The One Thing Men Actually Need (That Most Women Totally Miss)

Relationship Advice for Women | How to Support a Man Emotionally

So your man is going through something.

Work is a mess, his brother’s acting out, or he’s just in a funk...

And you’re doing all the things to be helpful—offering feedback, giving advice, trying to fix it.

But instead of feeling closer…

You end up in a weird argument spiral, or he shuts down completely.

Girl, been there.

And this video is your shortcut out of that cycle.

This is your permission slip to not have all the answers.

In this episode, I share the ONE thing men are truly craving when life feels uncertain—and why almost every woman misses it (I did, for years).

We’re talking real, raw, emotionally intelligent support.

This isn't about coddling, fixing, or self-silencing...

Instead, I show you how to create containment, polarity, and connection.

Here’s what you’ll learn:

• What not to do when your man is stressed (even if it seems helpful)

• How to stop unconsciously eroding trust and intimacy (oops)

• Why your feedback (no matter how loving) might be landing like criticism

• The underestimated power of containment and how to practice it

• The kind of encouragement that lights a man all the way up

This isn’t a “play small to keep your man” video.

This is about emotional mastery, feminine intelligence, and knowing when to speak… and when to hold.

Knowing the difference makes ALL the difference....

And it’s the foundation of Sexy Secure Love.

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For the women who are…

• Powerful, high-achieving, emotionally aware—and tired of doing it all

• Ready to stop mothering or managing their man

• Craving polarity, passion, and deep safety in their relationship

• Wanting to support their partner without losing themselves

If you’ve ever searched:

“how to support my partner emotionally”

“what to do when my boyfriend is stressed”

“feminine energy in relationships”

“how to connect with a man emotionally”

“why men shut down when I try to help”

…this one’s for you.

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Mentioned in this podcast:

• Masculine/feminine polarity

• Containment (not suppression!)

• The power of recognition, appreciation, and timing

• Building trust and intimacy without overgiving

The Untamed Moment:

Tell a man in your life something real and encouraging today. Then watch what happens.

#relationshipadviceforwomen #feminineenergy #masculinefemininepolarity #emotionalintimacy #supportingyourman #containment #relationshipcommunication #sacredsass #untamedlove #sexysecurelove

In this episode, we take you behind the scenes on of the calls inside our relationship school for women.

On this call, we dive into the surprising truth about conflict in relationships—it’s not the problem; it’s the solution. Learn how to decode the deeper needs behind recurring arguments, take radical ownership of your part in relational dynamics, and transform conflict into an opportunity for growth, intimacy, and lasting connection.

What We Discussed:

- Why conflict often arises in relationships where we feel the most safe.

- The dynamic balance between individuality and togetherness in love.

- How early attachment patterns shape our relational behaviors.

- Understanding how conflict serves as a distance regulator in relationships.

- Practical steps to shift from blame to radical ownership in conflict resolution.

- The concept of "repetition compulsion" and how it impacts relationships.

- Differentiation and individuation as key skills for relational harmony.

- The power of leading through feminine embodiment and inspiration.

#RelationshipGoals #ConflictResolution #RadicalOwnership #AttachmentStyles #ConsciousRelationships #IntimacyMatters #RelationshipAdvice #LoveAndConnection #SelfAwarenessJourney #PersonalGrowth

Oh the sweet taste of victory after “winning” an argument, having the last word, or being RIGHT! 

This is like sugary candy for the ego, but a mouthful of cavities for the relationship!

In this episode, I’m going to show you how to actually win any argument with your partner (and also how to strengthen your relationship in the process)...

Seems paradoxical right? 

Tune in to learn:

• The 3 key principles to winning any argument
• How to get your man to meet you in the depth of your emotions
• The way to guarantee a happy ending after an argument

The other night, I blocked off 6 hours on my partner’s calendar and titled the event: “King Worship.” 

In this episode, I give you the play-by-play about how I crafted one of the most luxurious, exquisite and intimate night of our lives – tune in to hear all the juicy deets ;)

I also share: 

• What relationships used to look like for me (when I was stuck in old thoughts and patterns)
• How intimacy looks now (hint: It’s SO GOOD ALL. THE. TIME – and it gets to be that way for you too)
• How I went from lots of conflict and fighting in my relationship to feeling like a giddy little girl who adores her man
• Action men and women can take to create the most epic, fulfilling relationships

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Want our help to create your dream love life? 

