Get ready for a splendid third season, polka dots and all! Enjoy this lil' preview of what Momma B PhD & Rebecca have cooking for the coming months and hear some wise words on advice from next week's guest, Anna Sale, host of WNYC's Death, Sex, and Money.

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For Father's Day, Advice from Mom is turning the microphone on Momma B’s favorite man. Get ready for an epic story and some featherly wisdom from Poppa B! Most dads blowing whistles are refereeing their kids soccer game, but in this story of 1960s workplace woes, Papa B finds himself blowing the whistle on something much bigger and more sinister than he ever could have imagined at the tender age of 24. Dr. Momma B PhD shares mental health tips to help fortify yourself in similar situations, and Rebecca gives an update on her sperm-donor origin story in a follow-up on The Mystery of Dr. T.

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PAPA B’S GOODIE BAG OF HELPFUL LINKS

Read “Secret Agenda: The United States Government, Nazi Scientists, and Project Paperclip, 1945-1990” by Linda Hunt http://a.co/auZKDes

ADL believes people should not be targeted or treated unfairly because of their religion, race, ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation, gender identity, national origin or disability. You can report an incident to them here: https://www.adl.org/take-action/report-an-incident

Tips for Respectful Conversations in Schools, Workplaces and Communities:

https://www.adl.org/education/resources/tools-and-strategies/can-we-talk-tips-for-respectful-conversations-in-schools#.WG0afH1nCRI

Take action with the ADL: https://www.adl.org/take-action

An amazing organization countering hate: https://www.lifeafterhate.org

Tell all the men over 40 in your life to get checked for prostate cancer! If you are one, I’m looking at you!

https://zerocancer.org/learn/about-prostate-cancer/detection-diagnosis/psa-test/

Rescuing wild birds is another Papa B hobby! If you are ever in Sarasota, FL, check out Save Our Seabirds. Ask to meet Rocky! Tell ‘em Bortie sent ya!

https://www.saveourseabirds.org

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Thanks to Rabbi Batshir Torchio, Rebecca Joseph, Jocelyn Frank, and Dimitri Kalantzis for your resource help!

Special thank you to Jerry Bortman for sharing his story and being an awesome dad to Cheryl, Laura, and Rebecca and a stellar Zeta to Kevin & Allison and a tough but fair father-in-law to Mike & Bryan. We love you, Dad!!

Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Editing by Juliet Hinely. Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Publicity by Anna Beyder. Audio assistance by Bryan Garza. Our theme music is by my band, Love Jerks.

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If you don’t know who Dolores Huerta is yet, get ready to meet one of the most important activists in American history. Dolores has been organizing, rallying, and changing policy for workers’ rights and racial justice for over 70 years. In this grand finale of our "Meet the MAYtriarchy" special series, we chat with the living legend herself, and her youngest daughter, Camila Chávez, because Dolores didn’t just mother a movement, she also mothered 11 children at the same time.

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Dolores Huerta was an equal partner in co-founding the first farm workers unions with Cesar Chávez. Tirelessly leading the fight for racial and labor justice, Huerta evolved into one of the most defiant feminists of the 20th century — and she continues the fight to this day, at 88. From her early years with the United Farm Workers to her work with the headline-making grape boycott launched in 1965 to her role in the feminist movement of the '70s, to her continued work as a fearless activist.

Camila Chávez is the Co-Founder and Executive Director of the Dolores Huerta Foundation (DHF). From the DHF headquarters in Bakersfield, Ms. Chávez oversees training for low-income community members in the areas of leadership and organizing skills specific to civic and electoral participation so that they can become catalysts for change in their own communities.

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MOMMA B’S GOODIE BAG OF HELPFUL LINKS

Learn more about Dolores and Camila’s Foundation: http://doloreshuerta.org/

See the trailer for Dolores: http://doloreshuerta.org/buy-dolores-the-movie-support-dhf/

Dolores in The National Women’s History Museum: http://www.womenshistory.org/education-resources/biographies/dolores-huerta

Get involved: (one of many places!!) https://www.dosomething.org/us

No advice adventure is complete without adorableness: https://www.instagram.com/p/BjVJ8iWlsZ1/

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Special thank you to Tena Rubio to make our recording day with Dolores and Camila happen. Radio Bilingue for hosting us in Fresno and Luis Sanchez and the whole staff at The Dolores Huerta Foundation.

Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Editing by Juliet Hinely. Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Publicity by Anna Beyder. This episode’s interview was recorded in two places at once: in Bakersfield with Tena Rubio and Stanton “Danny” Bringer and in Fresno at Radio Bilingue by Jorge Ramírez. Audio assistance, transportation, and dog rescue by Bryan Garza. Our theme music is by my band, Love Jerks.

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Peaches Christ, AKA Joshua Grannell, has mentored a whole generation of San Francisco drag performers, including the fantastically-tattooed Veruca Bathsalts, AKA Seth Shubin. In this third installment of Meet the MAYtriarchy, we talk to them both about the fellowship of performance, keeping drag transgressive, and how their creative contributions are part of a much bigger cultural movement and legacy.

