This conversation was originally aired on 2 September 2021Victor grew up in a family where alcohol was abused. His father was frequently violent, and to survive, Victor became hyper-vigilant and sensitive to the moods of his parents. As a child, Victor found refuge outside of the family, playing with friends in the wild areas near his home. As he grew, he recognised in himself an impulse to heal his family through humour and by trying to form relationships with his siblings. Eventually he found that he was unable to bring about the healing he desired.On a holiday in Indonesia as an adult, Victor experienced both despair (in a bar) and elation (at a volcano). Soon after, he decided to seek help from 12 Step groups, first Adult Children of Alcoholics and then Al-Anon Family Groups. Here he found the support he needed alongside other people who understood his grief and frustration.In Al-Anon, Victor gradually gained the confidence to share his story and began to understand that his feelings of fear and hopelessness were common to many people whose lives had been affected by someone else’s drinking. He now gives thanks for nature and has much gratitude in his life.If someone else's drinking is causing you a problem, then you can phone the Al-Anon Family Groups helpline on 1300 252 666 or go online at al-anon.org.au for more information.Show your support by donating to 3CR https://www.3cr.org.au/donate#Alcoholism #Al-Anon #Recovery