely not a superpower? 

We also address the common phrase, "Everyone is a little ADHD," and why it can be so dismissive and harmful. 

Donna shares her unique perspective, and together we reflect on how we once held some of these same misconceptions. Plus, we tackle the hot topic of whether ADHD medication should be more accessible.

Of course, it wouldn’t be an episode without our signature segments! This week’s 5-minute moan hilariously involves nappies (yes, really!), and we share some amazing good, bad, and ugly listener stories that you won’t want to miss.

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🎙️ Is it ADHD or Life? – When ADHD is ADHD’ing – Hacks and Helps Edition

Big news this week! Adam takes a huge step and shares an update on his ADHD diagnosis journey through Right to Choose. Could the process of trying to get diagnosed actually be the diagnosis itself? 🤔 Plus, find out why Adam has been emailing his MP (spoiler: it’s ADHD-related).

And in true ADHD fashion, Adam reveals the most ADHD thing he’s done this week – it involves paying for an Eventbrite course, falling asleep, and still managing to call it a win because the course was actually great! 😂 Oh, and Zoom meetings with the camera off? Let’s just say, they’re not Adam-approved.

This quick 10-minute bonus episode is packed with relatable moments, laughs, and insights into the quirks of living with ADHD.

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