Joshua Grannell is a filmmaker best known as his alter-ego “Peaches Christ”, an underground drag superstar and cult movie impresario. Joshua is the writer and director of the feature film All About Evil. The award-winning dark comedy gore film stars Natasha Lyonne, Thomas Dekker, Cassandra Peterson, Mink Stole, and Peaches Christ herself. Joshua’s infamous cult-movie parody events are produced by his company Peaches Christ Productions at the Castro Theatre and regularly draw over 2,000 attendees to each new show before touring the West Coast. Other Peaches hosted events have featured special guest stars John Waters, Cloris Leachman, Appolonia, Barry Bostwick, Pam Grier, and more. Peaches Christ has been featured in the films Milk, I Am Divine, Diary Of A Teenage Girl, Mansfield 66/67, and on HBO’s Looking. In 2018, Joshua created a new company called "Into The Dark" that will produce immersive theatrical haunted shows in the Bay Area written & directed by him. The first show,Terror Vault, is happening at The San Francisco Mint in October.

Seth Shubin, the self-proclaimed "Jerk of all trades" (also known as his sometimes alter ego "Veruca Bathsalts") is a nanny and costume designer for Peaches Christ Productions by day, bartender, drag queen and event producer by night. Originally hailing from Philadelphia he moved to the bay in 2013 to live out the San Francisco hustle, pursuing all his hopes and dreams. Seth throws the widely popular queer punk night "Desperate Living” every first Friday of the month at The Stud as well as the bi-monthly over the top film series “Film School Drop Outs” at The Roxie Theater. A lover of Cats, Clowns and all things trash.

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MOMMA B’S GOODIE BAG OF HELPFUL LINKS

Learn more about San Francisco’s legacy of drag performance with The Cockettes: https://www.cockettes.com

Learn more about Peaches with these docs!

https://vimeo.com/137921217 and https://youtu.be/ggP8oVFtOss

Yes, you TOO should plan a trip to San Francisco around a Peaches Christ performance: www.peacheschrist.com

A helpful guide made for educators about pronouns, that can be helpful to anyone who wants to be more aware of how they use pronouns: https://www.glsen.org/sites/default/files/GLSEN%20Pronouns%20Resource.pdf

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Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Editing by Juliet Hinely and Samantha Land. Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Publicity by Anna Beyder. This interview was recorded at KQED in San Francisco. Audio assistance by Bryan Garza. Our theme music is by my band, Love Jerks. Special thanks to Cass Adair for his help on this episode.

This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to offer diagnosis or treatment of any medical or psychological condition. All treatment decisions should be made in partnership with your health professional.

In this second installment of our special MAYtriarchy series, we explore mothering change in the tech world with Bloomberg Technology anchor, Emily Chang, in conversation with her own mother, Sandy. In her recent book, "Brotopia," Emily sheds light on the treatment of female technology professionals. We discuss Emily’s campaign for workplace equality, how Sandy combats her daughter’s book trolls, and the best advice Emily ever got from Sheryl Sandberg.

Emily Chang is the anchor and executive producer of Bloomberg Technology, a daily TV show focused on global technology and Bloomberg Studio 1.0, where she regularly speaks to top executives, investors, and entrepreneurs. She was previously a CNN correspondent based in Beijing and London, and has won five regional Emmy awards for her reporting. Her work has also appeared in Vanity Fair and Bloomberg Businessweek. Emily is a graduate of Harvard University and lives in San Francisco with her husband and three children.

Sandy Chang is a proud mom, grandmother, and writing teacher. She was born in Philadelphia, the middle child in a family of seven. She worked on Capitol Hill as a legislative writer while earning her Master's Degree at Georgetown University. That's where she met her late husband, a law student from Hawaii. They moved back to his hometown where they raised two daughters. Sandy has taught for three decades first at Punahou School in Honolulu and now at a private school in The Bay Area where she enjoys being closer to her children and grandchildren.

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MOMMA B’S GOODIE BAG OF HELPFUL LINKS

Check out Emily’s book: “Brotopia: Breaking Up the Boys' Club of Silicon Valley”

http://www.brotopiabook.com

A great article by Emily: “Women Once Ruled the Computer World. When Did Silicon Valley Become Brotopia?”

https://www.bloomberg.com/news/features/2018-02-01/women-once-ruled-computers-when-did-the-valley-become-brotopia

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To kick off our May series on mothering social change, what could be more fitting than to re-examine how we think about motherhood and mental health? Momma B & Rebecca talk to esteemed psychologist, Dr. Harriet Lerner, one of our nation's most loved and respected experts on women and family relationships, and the author of twelve books include The New York Times bestseller, The Dance of Anger, The Mother Dance, and, most recently, Why Won't You Apologize? Harriet also shares the true feminist origins of Mother’s Day. Happy Mother’s Day to all our favorite moms & non-moms!

