Air-Check Your Life

We talk out this idea that we are TOO BUSY, trying to please and collect and GO GO GO!!!  How can you get to a place that makes sense for everyone long term. Plus we discuss what I call family suicide. Troy helps us get to a place of knowing with his idea of equanimity.  

Thank you for listening,

Mathew and Troy

 

* This podcast is not meant to serve as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others, and is not a substitute for therapy.

LFPWLI supported by:

ASI or Advanced Systems Integration (Woman owned AV company/offices MN and AZ) & Not a Diary the Text based Journal (Plans start at $1)

 

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Welcome to the first of 3 podcasts for parents. Big kids? small kids?

Mathew and Troy from LFPWLI sit down in this episode to discuss the difference between parenting ON & WITH your child.

 

Thank you for listening, please share this with a friend.

Mathew and Troy

 

* This podcast is not meant to serve as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others, and is not a substitute for therapy.

 

LFPWLI supported by:

ASI or Advanced Systems Integration (Woman owned AV company/offices MN and AZ) & Not a Diary the Text based Journal (Plans start at $1)

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LFPWLI: Mathew Blades Mental Health Retreat Debrief 

 

In the summer of 2021, Mathew decided to walk away from his successful career as a radio personality. He made that decision after "working things out" over 4 days at SpiritQuest, a holistic mental and spiritual retreat. This podcast is a recording he made a few weeks post-treatment. He sat in his studio alone and hit the record button. If he said it to a therapist it's on the podcast. If he thought it, it's here.

 

In this episode, Mathew discusses his Set Points, how they were “mathewfesting”, and the water ceremony that marked his ascent into a new life. He opens up about why he needed to go to a mental health retreat in the first place, the physical pain his emotions and stress were causing, and how moving away from fear and into love is how he has found peace. We learn about the inner child, the power of sound therapy, and the role of anger. In the end, we hear how Mathew came to enjoy the process of healing and embrace his role as a transitional character.

 

“It doesn't matter that it happened. It only matters that you heal it”

 

In this episode, you'll hear: 

What Set Points are and how they impact our lives

A live recording from Mathew's inner child healing session

Self care what it really means and understanding our responsibility  

Follow the podcast: 

Listen on Apple Podcasts (link: https://apple.co/3s1YH7h) 

Listen on iHeart (link: https://ihr.fm/3MEY7FM) 

Listen on Spotify (Link: https://spoti.fi/3yMmQCE) 

Resources:

SpiritQuest

Connect with Mathew Blades: 

Twitter - twitter.com/MathewBlades

Instagram - instagram.com/MathewBladesmedia/ 

Facebook - facebook.com/mathewbladesmedia/ 

Website - learnfrompeoplewholivedit.com/

Additional Credits:

LFPWLI is managed by Sam Robertson

* This podcast is not meant to serve as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others, and is not a substitute for therapy.

Head up to the Troon area of Scottsdale and you'll find a holistic spa. Every single inch of this place is Cecilia's creation. From the chairs, to the herbs and tea served after a treatment its unique and satisfying in every sense of the word.

I sat down with Cecilia to learn more about why she does this work and to learn more about why we all need her touch. 

Thanks for listening, 

Mathew & Cecilia

 

* This podcast is not meant to serve as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others, and is not a substitute for therapy.

 

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LFPWLI: Lisa Connor, How to Get to the Other Side of Unimaginable Grief

In this episode, Mathew, Troy, and Lisa discuss her journey which is full of loss, grief, pain, sickness, change, motivation, determination, healing, and hope. When Lisa was 44, her younger sister died of a stroke. Within two years of losing Jenny, Lisa’s mother passed away tragically due to Alzheimer's complications. Less than 4 months after losing her mother, she discovers her father after he’s passed away as well. Throughout this time, Lisa felt the responsibility and grief grow with each passing. However, she still managed to perform professionally as a Principal and personally as a wife and mom to two kids. Her health declined, but eventually, she regained her strength and felt like she was hitting her stride. Turns out life had other plans, as she was diagnosed with stage 2 breast cancer, but battled and survived it like the warrior she is. 