🧲 FREE workshop for single women who are ready for love: The 4 shifts high-achieving women must make to attract their dream partner: https://www.sexysecurelovecourse.com/

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❣️ Want our mentorship & guidance to attract your forever man ASAP + create your dream relationship? Apply for our mentorship program: https://www.alignedattractionmentorship.com 

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In this episode, I talk about the difference between how men and women like to be loved + what some of our natural responses are to not being loved in the way we desire. 

For many men, respect is the MOST important thing to feel in a relationship, whereas for most women, we want to feel cherished, adored, and unconditionally loved. 

That’s not to say that women don’t need/want to feel respected and men don’t need/want to feel cherished and adored…

But what matters most to each of us is vastly different. 

The faster we can understand this difference as women, and learn to show our men respect (or continue to do so if we already are), the more we will witness our man’s greatest embodiment…

And naturally, we’ll also receive more of the love we desire. 

(Big love to @embodybyjules on Instagram – Her post is what I was reading from for this episode)

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Want our help to create your dream love life? 

🧲 FREE workshop for single women who are ready for love: The 4 shifts high-achieving women must make to attract their dream partner: https://www.sexysecurelovecourse.com/

👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨 Want our step-by-step, DIY system to attract your forever man? Join our membership and get access to all our courses: https://www.skool.com/aligned-attraction/about

❣️ Want our mentorship & guidance to attract your forever man ASAP + create your dream relationship? Apply for our mentorship program: https://www.alignedattractionmentorship.com 

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To learn more about Lee Noto & her work:

Website: https://leenoto.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/leenoto_/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LeeNotoCoach/

YouTube: https://bit.ly/3bPGFvc

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lee-noto/

No woman will ever truly respect a man she has “wrapped around her finger,” or “eating from the palm of her hand…”

These expressions indicate a distorted power dynamic where one person – in this case, the woman – has a sense of control over and could easily manipulate the man she’s dating or in a relationship with. 

And most times, if we want control over something or someone, it’s usually because some part of us doesn’t feel safe, and is trying to engineer a sense of safety by having control. 

But creating this kind of dynamic doesn’t actually get us closer to the love, intimacy and connection we so deeply crave. 

So what does? 

In this episode, I share: 

• Why having control over your man/in the dynamic actually costs you your sense of safety
• The other costs of having “control” (hint: it costs you everything you actually want in love)
• What action steps to take if you want to create a deeper sense of safety within, so it feels natural for you to open your heart to a man you respect and admire

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Want our help to create your dream love life? 

🧲 FREE workshop for single women who are ready for love: The 4 shifts high-achieving women must make to attract their dream partner: https://www.sexysecurelovecourse.com/

👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨 Want our step-by-step, DIY system to attract your forever man? Join our membership and get access to all our courses: https://www.skool.com/aligned-attraction/about

❣️ Want our mentorship & guidance to attract your forever man ASAP + create your dream relationship? Apply for our mentorship program: https://www.alignedattractionmentorship.com 

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To learn more about Lee Noto & her work:

Website: https://leenoto.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/leenoto_/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LeeNotoCoach/

YouTube: https://bit.ly/3bPGFvc

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lee-noto/

It’s anything but easy to be with a dominant, masculine man…

In fact, it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done…

Because I can no longer be inauthentic, hide, or try to get away with not reaching for my highest potential. 

My partner calls me forth into the highest version of myself – the version of me that’s most joyful, most alive, and most turned ON!

Walking the path to embody these things in a world that tells us to turn away, to distract and avoid, and to outsource our power to someone/something else, is NOT for the faint of heart. 

In this episode I share:

• Some of the defining characteristics of a dominant, masculine man
• What the pros and cons are of being in a romantic relationship with one
• A personal story that illustrates what’s possible for me as a woman because my partner embodies a dominant, masculine energy 
• My takeaways from a recent experience that shook me to my core

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Want our help to create your dream love life? 

