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LFPWLI: Why You Can't Pay Attention and What To Do About It with Author Johann Hari

 

In this episode, Mathew and Johann discuss the flow state, the myth of multitasking, and how a lack of attention and focus breaks down the ability to achieve goals and feel fulfilled. Johann tells us how his experiences give him a unique perspective on helping others learn from their own pain. They also discuss the changes childhood has undergone in recent years and how mainstream parenting styles are actually increasing the damage to attention. Johann finishes with tips for how parents can help their children and gives resources to learn more. 

 

Johann Hari is an author whose Ted Talks have been seen by more than 70 Million people (so far). He has written 4 books: Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression - and the Unexpected Solutions, Chasing the Scream, God save the Queen, and most recently Stolen Focus: Why You Can't Pay Attention. Johann Spent 3 years researching this book which aims to understand the causes and outline solutions to the attention crisis we find ourselves in. 

 

“You aren't a machine with broken parts. You are an animal whose needs are not being met”

 

In this episode, you'll hear: 

The Flow State: what it is, how it feels, why it’s so important, and how to get into it

The science behind why multitasking is not possible and why trying it is harming us 

Tips for what parents can do to help protect and restore their children's attention 

 

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Connect with the Guest

JohannHari.com

Johann Hari on Facebook

Johann Hari on Twitter

Johann Hari on Instagram

Johann Hari on Youtube

 

Resources:

8 Traits of Flow According to Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi

Professor Earl Miller

Let Grow

 

Connect with Mathew Blades: 

Twitter - twitter.com/MathewBlades

Instagram - instagram.com/MathewBladesmedia/ 

Facebook - facebook.com/mathewbladesmedia/ 

Website - learnfrompeoplewholivedit.com/

 

Additional Credits:

LFPWLI is managed by Sam Robertson

We are officially halfway with our first series and if you live with ANXIETY - please make it a point to hear what Donna has to say. She's lived with it since she was a little girl.

As Dr. Frank says, "she has been an incredible student of her anxiety journey" and there is SO much to LEARN from this woman who lives with it every day.

 

 

Thank you, 

Mathew, Frank, and Donna

 

#LearnFromPeopleWhoLivedIt #LFPWLI #MentalHealth

#mathewblades #podcast #mentalwellness

 

*This podcast is not meant to serve as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others, and is not a substitute for therapy.

LFPWLI: Our kids need help - How to help young people struggling with mental health with Meryem Tahiri

In this episode, Mathew and Meryem discuss challenges parents face when seeking help for their children's mental health issues, why parents often don't know what kind of help they need, and why that means a large part of her job working with children is also about supporting their parents. Meryem explains why trauma is different in children compared to adults and how parents can detect early signs of mental health issues by being attentive to the nonverbal signals their children send. Mathews asks about coping mechanisms and tools that families can use to help manage their kids' mental health and which things are the kids' responsibilities and which are the parents. Meryem also touches on the need for healthy communication, setting consistent expectations and boundaries, and why parents need to recognize and own their mistakes. She emphasizes the importance of celebrating success, being okay with failure, treating children fairly, and understanding that positive energy attracts positive energy. Meryem is on a mission to provide hope, understanding, and educational insight for parents who may be struggling with their children's mental health and kids who just want to feel better.

Here are the facts, as of the time of this recording:

ER visits are up 20% for teens with depression and anxiety

16% of kids have a suicide plan 

Suicide attempts among girls are up 50%

The U.S. Surgeon General issued an advisory last December to highlight the URGENT need to address the youth mental health crisis further exposed by COVID.

Feelings of sadness and hopelessness are up 40% for more than 1 in 3 kids

 Meryem Tahiri has lived on four continents prior to settling down in the United States and is able to speak and write in five languages. She has her master's degree and comes from a family of health professionals. Currently, she is working with people between the ages of 12 and 25. She is on a mission to help heal one child at a time and has hope they can all reach their true and best potential. She is a believer that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel, and we believe that she is one of the reasons it shines.

"Once you know how to save a child at a young age, they can show their best potential as an adult."

In this episode, you'll hear:

Tools and coping mechanisms for children who are struggling

Tips to help parents have hard conversations

Steps you can take after you realize you have made a parenting mistake

Follow the podcast: 

Listen on Apple Podcasts (link: https://apple.co/3s1YH7h) 

Listen on iHeart (link: https://ihr.fm/3MEY7FM) 

Listen on Spotify (Link: https://spoti.fi/3yMmQCE) 

 

Resources:

Learn From People Who Lived It, Episode 1 - Karie

Connect with Mathew Blades: 

Twitter - twitter.com/MathewBlades

Instagram - instagram.com/MathewBladesmedia/ 

Facebook - facebook.com/mathewbladesmedia/ 

Website - learnfrompeoplewholivedit.com/

 

Additional Credits:

LFPWLI is managed by Sam Robertson

LFPWLI: Cheryl Marth - The long-term impacts of growing up with a narcissistic mother and how to find healing

 

In this episode, Mathew, Troy, and Cheryl discuss the long-term impacts of growing up in dysfunction, being raised by a narcissistic parent, and how she is now shedding beliefs that no longer work for her. Cheryl opens up about feeling different, the shock of realizing she was being manipulated, and how she is learning to set and enforce boundaries. She also talks about the ongoing struggles with her family and the importance of personal growth as she is now a mother herself. 