 

Lisa Connor is a warrior. She is an educator, a wife, and a mom. She tells us a story within a story about what it means to grieve as a sister, a daughter, a wife, a mom, and a patient herself. She describes what it’s like to feel as though you've lost everything and still make the decision to keep moving forward anyway. Her story is for anyone dealing with a loss or a diagnosis that makes them feel like there is no way out. She is a living testament to the fact that you can persevere, and if you do there is a life and a light on the other side. 

“People get stuck [in grief] because they don't want to live their lives… they feel like they are leaving somebody behind.”

In this episode, you'll hear: 

Lisa’s advice for people who are stuck in their grief

What the death of her sister and parents taught her about herself 

How these experiences impacted her husband and children

Follow the podcast: 

Listen on Apple Podcasts (link: https://apple.co/3s1YH7h) 

Listen on iHeart (link: https://ihr.fm/3MEY7FM) 

Listen on Spotify (Link: https://spoti.fi/3yMmQCE) 

Connect with the Guest

Troy DeSmet - ​​Spiritquest 

Connect with Mathew Blades: 

Twitter - twitter.com/MathewBlades

Instagram - instagram.com/MathewBladesmedia/ 

Facebook - facebook.com/mathewbladesmedia/ 

Website - learnfrompeoplewholivedit.com/

We're back with Dave, a psychiatrist who specializes in trauma. In our last pod he said two words that made us both stop in our tracks.  

MORAL INJURY

We both knew in that moment we needed to discuss it further. We'll discuss

Talking to a dead end

Shame vs Guilt

Deeper understanding of moral injury

Road map to moral injury healing (Humility, Gratitude, Respect, Compassion)

* This podcast is not meant to serve as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others, and is not a substitute for therapy.

 

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LFPWLI: Stephanie is Breaking the Cycle: Escaping Abusive Relationships, Finding Healing, and Looking Forward to the Future

 

In this episode, Mathew, Dr. Frank, and Stephanie discuss her journey, the trauma she has gone through in her life, and how she is working to heal. Stephanie was separated from her biological mother early on and grew up with the man she knew as her father. Unfortunately, he was a known drug user and her childhood was unstable and filled with abuse and violence. She moved out the day she turned 18 and quickly became pregnant with her long-time boyfriend. Eventually, he started cheating on her and she was faced with the dilemma of leaving because she knew she deserved better or staying because she had a newborn and wanted to make it work. After she left him, she quickly found herself in another relationship with an abusive man. She became pregnant again and the manipulation only got worse from there. The abuse led to a suicide attempt and Stephanie self-admitted to the psych ward for three days.

Flash forward to now, Stephanie has a new job and is rebuilding her relationships with her mom and sister. She is looking forward to the future, continuing her journey of healing and self-discovery, and is learning to create new boundaries for her own well-being. She wants others to know that they are not alone and that healing is possible.

“The fault of how you got there is so much less important than the responsibility that you take to move yourself out of there.” 

In this episode, you'll hear: 

Why do children in unstable situations oftentimes find themselves repeating bad behavior

The reason you have to recreate new boundaries when you get to a healed state 

The importance of receiving a correct diagnosis]

Follow the podcast: 

Listen on Apple Podcasts (link: https://apple.co/3s1YH7h) 

Listen on iHeart (link: https://ihr.fm/3MEY7FM) 

Listen on Spotify (Link: https://spoti.fi/3yMmQCE) 

Connect with the guest:

Dr. Frank Bevacqua

Connect with Mathew Blades: 

Twitter - twitter.com/MathewBlades

Instagram - instagram.com/MathewBladesmedia/ 

Facebook - facebook.com/mathewbladesmedia/ 

Website - learnfrompeoplewholivedit.com/

* This podcast is not meant to serve as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others, and is not a substitute for therapy.

