Alive Not Just Breathing

A quick background touch on personal struggles and how we need to take it to the next level of vulnerability as men.

How do we expect to hear answers or advice if we never take a break from the noise to hear? How do you expect to see signs if you don't take a moment to look for them? No matter if we're spiritual, religious or neither...we can't take time to hear/see/figure out solutions if our senses are hammered 24/7...and that includes the distractions that WE choose.

So this feels like the time for this conversation. Sexuality is something which is very easy for us to question, struggle with or have issues around...whether that's in ourselves or with people around us. Today felt like the right time to talk openly and address this subject with personal thoughts and experiences.

Finishing off the long message on letting go. I touch on depression, anxiety, what's wrong in society and how we're taught to live, loneliness etc. Last episode for now until things become clearer. Keep fighting the good fight.

An honest and frank statement about where I'm at and why I'm letting go of a lot of things. We all have things we need to let go of in order to find ourselves again or find ourselves for the first time. The noise is getting heavy right now but I'm hopeful times are changing...

We all want so much for all different reasons. But we live in a world where we're CONSTANTLY being sold all different things under the illusion that they'll make us whole and happy. It's so easy to get lost battling and fighting for all these things we never really needed and don't actually change anything aside from leading us to the next thing we want. If we take a moment to examine what we want and then why we actually want it...it can allow us to really think about if we do need or want it for the right reasons or if we need to think about what we DO actually want or what we need to work on instead.

Currently we're all facing a lot with the way our countries are handling the pandemic and how our media reports it. We're all stressed, anxious and doing our best for ourselves and our loved ones. We fall into battling and blaming each other far too easily...letting ourselves be conned into fighting with each other when we need to pull together more than ever. It's way too easy to let our stress and fear blow out onto those who have different opinions on what to do when they're only coming from the same place in themselves. Different opinions should not be an excuse for wasting energy we need on negative actions. We may not all think and believe the same things but we all only want the best deep down. It's time to see why certain people want us to fight within ourselves and where that energy can be better redirected.

How much do we all put things off until it feels like the perfect time? How often do we hold ourselves back because we're more worried or defeatist about trying to compete with other people than we believe in what we have to share? Everyone in self help and motivation says it these days about taking action now I know, but it's simply the truth. You can plan, you can debate with yourself if it's worth it, you can wait until the time is right or until you have better equipment and all of that...but until you make a start you're just letting the dream die piece by piece. Some of us never recover from that and never end up creating anything. Don't think about that on your deathbed, all that regret. Just make a start now, don't compete...CREATE.

We all have those days where nothing seems to go to plan, where we just don't feel right...and no matter how hard we push we just can't seem to right the ship. The worries I see as issues with this are that some of us will then panic and allow the fear of a bad patch to consume us and easily become a self fulfilling prophecy when it was never any more than a bad day all along. The other is that we can also try SO hard to break the cycle too quickly that we burn out even more and/or make ourselves feel even worse when we're unable to shift our mindset as fast as we'd like. The key is to remind yourself to let go of thinking a bad day is some disaster which will build into a catastrophe. It's simple in theory but when we're surrounded by success and advice, and we push ourselves so hard to keep positive it becomes very easy to forget. So allow yourself a bad day, and let that be all it is.

A lot of us are currently facing having to start afresh in various ways. Thanks to what we've all been living through since early 2020, some of us have had to literally start over from scratch. When our lives change drastically or unexpected events take us right back to the beginning, we can feel lost, angry, hopeless and confused. It can be very easy to just sink and not know how to get up. But it's also a fresh opportunity. It's a chance to rebuild, to maybe build a whole new life and experience all new things that we'd never dreamed of previously. Starting over can be hard but it can also be incredibly rewarding and lead to a whole new outcome and experiences.