 

Cheryl Marth grew up with a narcissistic mother and has found ways to thrive on the other side of it after she reestablished her self-worth. After losing her father at the age of 18, she had to navigate an increasingly difficult relationship with her family. Throughout her life, she has been on a journey of identifying harmful generational patterns and doing the hard work of a transitional character.

 

“You'll never know where learning and inspiration will come from.”

 

In this episode, you'll hear: 

Why it’s so hard to make boundaries when you're hurt and how to get to a healed place

The dictionary definition of narcissism and the experiences of people who have experienced it

Tools Cheryl has developed that are helping in adulthood

 

Follow the podcast: 

Listen on Apple Podcasts (link: https://apple.co/3s1YH7h) 

Listen on iHeart (link: https://ihr.fm/3MEY7FM) 

Listen on Spotify (Link: https://spoti.fi/3yMmQCE) 

 

Connect with the guest:

Troy DeSmet - ​​Spiritquest 

 

Connect with Mathew Blades: 

Twitter - twitter.com/MathewBlades

Instagram - instagram.com/MathewBladesmedia/ 

Facebook - facebook.com/mathewbladesmedia/ 

Website - learnfrompeoplewholivedit.com/

 

This podcast is not meant to serve as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others, and is not a substitute for therapy.

She was 18 the first time she went to rehab. Heather has experienced loss, abuse in every form, and addiction. In this episode (ADULT SUBJECT MATTER) we talk about that abuse, what it looked like and how it manifested in her life. Plus we'll discuss her role now at the Arizona Women's Recovery Center. 

 

In this episode we also meet Troy DeSmet. Troy was instrumental in the journey of Mathew Blades (host) and you will hear all about that in Episode 9. Troy and his wife Katherine own Spirit Quest in Sedona.

Thank you for listening, 

Mathew, Troy, and Heather

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This podcast is not meant to serve as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others, and is not a substitute for therapy.

LFPWLI Shorts: Ryan Pinney, Redefining Recovery as a Paralympic Medalist 

  

In this episode, Mathew, Dr. Frank, and Ryan discuss the accident that left Ryan paralyzed, his emotional state throughout his journey of recovery, how experiencing trauma changes the way we see ourselves, and the false assumptions we hold about what the people we love expect of us. 

Ryan Pinney is a Paralympic Medalist in Cyclist who served in the United States Air Force and the Arizona National Guard for 14 years. Ryan opens up about how he overcame the dark days to help others that feel like the future is bleak and need encouragement to get through their tough times.

“Recovery is breaking through the walls of your mental state. It's not being able to do the same things you did before a traumatic experience.”

 

In this episode, you'll hear: 

How Ryan became paralyzed and how he felt when he realized what happened.

Why Patience is a prerequisite for healing

The power of peer-to-peer interactions

Follow the podcast: 

Listen on Apple Podcasts (link: https://apple.co/3s1YH7h) 

Listen on iHeart (link: https://ihr.fm/3MEY7FM) 

Listen on Spotify (Link: https://spoti.fi/3yMmQCE) 

 

Connect with the guest:

Ryan Pinney on Twitter

Ryan Pinney on Instagram

Dr. Frank Bevacqua

Connect with Mathew Blades: 

Twitter - twitter.com/MathewBlades

Instagram - instagram.com/MathewBladesmedia/ 

Facebook - facebook.com/mathewbladesmedia/ 

Website - learnfrompeoplewholivedit.com/

 

This podcast is not meant to serve as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others, and is not a substitute for therapy.

Karie lost her son to an accidental overdose at 19. She tells us about that ride home after hearing the news, and what it was like to have to tell her other kids.  

We also learn how she's turned this around for herself by leading grief share groups now. There is so much here, please share it with a friend you think could use it, and we'll see you next week.

 

Mathew, Dr Frank & Karie

 

 

This podcast is not meant to serve as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others, and is not a substitute for therapy.

Monday morning, my new podcast will start to release. I wanted to get Dr Frank and Troy together to discuss some of the "Key" moments from the upcoming series, as well as download our hopes and goals. We have many wishes for this podcast, but more than ANYTHING we hope if you find yourself in these stories, you can also find yourself on a path to healing.

 

Much Love ,

 

Mathew Blades

You either learn it or you live it.  This series will follow those who lived through, sometimes, unimaginable circumstances, yet still found a way to healing.

The first series will cover the following:

Heartache, anger, abuse, addiction, cancer, paralysis, depression, near death experiences and more.

Host: Mathew Blades

Experts: Dr. Frank Bevacqua & Troy DeSmet