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We love our Good, Bad and Ugly segment so much...that we thought we'd make a full episode of them! We asked you to send in your stories, and you did not disappoint! 👌🤩

From late diagnosis, to Relationships, to ADHD at work - your stories got us thinking and talking. 🗣️

The ADHD brain works in mysterious ways, and we'll never have all the answers - but it's good to know that we're not alone! 🧠🤯

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This week’s episode is a special one—it’s dropping on our actual wedding day! 🎉 
We kick things off with a catch-up on our week and all the last-minute wedding chaos (spoiler: there’s always something missing, especially Adam’s e-cig liquid).
Adam picked this week’s subject, and it’s a biggie: Does ADHD actually get worse as you get older? The official answer is “no,” but scroll through social media and you’ll see everyone seems to disagree. So, what’s really going on?
We dig into:
Life’s mounting pressures as you grow up (and whether self-medicating just masks the symptoms)
Is Adam’s ADHD really getting worse, or is it just big life changes—like, say, getting married or maybe even having a baby? 👀
Has Adam started leaning into his symptoms, or are we just more aware now?
Dopamine regulation, chasing the next “hit,” and the legendary secret cookie-eating on Adam’s paper round
Executive function demands, life structure, and the all-important authority figures (Donna, obviously)
How symptoms shift with age—does impulsivity become emotional impulsivity? Does hyperactivity turn inward? Is forgetfulness just ADHD, or is it life getting harder?
Are people who have it all together in their twenties just… boring? Do we just stop masking as we get older?
The sudden, shocking realisation: are we actually old now?
The support that’s out there (and how to find it)
Plus, don’t miss our 5-minute moans—shoes, broken washing machines, and all the usual chaos. We wrap up with your good, bad, and ugly listener stories, and we’re planning a “Good, Bad & Ugly” special next episode—so send us your emails and messages!
🎧 Watch the full episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/UiCewGkn-K0
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This week, we’re thrilled to welcome David Richmond from @NeuroDadsDiary—a fantastic Instagram page that feels like a neurodivergent dad’s journal. David shares his honest and inspiring journey with both ADHD and autism, kicking off with a deep dive into the diagnosis process, the right to choose, and the reality of those endless waiting lists.
We unpack what inspired Neuro Dads Diary, how it’s building a supportive community for dads, and why being open with your kids about ADHD matters. 
Parenting with ADHD is a wild ride—David gets real about perfectionism, executive dysfunction, coming alive at night, and the ongoing adventure of fatherhood. We also swap stories about time blindness, organisation struggles, and how AI (yes, even dinner-making bots!) can lend a hand.
We chat about the ups and downs of couple life with ADHD—how partners can be a lifeline (or sometimes, let’s be honest, it feels like having another kid in the house!). 
David opens up about wearing a Sunflower Lanyard for hidden disabilities (find out more here: https://hdsunflower.com/uk), and what being a “sunflower friend” really means.
To wrap up, David shares his “good, bad, and ugly”—from time management wins and eating habits to those all-too-familiar feelings of guilt. Plus, we talk about the vision for Neuro Dads Diary going forward.

Tune in for honest stories, practical tips, and plenty of laughs.

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Is it ADHD… or is wedding planning just stressful?
In this episode of Is it ADHD or Life?, we kick off with Donna dressed as a sheep (yes, really) before diving into why Adam hasn’t had the best couple of weeks – hello dopamine drought.

We chat about the dopamine hit of having something to look forward to, how that links into our upcoming wedding, and why low-calorie ice cream absolutely does not hit the spot. 
From self-medicating with food and alcohol to Adam feeling strangely flat about the wedding, we unpack what’s ADHD, what’s emotional burnout, and what might just be being human.
Donna is still a bit hungover from her hen weekend, and then we get into the main event: wedding planning with ADHD.
In true ADHD fashion, we’ve left a lot of things until the last minute. Was that deliberate? Did Adam really believe it was going to happen? Has Donna “caught ADHD” or is she just mirroring? Donna also shares her worries about “disturbing the peace” by talking about the wedding too much.
We explore:
Surprises and why Adam does not cope well with them (and why on earth Donna said the word “STEN”)
The pressure of trying to please everyone, RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria), and the weight of expectations
Spreadsheets, timelines, and whether it should really take five years to plan a wedding
The ADHD symptoms that show up hard during wedding planning – procrastination, overwhelm, decision fatigue, emotional dysregulation and more
How things shift when the wedding suddenly becomes Adam’s hyperfocus
Lessons learned… including why you probably shouldn’t buy a kilt from China
Adam also shares his slight breakdown in the car on the way to the podcast, and together we ask: is it ADHD, or just being human under a lot of pressure?
In our 5 Minute Moan, Adam vents about not getting the praise he craves and his ridiculous e-cig orders from Amazon. We wrap up with our listeners’ good, bad and ugly wedding stories – from the relatable to the downright chaotic.
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If you’re planning a wedding with ADHD (or loving someone who is), this one’s for you.

