Recently I've been more focused on making YouTube Shorts. I likely will return to this podcast too, but at the moment I'm making more content there. If you're interested my channel is @ColRothwell on there.

If you find it really hard to keep up a healthy exercise and/or diet routine then you may be struggling with the key elements of why you do them. In this episode I describe what I believe are the biggest two game changing factors for long term improvement and mental resilience when it comes to healthy routines and how the same elements apply to all changes we make in ourselves.

Right now is a key time for putting focus onto choosing yourself and accepting where you're allowing unhealthy relationships to deplete you before they damage your self worth any more. Face those truths, accept them and then take the action to let them go. Let them go...so you can heal and grow.

As great as it is to learn and grow in various ways, we need to take time for ourselves just to switch off and rest. We also need to remind ourselves how well we've done and get comfortable with where we are now rather than always trying to push on ahead. Also, try to remember that the answers we seek are very rarely found in or from others...the vast majority of them lay deep in ourselves, but we have to take the time to allow ourselves to find them and listen to them naturally.

Are you someone who is triggered easily by other people's comments or do you find yourself either reacting or overthinking what people think when someone has said something about you?

When we take a step back and also realise that aside from the other person usually highlighting their own insecurities by attempting to trigger you, there must also be a reason it touched a nerve, that then allows us to do the work to inspect why that is and where it comes from.

When there is zero truth in what people say about us, it won't trigger us. But when any tiny part of us feels there is an element of truth in what's been said (or our mind tells us we do) that's when we tend to react badly.

This episode touches on this and other things to take into consideration about self esteem, how we perceive ourselves (and how that affects the energy we give off to others) and how to learn to stop allowing anyone to have that power over us.

One thing we humans don't always realise is that we don't own anything. Everything we're lucky enough to have or to get in our lives are simply borrowed.

Whilst this may be a lot to get your head around, it's actually a super comforting thing to understand and will help with a positive mindset of gratitude massively in the long run.

Following on from the last episode, it's also important to realise that grief can be a part of change too. Grief is not just about the death of people but also about the death of who we once were or the people we used to have in our lives that are no longer the same or no longer healthy for us.

A big part of positive and healthy change is still accepting that there will be grief for what you once knew, had or were. It's a difficult thing but knowing, accepting and understanding it can make the transition that bit smoother.

We all can fear change even though for some it's worse than others...but have you ever made positive changes only to still feel off or anxious? Why is it that exciting opportunities can still sometimes feel scary?

The mind will always fear what it can't yet see. Being unhappy and uncomfortable can still feel safe if it's what we know. But the truth is we'll never feel the magic in that place even if we do feel safe.

Learning to sit with these feelings and overcome them is the key. We are not our minds, despite how easy it is to think we are. There's so much more for us beyond what the mind can see and fears. At the end of the day, in order to reach our potential we will always just have to hold on tight through the initial steps being a bumpy ride.

There's no official episode this week due to the fact I very much work to my own schedule and in a flow state rather than forcing anything, plus I've been working through more things myself the past couple of weeks so am allowing myself time to do so.

As there has been times this podcast has gone dormant before I thought I'd post an update just to let people know there is still much more to come, and where I'm at...but we all need time to work on ourselves and take a break too.

We're all in this together and are always all doing the work together (well, those that choose to anyway) don't let the so called gurus that claim to have it all figured out convince you differently!

Today's episode ended up being more talk about healthy or unhealthy relationships and the issues which sometimes lead us to falling into the same behaviour patterns.

I touch on why we can easy find certain relationships or people 'passionate' or 'boring' and be attracted to drama and turbulence subconsciously, even though it's what we don't consciously want.

Other bits include the problem with being a 'nice guy' (or girl) and needy energy, the real damage you cause yourself when keep trying to fix people and accepting less than you want and deserve, the ridiculousness of playing games, 'Treat them mean to keep them keen' overly 'Alpha Male' energy and more...

Note to self for future content, don't do it on an empty stomach 😂