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MOMMA B’S GOODIE BAG OF HELPFUL LINKS

Harriet referenced so much goodness:

The Original Mother’s Day Proclamation, by Julia Ward Howe 1870: https://www.plough.com/en/topics/culture/holidays/mothers-day/the-original-mother-s-day-proclamation

More great quotes by novelist, Faye Weldon: https://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/50416.Fay_Weldon

Anna Quindlen’s column: “Mother-daughter relationship that might have been”: https://www.nytimes.com/1986/07/09/garden/life-in-the-30-s.html

Our favorite Books by Harriet:

The Mother Dance: How Children Change Your Life: http://a.co/eqTIJK1

Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships: http://a.co/2OVivT6

Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts: http://a.co/dvMrBrq

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Each week, all month long, we’ll be featuring revolutionary motherly figures of all sorts. Here's a sneak peek of our May episodes with accomplished matriarchs who embody the term “mother” as a *verb* and help us understand what it takes to mother a movement. Can’t wait for you to hear more from each of these wise ones. Plus Momma B reacts to her very first published podcast review!

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MOMMA B’S GOODIE BAG OF HELPFUL LINKS

We got our first podcast review! See for yourself:

http://constantlistener.com/constant-listener-weekly-february-19-2018/

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Who said breaking up with your therapist can't be fun? Fine, I'll say it: breaking up with a therapist is NOT fun. It could be such a yuck of a time that you might stay in therapy for years just to avoid this un-fun interaction. But that doesn't mean that a seasoned psychologist and her detective-loving daughter can't offer you some tips and entertainment while you prepare for such a task.

Advice from Mom takes real-life questions and stories from our listeners and like one might with a cheese cloth, we squeeze out the mental health advice and takeaway tips so we can help you improve your experience. And on today's episode, we are bringing our can-do attitude to a tough task—getting out of therapy. Whether you want to slink, saunter, or stomp out of therapy, Dr. Momma B PhD is here to help.

How do you know it is time to leave your therapist? What should you do if your therapist acts inappropriately? And what if your therapist is making it difficult for you to end therapy with them? Back by popular demand, this is the third installment of our baby-steps special series on the how-tos of therapy. Whether you want to slink, saunter, or stomp out of therapy, Dr. Momma B is here to help. We will also hear a first hand account of therapist trouble (in three acts!) from Jennifer Judkins from the podcast, The Ripple.

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MOMMA B’S GOODIE BAG OF HELPFUL LINKS

Ethics in Therapy! Is your therapist treating you right? - Mental Health Help with Kati Morton: https://youtu.be/k-fPwUkwiQ0

How Clients Make Therapy Work: The Process of Active Self-Healing: http://www.apa.org/pubs/books/431725A.aspx

TELL: the Therapy Exploitation Link Line: http://www.therapyabuse.org/

Filing an Ethics Complaint: http://www.apa.org/ethics/complaint/index.aspx

Listen to Jenn’s podcast, The Ripple: http://theripplepodcast.com/

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What do you do when your family business is running you into the ground? How do you balance your relationships as family members and business partners? And when is it time to take a break? There are many big life questions in this letter from a listener who signs her name “Boss & Daughter”. Dr. Momma B provides lots of good resources for this precarious balancing act, and we hear advice and stories from another wise woman with a family business: singer Ruth Pointer of The Pointer Sisters. I’m sooooo excited (for you to hear these stories!)

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MOMMA B’S GOODIE BAG OF HELPFUL LINKS

Women’s Business Development Center: https://www.wbdc.org/

SCORE for Small Business Advice: https://www.score.org

Inc article: “7 Rules for Avoiding Conflicts of Interest in a Family Business” https://www.inc.com/guides/201102/7-rules-of-conduct-for-family-businesses.html

Your new favorite Spotify playlist: https://open.spotify.com/user/1239148391/playlist/5PWHd3QySdpUXDOmEFrPsd?si=AmCwT2-TQx2syaWJLyY3sQ

Your new favorite YouTube playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLkLYXIc69XH8hYpvhC8kO90_uKtZnWob_

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How do you honor the memory of a loved one while letting go of the grief? What if that loved one was your soulmate? On this episode, we read a letter from a listener who signs his name “In Memory of My Man”. Dr. Momma B explains a therapy technique designed for individuals who have experienced trauma and we hear from the cofounder and CEO of Modern Loss, Rebecca Soffer, about her own story of loss and healing.

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MOMMA B’S GOODIE BAG OF HELPFUL LINKS

“MODERN LOSS: Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome”

by Rebecca Soffer and Gabrielle Birkner: https://www.amazon.com/Modern-Loss-Conversation-Beginners-Welcome/dp/0062499181/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&qid=1510295972&sr=8-1&keywords=modern+loss+book&linkCode=sl1&tag=modernloss-20&linkId=9640d7907eb98513b8787fffab072b41

And for more amazing essays on all type of loss: http://modernloss.com/

Coping with Grief and Loss: https://www.helpguide.org/home-pages/grief.htm

Loyalty vs. Living Again: Are You Being ‘Disloyal’? By Carole Brody Fleet: https://www.huffingtonpost.com/carole-brody-fleet/remarriage_b_1918391.html

An overview of EMDR: http://emdria.site-ym.com

What does EMDR mean? https://www.psychologytoday.com/therapy-types/eye-movement-desensitization-and-reprocessing-therapy

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