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Is it ADHD or Just Solo Parenting Chaos?

New episode out now! 🎙️ This week on ADHD or Life – A Couple’s Perspective, Donna has been off living her best life on her hen do, while Adam has been “solo parenting” their 2-year-old… with a little (okay, a lot of) help from the older kids. So was it really solo parenting, and how much parenting did he actually do?

Episode Highlights:

• Hen do vs home chaos: Donna’s away, Adam’s in charge… sort of.
• We talk about what it’s really like being alone with a 2-year-old toddler and what makes us completely lose our heads.
• How ADHD shows up in solo parenting:
  • Executive functioning overload
  • Emotional dysregulation
  • Sensory overload and constant noise
• What Donna does differently with her “neuronormal” brain that makes it look like a walk in the park. Is it really easier, or just different wiring?
• We agree: solo parenting is hard for anyone – ADHD just changes the texture of it.
• The mental load, the guilt, the pressure to “do it right,” and how ADHD parents can feel like they’re constantly dropping the ball (even when they’re not).

5 Minute Moans:

• Adam vs the pile of washing that’s literally blocking his TV viewing pleasure.
• Adam’s incredible ability to lose something he had in his hand 10 seconds ago – keys, remote, you name it.

We finish with our good, bad and ugly stories – all parenting themed this week. We’re so grateful for the stories you’ve already shared, and we’d love more. Your real-life moments help other parents feel seen, especially those trying to navigate ADHD, kids, and everyday chaos.

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Is it ADHD or does everyone have piles?

(No, not that kind. We’re talking about the never-ending stacks of life!)

New episode out now! 🎙️ On ADHD or Life – A Couple’s Perspective, Adam and Donna take on the mountain of “piles” that seem to follow us everywhere—piles of washing, piles of paperwork, piles of… well, doom. But is it just an ADHD thing, or does everyone have piles? (And no, we’re still not talking about the medical kind.)

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Episode Highlights:

• Donna’s new jacket appreciation moment (gotta celebrate the wins!)
• The “pile” dilemma: Is it ADHD, or is modern life just overloaded for everyone?
• Adam’s cheeky confession: Did he trick Donna into a life-metaphor episode? Are our piles just a way to hide stuff? Out of sight, out of mind?
• Emotional regulation and shame spirals—how mess and clutter can trigger big feelings, especially with ADHD.
• The great debate: Does ADHD magnify the mess, or is everyone secretly living in a pile fort?
• Coping strategies: How we’re tackling our piles (spoiler: it’s not magic, but it is honest).
• Real talk about whether modern life is just too much, and how to stop the piles from taking over.

5 Minute Moans:

• Adam’s gripe: Why has Donna stopped turning things off? (Seriously, who needs all the lights on?)
• Donna’s slow-burn complaint: Why does it take Adam so long to finish his coffee before she gets her hour of peace in bed?

We wrap up with our good, bad & ugly stories—your favourite segment and ours! Got a story, confession, or just want to connect? We’d love to hear from you. Join our Facebook community and help us all feel a little less alone in the pile struggle.

