Your girl is on Bumble and LOVING it. This is the best online dating run I’ve ever had. Hot men, smart men, sparkly bantery connections, down to earth people. It’s so nice. But I’ve also been on a date with a guy who refused to take off his sunglasses during the entire date! And the other guy who called my spirituality pagan LOL. That went nowhere. I’m experiencing a lot and seeing the fruits of all the work I’ve put into my growth coming to bear in how I show up and who I match with.

Part 1 is about the SA online dating market, my approach to Bumble this time around and my worst dates.

Part 2 is about the awesome connections, how Bumble is both triggering my insecurities and revealing how much I’ve grown.

I’m single at 39 and spent most of my 20s and 30s feeling ashamed at “not being able to make love work” and falling prey to all the ways that society tells a woman she’s at fault or less-than if no one has chosen her. Even though I never lacked marriage options and proposals, relationships never stuck for me. Discovering and unpacking my trauma and learning what my soul’s intention is for this lifetime (my dharma) has brought me peace, self-forgiveness and an empowered way forward.

I started a podcast. It's hilarious because I already have one - but this one is different. On this pod, I'm talking about what life means and how we live well. I'm chatting about spirituality, personal development, what I'm learning about life and what I'm experiencing e.g., visiting a shaman for the first time, joining Bumble for the Nth time... It's casual, fun and easy conversation and sometimes it gets deep when things don't make sense or life gets hard. In this episode, I'm informally introducing myself and talking about all of the above plus a bit of my story. Welcome! :)

I had an existential crisis in December 2022 and it led to the most paradigm shifting realisation that love isn't real... well what we think love is is not what love actually is. And if love isn't what we think it is, is finding, being and dwelling in love the main point of life? If it isn't, then what is?

Deep questions.