🧲 FREE workshop for single women who are ready for love: The 4 shifts high-achieving women must make to attract their dream partner: https://www.sexysecurelovecourse.com/

👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨 Want our step-by-step, DIY system to attract your forever man? Join our membership and get access to all our courses: https://www.skool.com/aligned-attraction/about

❣️ Want our mentorship & guidance to attract your forever man ASAP + create your dream relationship? Apply for our mentorship program: https://www.alignedattractionmentorship.com 

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To learn more about Lee Noto & her work:

Website: https://leenoto.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/leenoto_/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LeeNotoCoach/

YouTube: https://bit.ly/3bPGFvc

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lee-noto/

In this episode, I share why having a Dominant/submissive or a Leader/follower dynamic works so well for my partner (type A male) and me (type A female). 

For most of my life, I’ve identified as a high achiever, type A personality woman…

While this was great for my career, it wasn’t great for my romantic relationships (with masculine men)…

Secretly underneath all of my shining leadership qualities, I actually wanted to be led. 

I wanted to follow someone I could trust and surrender to…

I just didn’t know how to do that in dating and love (until I learned how)…

And until I met a man who was trustworthy and worth surrendering to! 

Taking on a surrendered, feminine role in my relationship has been the most liberating, rewarding thing I could choose for myself as a Type A woman. 

In this video, I share a piece of er0tica writing that captures the essence of my relationship dynamic with my partner, and what could be possible for you in your relationships. 

I also give you the 3 ways you can start to feel safe to surrender in your relationship — whether it’s with a man you have yet to meet or your current partner.

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Want our help to create your dream love life? 

🧲 FREE workshop for single women who are ready for love: The 4 shifts high-achieving women must make to attract their dream partner: https://www.sexysecurelovecourse.com/

👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨 Want our step-by-step, DIY system to attract your forever man? Join our membership and get access to all our courses: https://www.skool.com/aligned-attraction/about

❣️ Want our mentorship & guidance to attract your forever man ASAP + create your dream relationship? Apply for our mentorship program: https://www.alignedattractionmentorship.com 

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To learn more about Lee Noto & her work:

Website: https://leenoto.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/leenoto_/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LeeNotoCoach/

YouTube: https://bit.ly/3bPGFvc

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lee-noto/

For most of my life, I really like having the upper hand, being in control, and having a more dominant energy…

It felt like the “independent woman” thing to do and the only way to be, that would actually ensure my safety…

Little did I know just how liberating it would be to learn how to surrender and to consciously choose it inside of a relationship dynamic. 

This has been one of my biggest paths to freedom as a woman – learning how to create enough safety inside of myself, so that I can surrender to the leadership of my masculine partner. 

Now more than ever, I feel relaxed, at ease, radiant, and like my true self. 

In this episode, I share why many Type A women struggle with surrender and conscious submission, what it takes to create it, and why you’d want to be in a submissive role at all! 

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Want our help to create your dream love life? 

🧲 FREE workshop for single women who are ready for love: The 4 shifts high-achieving women must make to attract their dream partner: https://www.sexysecurelovecourse.com/

👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨 Want our step-by-step, DIY system to attract your forever man? Join our membership and get access to all our courses: https://www.skool.com/aligned-attraction/about

❣️ Want our mentorship & guidance to attract your forever man ASAP + create your dream relationship? Apply for our mentorship program: https://www.alignedattractionmentorship.com 

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To learn more about Lee Noto & her work:

Website: https://leenoto.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/leenoto_/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LeeNotoCoach/

YouTube: https://bit.ly/3bPGFvc

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lee-noto/

There’s only one guaranteed way to create the love life you want…

And that’s exactly what I share in this episode…

Plus 4 insanely powerful questions you can ask yourself each day (and before and after each date) that will help you attract men who will cherish and adore you..

And get closer to calling in your forever man! 

(If you know you’re done trying to figure out love on your own, we’re about to open doors to our mentorship program. DM me WAITLIST on Instagram (@LeeNoto_) so you can be notified before everyone else)!

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Want our help to create your dream love life? 

🧲 FREE workshop for single women who are ready for love: The 4 shifts high-achieving women must make to attract their dream partner: https://www.sexysecurelovecourse.com/

👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨 Want our step-by-step, DIY system to attract your forever man? Join our membership and get access to all our courses: https://www.skool.com/aligned-attraction/about

❣️ Want our mentorship & guidance to attract your forever man ASAP + create your dream relationship? Apply for our mentorship program: https://www.alignedattractionmentorship.com 

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To learn more about Lee Noto & her work:

Website: https://leenoto.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/leenoto_/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LeeNotoCoach/

YouTube: https://bit.ly/3bPGFvc

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lee-noto/