Advice from Mom

What do you need after pouring your heart and soul into a project for months and months only to get a rejection? You need a pep talk! On this episode, we turbo-time-machine back to a listener letter from “Recently Rejected.” Dr. Momma B gives her advice a refresh, and we revisit a full-hearted pep talk from the star of Hulu’s Casual and a former cast member of Saturday Night Live, Michaela Watkins.

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MOMMA B’S GOODIE BAG OF HELPFUL LINKS

Momma B wants to hear from you! Have we answered your question on the show? How are you doing, my darling? Get in touch at www.advicefrom.mom/contact

The Savvy Psychologist’s Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health - Episode 159: 9 Hidden Signs of Perfectionism: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/savvy-psychologists-quick-dirty-tips-for-better-mental/id803978236?mt=2&i=1000389004634

Another amazing pep talk from Michaela: https://youtu.be/HZTeAEa9QWs

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Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Editing by Juliet Hinely. Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Publicity by Jane Riccobono. Audio assistance by Bryan Garza. The song throughout this episode is Rebel in Motion by Scissors for Lefty. Our theme music is by Love Jerks: www.lovejerks.com

This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to offer diagnosis or treatment of any medical or psychological condition. All treatment decisions should be made in partnership with your health professional.

For part 2 of our baby-step special on finding your therapist, Momma B PhD, holds your hand all the way to the therapist’s office as we cover what’s gonna happen at your first session. What should you expect to share? Should you always feel better after your first session? How many sessions does it take to know if your new therapist is a good match for you? All these questions answered, as well as some personal therapy adventures from Momma B’s past as a “young, naive thing in Philadelphia”.

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MOMMA B’S GOODIE BAG OF HELPFUL LINKS

Psychology Today: First Session Fundamentals https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-therapy/200806/fundamentals-therapy-3-the-first-session

Dr. Jeff baby-stepping it in Portland: http://drjeffblog.blogspot.com/2011/08/7-things-to-do-during-your-first.html

SELF cares about your first session: https://www.self.com/story/first-therapy-appointment

Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Editing and Sound Design by Juliet Hinely. Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Publicity by Jane Riccobono. Audio assistance by Bryan Garza. Our theme music is by Love Jerks. See their new music video here: https://www.lovejerks.com/music/

* This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to offer diagnosis or treatment of any medical or psychological condition. All treatment decisions should be made in partnership with your health professional.

How do you start the search for your *very own* real life therapist? What should you search online? What should you search for on your health insurance card? What if you don’t have insurance? Is it kosher to ask your potential therapist questions about themselves? In this baby-step special, Dr. Momma B holds your hand and takes us inside the mental health system to help YOU navigate finding a therapist of your very own, IRL.

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MOMMA B’S GOODIE BAG OF HELPFUL LINKS

Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists

APA Help Center: http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/index.aspx

Healthgrades: https://www.healthgrades.com/mental-health-professional-directory

Open Counseling: https://www.opencounseling.com

Open Path Collective: https://openpathcollective.org

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Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Editing and Sound Design by Juliet Hinely. Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Publicity by Jane Riccobono. Audio assistance by Bryan Garza. Our theme music is by Love Jerks: www.lovejerks.com

* This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to offer diagnosis or treatment of any medical or psychological condition. All treatment decisions should be made in partnership with your health professional.

How do you start your search for your *very own* therapist? What should you be looking for online and on your health insurance card? What if you don’t have insurance? Is it kosher to ask your potential therapist questions about themselves? In thsi first part of a baby steps special, we go deep inside the mental health system to help YOU navigate finding a therapist of your very own, IRL. Momma B PhD puts on her detective cap to sleuth out mental health solutions as she investigates three cases of people, trying to find their therapist.

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MOMMA B’S GOODIE BAG OF HELPFUL LINKS

Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists

Healthgrades: https://www.healthgrades.com/mental-health-professional-directory

Open Counseling: https://www.opencounseling.com

Open Path Collective: https://openpathcollective.org

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Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Editing and Sound Design by Juliet Hinely. Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Publicity by Jane Riccobono. Audio assistance by Bryan Garza. Our theme music is by Love Jerks. To see Rebecca play live, check out Love Jerks upcoming California show dates: www.lovejerks.com/live/

* This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to offer diagnosis or treatment of any medical or psychological condition. All treatment decisions should be made in partnership with your health professional.