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🎉 Is it ADHD or Life – Birthday Edition! 🎂
It’s our birthday! Join us as we celebrate a whole year of “Is it ADHD or Life?” In this special episode, we’re looking back at the wild ride of the past 12 months—sharing our favourite moments, the episodes that made us laugh (or cry!), and the surprising ways the show has grown.
We’re not just reflecting on the podcast—we’re putting Adam in the hot seat! He spills on how his daily routines and mindset have shifted over the past year, and Donna shares her honest, hilarious take on living with Adam’s unique brand of ADHDisms (spoiler: there’s been a lot of learning—and plenty of laughs).
Plus, we’re checking in with our listeners to see what impact the show has had and revisiting our classic “5 Minute Moans.” Did Donna finally embrace her St Helens accent? Has Adam learned to put rubbish in the bin? No stone (or bin bag) left unturned!
Tune in for heartfelt stories, honest reflections, and a big birthday dose of fun. Whether you’ve been with us since day one or you’re just joining the party, this episode is for you!
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New episode out now! 🎙️ This week on ADHD or Life – A Couple’s Perspective, Adam and Donna dive headfirst into the chaos of FOMO, with their usual mix of honesty, laughs, and a healthy dose of “did that really just happen?”
Adam kicks things off with a classic: should this episode really be called “Is it ADHD or is the grass always greener?”
Man flu diaries: ADHD hits hard this week with lost car keys, taxi drama, ignoring the kids (oops), and the epic struggle to change the TV remote batteries.
Main topic: Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) – that constant itch for something else, the urge to be everywhere at once, and how social media turns it up to eleven.
Is FOMO just part of ADHD, or does everyone get hit by it?
Settling vs. seeking: Is the grass really greener, or are we just chasing after shinier things? (Speaking of which: Adam reveals he only realised he had issues when someone else’s pool balls were shinier than his. Yes, we’re talking about actual pool balls here… but the innuendo is strong. Should Adam just be happy with his own shiny balls? Donna’s not convinced.)
How RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria) and guilt fuel those FOMO feelings.
Leaving jobs, impulsivity, and doing “extensive homework” before making a totally rash decision.
Saying yes to everything at work, difficulty prioritising, and that endless craving for novelty.
Can you admit when you’ve made the wrong choice, or does your ego get in the way?
Recovery, finding serenity, and the magic of mindfulness, breathing exercises, and meditation. (Plus, Meatloaf makes a surprise appearance – the singer, not the dinner, but honestly, who knows anymore.)
Is it okay to just stay in and sit on the couch? Does parenthood crank up the FOMO, or is this just life?
Adam’s big wisdom: Sometimes, wanting is better than getting. Donna’s verdict: Maybe FOMO is just part of being human.
5 Minute Moans:
Adam’s e-cig saga (the baby gets involved, naturally)
Donna’s ongoing struggle: having to ask permission for a Mars bar
We wrap up with our good, bad & ugly stories – and we want yours! Got a confession, a FOMO fail, or just want to say hi? Drop us a message or join our Facebook community. Your stories help us, and others, feel a little less alone.

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Welcome back to Is it ADHD or Life? – A Couple’s Perspective! This week, we’re joined by special guest Anthony Palacin—ADHD advocate, podcast host, and expert on helping neurodivergent minds unlock their full potential.

Together, we dig into the big question: Is it ADHD, or are we just wired differently? We swap honest stories, laugh at our quirks, and talk through the real-life ups and downs of living with ADHD. Anthony shares his own journey and gives us insight into the importance of embracing neurodiversity.

Spotlight: Anthony’s Coaching & Flow States

Anthony is passionate about helping people with ADHD (and all neurodivergent minds) experience more “Flow States”—those moments when you’re fully in the zone and everything just clicks. In this episode, he shares practical coaching tips for finding your flow, building routines that actually work for ADHD brains, and turning your unique wiring into a superpower. If you’re curious about how to get more done while feeling less overwhelmed, this part is for you!

Learn more about Anthony’s coaching and Flow State work on his website:

Website: https://www.palacin.co.uk/

Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/lePiJdHDk1s

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Ever wondered if your quick mood swings, teary moments, or emotional outbursts are ADHD, or just part of being an “emotional wreck”? In this week’s episode, Adam and Donna get real about feelings, triggers, and all the chaos that comes with them—ADHD style.
We kick off with the age-old debate: who’s the most emotional—Adam or Donna? (Spoiler: it’s a close call!) 
From leg-rubbing struggles in the studio to the joys of our new half-hour format (let us know what you think—unless it’s negative, thanks to RSD!), we’re sharing all the behind-the-scenes laughs.

Hear about:
Why ordering kilts a size too small is a real mood-changer
The ongoing love affair with our fancy new screen
How we handle relationship moods (spoiler: we don’t argue, but the vibes definitely drop)
The domino effect—when one of us gets moody, the other follows
Reading each other’s faces and those split-second emotional reactions (is this one of Adam’s ADHD triggers?)
Can you really stop, reflect, and not get emotional? (We try…)
The power of breathing, naps, and morning coffee as Adam’s favorite olive branch
FOMO, drama queen moments, and the eternal question: talk it out, or roll over and make up?
Why communication is everything—even when there’s no spaghetti for tea!

Donna’s a self-confessed bunny hopper on the back of Adam’s emotional dysregulation, and we’re not afraid to ask: should the title have been “Is it ADHD or Am I a Drama Queen?”

Plus, in our Five Minute Moan, Adam’s hoping the dish fairy (aka Donna) will clear up, and Donna’s setting the record straight about who’s really in charge.

Listener stories this week get into finding joy in chaos, the power of planners, and what happens when you say “yes” to everything.

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