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Hi, its Mathew and I wanted to drop this quick guided meditation. I call it "Chill out in 60 Seconds" even though it ONLY takes 56 seconds to complete.

Thanks for chillin, 

Mathew 

* This podcast is not meant to serve as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others, and is not a substitute for therapy.

 

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LFPWLI supported by: ASI or Advanced Systems Integration (Woman owned AV company/offices MN and AZ) & Not a Diary the Text based Journal

Facing Loss and Finding Forgiveness: The Reality of Caring for Dying Parents with Sue Ketterer

 

In this episode, Mathew, Troy, and Sue discuss her journey of becoming a caregiver to her parents, first her father and then her mother, and how their deaths impacted her. She talks about the challenges and emotional toll of watching her parents decline and eventually pass away. Sue also tells us that despite the immense loss and heartache, she found strength and resilience.

 

Sue recalls the open and honest conversations about end-of-life care decisions she had with her mother and shines a light on the painful realities of taking someone off life support. After losing her mother, Sue felt a deep sense of guilt and responsibility but found solace and healing through Spiritualism and The Four Agreements, which taught her to stop judging others to find forgiveness for herself.

 

Sue honors her parents in death by regularly speaking to them and about them, and she finds comfort in holding space for grief and being there for others. Despite the pain of loss, she believes that forgiveness and self-love are crucial in finding peace. PLEASE MAKE SURE you stick around til the end to hear Sue read the poem, you'll be glad you did.

 

“Your words can be poison or they can be magic.”

 

In this episode, you'll hear: 

How to support someone who is working through the grief of losing a loved one

What The Four Agreements are and how they helped Sue find healing

The complex reality of caring for parents through death 

Follow the podcast: 

Listen on Apple Podcasts (link: https://apple.co/3s1YH7h) 

Listen on iHeart (link: https://ihr.fm/3MEY7FM) 

Listen on Spotify (Link: https://spoti.fi/3yMmQCE) 

Connect with the guest:

Troy DeSmet - ​​Spiritquest 

Resources 

The Four Agreements

“Grief The Unspoken” Facebook Page

Death Is Nothing At All by Henry Scott-Holland

 

Connect with Mathew Blades: 

Twitter - twitter.com/MathewBlades

Instagram - instagram.com/MathewBladesmedia/ 

Facebook - facebook.com/mathewbladesmedia/ 

Website - learnfrompeoplewholivedit.com/

* This podcast is not meant to serve as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others, and is not a substitute for therapy.

 

 

Wonderfully supported by:

ASI or Advanced Systems Integration (Woman owned AV company/offices MN and AZ) 

& Not a Diary the Text based Journal

 

Follow Mathew Blades Media on Instagram 

 

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When I announced I was leaving my radio show, Dave, a Psychiatrist who specializes in trauma reached out to say he applauded the move, and wanted to help. "Help in what way" I asked. "Veterans" he said. I said OK, but only if we "cut the crap" and talk about this in a real and raw.

Dave leaned in even more.

A few weeks later we connected for this podcast. I pray it connects in a way that helps you understand more about why you feel the way you feel. I also hope it helps the people in your life understand you more.  Please share with someone who needs to hear it, and STEAL the "Red Sneakers" idea for yourself.

Peace,

Mathew and Dave

PS - If you need help right now, please visit https://www.veteranscrisisline.net/

(You can call or text through that line)

 

Wonderfully supported by:

ASI or Advanced Systems Integration (Woman owned AV company/offices MN and AZ) 

& Not a Diary the Text based Journal

 

Follow Mathew Blades Media on Instagram 

* This podcast is not meant to serve as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others, and is not a substitute for therapy.

 

#LearnFromPeopleWhoLivedIt #LFPWLI #MentalHealth

#mathewblades #podcast #mentalwellness #itsoktonotbeok