How do you build a substantial life for yourself in a new place? How do you nourish old friendships from afar? How do you keep from doubting a big decision you’ve made? On this episode, we explore all this and more with a listener letter from “Coast Between Coasts,” Dr. Momma B, PhD, and guest gal pals Aminatou & Ann from Call Your Girlfriend—a “podcast for long distance besties everywhere!”: http://www.callyourgirlfriend.com

Happy Galentine’s Day, everyone!

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MOMMA B’S GOODIE BAG OF HELPFUL LINKS

Momma B wants to hear from you! Send us your recommendations on how to adjust to a new place and manage your life through a transition. Get in touch at http://www.advicefrom.mom/contact

Oregon Trail emulator (for Mom to play): https://archive.org/details/msdos_Oregon_Trail_The_1990

More about the phenomenon of Galentine’s Day: https://www.theatlantic.com/entertainment/archive/2017/02/each-day-is-galentines-day/516408/

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Special thanks to Gina Delvac for coordinating the recording with Call Your Girlfriend, and to Aviva Rubin for reading our credits.

Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Editing by Juliet Hinely. Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Publicity by Jane Riccobono. Audio assistance by Bryan Garza. The song throughout this episode is Rebel in Motion by Scissors for Lefty. Our theme music is by Love Jerks: www.lovejerks.com

This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to offer diagnosis or treatment of any medical or psychological condition. All treatment decisions should be made in partnership with your health professional.

Whether you’re single, coupled-up, or not even interested in a cuddle buddy at the moment, this episode’s question about dating is really about so much more. It’s time to explore the mind-opening world of personality temperaments with a letter from a listener who signs her name, “Successfully Single” ... and a chorus of bored children from your Teddy Ruxpin dreams.

Our guest for this episode is the brilliant Moira Weigel, author of Labor of Love: The Invention of Dating. She’s a writer, translator, and scholar currently at the Harvard Society of Fellows. In 2017, she received her PhD from Yale University. Her writing has appeared in many publications, including The New York Times, The Guardian, and The New Republic. Find her online at http://www.moiraweigel.com

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MOMMA B’S GOODIE BAG OF HELPFUL LINKS

Prettily designed temperament test: https://www.truity.com/test/typefinder®-temperament-test

OG Temperament sorter: https://www.keirsey.com/sorter/register.aspx

Read Labor of Love: The Invention of Dating: http://a.co/eJtL1Fg

Whoooorray for temperaments! More about the temperaments: http://fourtemperaments.com/4-primary-temperaments/

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Support Advice from Mom by supporting our sponsor:

For 25% off your first order, visit RXBAR.com/pickleball and enter the promo code: pickleball at checkout.

Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Editing by Juliet Hinely. Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Publicity by Jane Riccobono. Audio assistance by Bryan Garza. The song throughout this episode is Rebel in Motion by Scissors for Lefty. Our theme music is by Love Jerks: www.lovejerks.com

This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to offer diagnosis or treatment of any medical or psychological condition. All treatment decisions should be made in partnership with your health professional.

What do you when your partner finds your vulnerability unattractive? On this episode, we answer a letter from a listener who signs her name as “Heart Left Hanging.”

Our guest for this episode is none other than renowned couples therapist and TED speaker, Esther Perel. She is the bestselling author of Mating in Captivity and the host of top Audible original series Where Should We Begin? Her newest book, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity, published in October 2017. Learn more at EstherPerel.com or by following @EstherPerelOffical on Instagram.

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MOMMA B’S GOODIE BAG OF HELPFUL LINKS

Listen to Esther’s podcast: https://www.estherperel.com/podcast

Read The State of Affairs book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0062322583/

Dinah Shore sings Mom’s favorite song about love being sad: https://youtu.be/GBqQsAwaaMU

A book by Brené Brown about being vulnerable: http://a.co/gqeKB3A

Esther’s song-inspiring TED talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_the_secret_to_desire_in_a_long_term_relationship

An Esther-inspired song: https://youtu.be/u2kBmgeeejA

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Support Advice from Mom by supporting our sponsor:

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Thanks to the Jewish Community Center of San Francisco, Stephanie Singer and Jourdan Abel, as well as Tanya Schevitz of Reboot for helping us find a space to record Esther. Additional audio engineering by Catherine Girardeau.

Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Editing by Juliet Hinely. Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Publicity by Jane Riccobono. Audio assistance by Bryan Garza. The song throughout this episode is Rebel in Motion by Scissors for Lefty. Our theme music is by Love Jerks. To see Rebecca play live, check out Love Jerks’ upcoming Bay Area show dates: www.lovejerks.com

This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to offer diagnosis or treatment of any medical or psychological condition. All treatment decisions should be made in partnership with your health professional.

Get ready for Season 2 of Advice from Mom! We’ve got more advice adventures with expert guests, more fascinating questions from listeners like you (maybe even YOU in particular!), and the same great Momma B, PhD, dishing up her signature emotionally-savvy advice and motherly love. And this season, you can get Advice from Mom every week—Season 2 will be coming to you every #wisewednesday starting Jan 31. Check out this preview to hear what’s ahead and subscribe now to be the first to hear Advice from Mom :)

Your potential for 2018 doesn’t have to be squeezed into just one phrase or resolution. Here at Advice from Mom HQ, we believe self-improvement and self-reflection can come in a LOT of different forms. For this last bonus episode before we kick off Season 2, Momma B and Rebecca talk about how to head into 2018 and go BEYOND THE RESOLUTION. Happy New Year!

PS: We’ll be releasing the first episode of Season 2 in just a few weeks (yay!!). If you have 30 seconds to spare and would like to help us out tremendously, please go to iTunes or wherever you’ve found this podcast and subscribe, rate, and review Advice from Mom. It will help us get more exposure when we start releasing new episodes. You can also give us feedback and submit questions for Momma B at www.advicefrom.mom/yourturn.

Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Editing and Sound Design by Juliet Hinely. Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Publicity by Jane Riccobono. Audio assistance by Bryan Garza. Our theme music is by Love Jerks. To see Rebecca play live, check out Love Jerks' upcoming California show dates: www.lovejerks.com/live/

* This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to offer diagnosis or treatment of any medical or psychological condition. All treatment decisions should be made in partnership with your health professional.

Holiday Bonus Episode! There are so many ways that family gatherings can stress us out—whether it’s what your family expects of you, what you expect of them, what might be said (or unsaid, or yelled…) at the dinner table, or even just seeing certain family members. Momma B is here with her motherly mental health advice to help you improve your holiday cheer. And get ready for our goofiest episode yet as Momma B & Rebecca put on their detective caps to investigate some cases of holiday hazards. We call it MomNet! On this episode we’ll investigate three cases: The Case of the Solo Sautéer, The Case of the Caloric Questioner, and the Case of the Bickering Bros.

PS: Curious what’s on our Chanukkah List? An iTunes review from YOU! Your glowing reviews really do help our little podcast get more listens and we appreciate it SO much. You can also give us feedback and submit questions for Momma B at www.advicefrom.mom/yourturn.

Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Editing and Sound Design by Juliet Hinely. Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Publicity by Jane Riccobono. Audio assistance by Bryan Garza. Our theme music is by Love Jerks. To see Rebecca play live, check out Love Jerks upcoming California show dates: www.lovejerks.com/live/

* This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to offer diagnosis or treatment of any medical or psychological condition. All treatment decisions should be made in partnership with your health professional.

A little more on our three cases for this episode:

And as they say on DragNet, “the names are made up but the problems are real”

The Case of the Solo Sauter: Jessica is a professional cook. Every year, her lovely family assumes she will cook them up the most delicious holiday feast. This has gotten old for Jessica after 6 years of cooking and even worse! getting minimal help with the dishes and clean-up after. How can Jessica change this tradition she’s come to hate without making her family hangry?

The Case of the Caloric Questioner: Fiona is just about to sit down for her fam’s Southern feast. As she reaches for the gravy ladle, her mother leans in and intercepts her hand, “Honey, once on the lips, always on the hips. How’s that diet going?" How does Fiona avoid exploding on her mother like she has in years past?

The Case of the Bickering Bros: Sammy and his brother can't be in the same room without turning any discussion into a political debate. As kids, the brothers got along just fine, but since Sammy moved across the country and only sees his family once or twice a year, their relationship has really suffered. The arguing upsets their mother, especially when their father starts yelling too. How can Sammy make this visit home to the family this holiday season a little harmonious?